virginity...

[eliza261]

i know that we are supposed to wait and everything but i get asked @ 20 why i am still a virgin.. my answer is generally that i still havent had a realy bf who i would want to..
but its almost like there is such an importance placed on virginity and all of that stuff.. its insane.. i dont know how many of my fiends arent any more but it is prob slim to none that i am the only virgin.. a part of me wants to remain a virgin till i get married and another part wants me to find a man and get laid..
but i was the same with drinking till this weekend and then i got drunk and didnt like it as much... damn watered down drinks.. but would it be the same as with sex?? i just dont know..its frusterating because if i was to have sex then who ever i do ti with will be getting my virginity.. and that is something that i wanna save.. isnt there a way to save virginity and all its wonders and just has raw animal sex??? just a thought..
thanks for reading.. i dont know if any of my first posts are making a degree of sense but this is how i feel//
thanks for reading..
-Eliza

[Catch22]

You will remember the first one for the rest of your life. Good or bad. And you do not have to have intercourse to have a good time anyhow. When your ready, your ready and doves will fly and little angels sing. :)

[Grumble]

I do understand your feelings. Save your virginity for someone who is special to you and who cares for you. Sharing your intimacy with only special people rather than just anyone will make sex more than an act of lust, but an act of love.

[Eliza]

Welcome to Pixies! And from one Eliza :D to another...I agree that you should wait. But not necessarily till you get married. I've never been a real advocate for all that. Don't just go out and get laid just to get laid. In the end you will regret making that decision. Virginity is a special thing, that you should wait to bestow upon some who is worthy of it. Someone who will realy appreciate the gift you give him..and make it an experience for you. It may not the the man you marry...and that's okay too. But you want to look back on your first time with wonderfull memories, not regrets. It's really the partner you choose that makes the sex great...so..as they say...choose wisely. :D

(((hugs))) Good Luck and again Welcome. :D
~Eliza

[jseal]

eliza261,

Eliza’s ^^^^^^^^^^^ got it.

[OzKristin]

i'm 19..i waited until i just turned 17, and about3-4 months w/my first real boyfriend....he knew I was "on the V team" and didn't pressure me, made me feel special and waited until one night when i was ready...it was a great experience..and I haven't ever forgotten about it....I'm still with him now (almost 2 1/2 yrs)
i do think that while you're in a committed relationshp, sex brings you closer, and shows how intimate and emotional etc. the other person can be...just my own opinion, but there is "that whole other part" of being in a relationship (before marriage etc. as well) and I think it would be a shame to not see "that other side" of your bf or gf if you waited until after marriage

[osuche]

First, you should wait until your head and your heary tell you that you're ready. Second, you should pick a man you feel comfortable with -- who you care about and who cares about you. Third, you should act with caring and integrity, so you don't ever regret a single moment of the experience.

The man I shared my virginity with -- when I was 13 -- was my boyfriend and best friend. While we're no longer romantically involved, we're still the closest of friends. And I've never regretted sharing that experience with him -- not for a single moment.

I wish the same for you -- that you have a good experience (when you're ready) and that you never regret your decision. Best of luck!

[Nice Guy]

Don't feel pressured into do anything before you are ready. I was almost 21 before I had sex for the first time. It was with a girl I was having an end of summer fling with. We don't even talk anymore and frankly I wish I hadn't done it. It didn't mean anything because I was with somebody I didn't truly care for.

[PantyFanatic]

Welcome to Pixies eliza261 .:) Anything that is a ONCE in a lifetime occurrence DOES deserve consideration. “Our” Eliza gave you gave you advise that should be taken to heart.

I second it and encourage you to read around this board for MANY good threads on this subject. A quick search here will give you days of reflection, but not as much as your first experience will.;)

[ChinesePussy]

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[Mercury_Maniac]

hi Eliza261,


i'm a virgin too,

wanna hook up?

just kidding, when the time is right you should know when its time for the first, well at least thats what i keep telling myself

[SuzyQ]

Everyone is saying wait, till your head and heart, tell you..and they are right. I did not wait and it was horrible...took me almost 2 years to get over. The most important thing is, for me, that he cares for you, and that you are sure of that.

[PantyFanatic]

In short- I'd say that if the love ever is more important than the lust....... that's the one.;)

[hexalite2001]

Well... I had a girlfriend and we did a lot of things, except intercourse. I'm still a virgin at 19. You can still have an amazing time without having intercourse, by doing everything else. I disagree and agree with OzKristin; you can get closer having sex, but you don't necessarily have to have intercourse to prove your love for someone.

I recently broke up with my girlfriend but I am glad I didn't give her my virginity. It made me realize that the whole sex thing is so overrated and that I'm going to wait for someone who I know will be there for me in my future to do it with. While you’re in a relationship you get caught up in the heat of the moment and you lose perspective on things.

Being a male and saying that is hard enough in this sex obsessed society. But I think it's worth it in the end, and the woman I am with will appreciate that I’ve waited, that’s the real proof of love.

In comparison, I get compliments from men and woman alike who are amazed that I've never smoked a cigarette or weed before in my life. I still have no desire to ever try.

[Mercury_Maniac]

well i hope your right,


"In comparison, I get compliments from men and woman alike who are amazed that I've never smoked a cigarette or weed before in my life. I still have no desire to ever try."

i've never done those either, but i don't get many compliments for not doing them

[hexalite2001]

You need to let more people know then... you'd be amazed how many people are impressed by that sort of thing. That's how I scored my first girlfriend and she stopped smoking becuase she saw the strength I had and applied it to herself. Even though we broke up, she still dosen't smoke.