What Ifs

[Eliza]

Ok...I'm drinkin and thinkin...and in a slightly melancholy mood...thinking, as people do sometimes while drunk... about the one big "What If" in my life....the other path I could have chosen, but didn't... Help me feel not so silly...

What's the "What If"? you have in your life? Do you often think about it? If not..what helped you get past it?

~Eliza

[Steph]

No "what ifs" for me just "what's next"?

[Oldfart]

What ifs are great to explore,

but what we did made us who we are now,

and that's more important to explore.

[Catch22]

You are doing all the what ifs in a parallel universe.

[White Noise]

What ifs are pretty bloody dangerous. They can quickly start to dominate our thinking if we allow it.

So my advice is - don't think about it. The decision you made was the right one at the time. If it wasn't you can't change it.

Don't look back, look forward.

[Oldfart]

Catch 22,

Parallel universes are an interesting "what if" in their own right.

String theory (superstring?) and the Dark Matter hypothesis seem

to rule them out.

[Catch22]

Originally posted by Oldfart
Catch 22,

Parallel universes are an interesting "what if" in their own right.

String theory (superstring?) and the Dark Matter hypothesis seem

to rule them out.

Yes, the 11 dimensions and super string has now been updated to add and extra dimension. It was 10 in string. They think parallels are there and that is why atoms blink. They are in more then one at a time. The call it the membrane theory.

[Oldfart]

Catch 22,

I had thought the strings and branes were used as a functional

analogy in the argument over whether the speed of gravitational

effect (speed of gravity) exceeds the speed of light.

Damn, gotta do some more reading.

Bloody what ifs. . . .

[LixyChick]

Here's one!

What if............

on the day you discovered Pixies........you were actually on vacation and away from a computer?

*shudders to think about it*

Oh hell.......it was fate anyway! I would have discovered Pixies another day!

((((((Eliza)))))) I hope that today looks brighter for you! Alcohol and "what if's" don't go well together....lol! PM me anytime if you need a shoulder!

[Lilith]

((Eliza)) I have a couple 389573495375 what ifs but I don't let them creep into my thoughts too often. Instead I use those instances to make better choices today.

What If...

I had gotten the scholarship I wanted and had gone away to a northern college like I had planned?

I hadn't had to look up Lilith in Mythology?

I had done something different in regards to my son's birth?

I had bought the other house I was looking at when I bought mine?

I ever decide to make the trip North?

I murderize my son before he officially becomes a teenager?

he had met me on that weekend?

What Ifs can swing both ways so they sometimes make you feel grateful about the choices you made.

[Nice Guy]

I only have one "what if" that I think about. I used to think about it a lot, but as the years march forward it is slowly moving to the back of my mind.

What if.... I had the courage to tell my friend that I would be with her and that she should have her child and I would take care of them both.

Now just so you all don't think I'm a cad, the child wasn't mine. We were both 17 at the time and as it turned out she had an abortion. I still care very much about her but she has a husband and a family now. That is my only What if.

[BIBI]

My "what ifs" are filed with my..."shoulda, coulda" files :)

And I was always lousy at filing! :)

[jennaflower]

NO MORE what if's I SAY... NO MORE... I have kicked them to the curb... I ain't gonna waste any of my thoughts... on what could have been... instead I shall begin concentrating on what WILL be.. :)

How's that for a positive outlook (I know.. I know.. rather shocking coming from me)!!!!

[Scorp]

theres still a big what if in my life right now. i'm just trying to think that if it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be. but thats where the 'what if' kicks in. how life would be so great. i know its just because i'm living in the moment right now so that its hard to see past the cloud. more and more as i walk forward however, am i able to look in the past with smiles then sorrows of 'what ifs'. they still creep up as one of the last thoughts in your head before you go to sleep tho.

[BIBI]

Originally posted by jennaflower
NO MORE what if's I SAY... NO MORE... I have kicked them to the curb... I ain't gonna waste any of my thoughts... on what could have been... instead I shall begin concentrating on what WILL be.. :)

How's that for a positive outlook (I know.. I know.. rather shocking coming from me)!!!!

Just file them with mine Jenna.......they will never be found again!

Keep those positive vibes buzzing!!! ;)

[Eliza]

Thank you all for your replies...and the hugs. Lixy you're right..alcohol and 'what if's" do not go together. lol..In a sober frame of mind I know I made the right decision. I have always said the things that you go through in your life are what make you who are today. And I kinda like me..and wouldn't wanna be someone else... It's hard though, when that "what if" pops into your mind... But Lilith, you're absolutely right..looking at things from that perspective helps. One thing I like to do is when I have a "what if" or a "coulda been"..when I'm pondering those annoying little forks in the road, is to reflect on all things I wouldn't be..people I wouldn't know..or places I'd not have gone had I not taken the path I chose. Geeze...what the hell would I be doing with my life had I not decided to sit down at the puter the day I found Pixies..lol. Seriously though...even finding this site has changed my life..just one of the things being helping me decide what I want to do with the rest of life....write. So anyway...lol enough of my blathering...

(((hugs))) to you all
~Eliza

[cowgirltease]

He he he...If my aunt had balls she would be my uncle! :p :D :jester: