Long, lost________

[Lilith]

A post that Teddy bear made in another thread made me think about this...



Is there someone you have lost contact with that you wish you knew where they were or how they were? Was it a childhood friend or an old lover? Who do you wish you could catch up with or just know if their life turned out as they had hoped or as you expected?

[LixyChick]

Oh gawd Lilith! This one is so close to my heart! Don't fret.....it's not a bad thing for me! It's just something I've wished since the day I let him go!

My son.........I'd love for his parents to allow me to see him once. I've had contact with his mother and she was very protective of him (as it should be)........but I would love her to trust me enough to know that I would never do a thing to harm him or their lives........but just have a chance to see him physically......and even if he never knew me......just to tell him how proud I am of his life and accomplishments! And maybe.......just maybe....a whisper that I've loved him and will always love him! That would be all I would want!

[Ryan²]

Lilith, you asked "someone" - I have many that I would love to re-find, both male and female.

[dm383]

Originally posted by LixyChick
Oh gawd Lilith! This one is so close to my heart! Don't fret.....it's not a bad thing for me! It's just something I've wished since the day I let him go!

My son.........I'd love for his parents to allow me to see him once. I've had contact with his mother and she was very protective of him (as it should be)........but I would love her to trust me enough to know that I would never do a thing to harm him or their lives........but just have a chance to see him physically......and even if he never knew me......just to tell him how proud I am of his life and accomplishments! And maybe.......just maybe....a whisper that I've loved him and will always love him! That would be all I would want!


I wish I COULD do that Lixy....... and if I have one regret in life, it's that I DIDN'T!!! Too late now though! (You know about that, right??)

DM

[celticangel]

Hugs to DM and Lixyxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[LixyChick]

I know about "that" (((((((dm))))))))! Yes, I know hun! They know too.....I just have to believe that somehow they know!

TY (((((((CA)))))))))......but I'm ok! It's just a passing fancy (that I think of daily)......and I'll be ok in knowing he is loved no matter what!

[osuche]

Lixy and DM...any request that I could make pales in comparison to yours.

I add *my* wish...to see your wishes come true. Some day...

[Steph]

At the same time, I just received paperwork from the government last month. They are finally ready to begin searching for my biological mother.

[LixyChick]

((((((((Steph)))))))))

I wish you all the luck and happy endings! Or should I say beginnings? All my best wishes to in your search!

(((((((osuche))))))....TY hun! TY!

[Grumble]

There was a woman I loved named Tessa abourt 20 years ago,

It was not long after the therapy I had been having to overcome childhood abuse and gang rape at 16 which stuffed my head so much for many years.

I met Tessa through a dating agency and she was everything that I ever wanted. She was intelligent, passionate and quite beautiful, I was very surprised she was interested in me.

She was very insecure after having had an abusive relationship. I suspect it was much worse than she ever told me.

She was very skittish about a lot of things and I did not read her very well, she was my first long term girlfriend and I was 30 years old. She eventually sent me a letter telling me she couldn't see me anymore because of her emotional state and not because of me.

Well I lamely accepted it and didn't keep trying and I have regretted it ever since.

About 6 years ago I met her in the Brisbane Street mall. We chatted and then had a cup of coffee together. She told me she was still alone and in all that time I was the only man that had touched her heart and she had been going through a bad time then. She told me that she had often wished we had gone further in our relationship.

by the time she had got in a right frame of mind I was married. I now think that I married my wife on the rebound of losing Tessa.

She has moved interstate and has no relatives left locally as her parents have both passed on and her brother moved when i knew her.

I would put Tessa in the category of the one that got away and I think that my life would have been a great deal happier had I had the tenacity that I have now.

Dear Lixy i feel for you Hun and any others in the same position I send you warm vibes

Grumble

[dm383]

Originally posted by osuche
Lixy and DM...any request that I could make pales in comparison to yours.

I add *my* wish...to see your wishes come true. Some day...


Thank you, osuche (((HUGS))) ..... unfortunately, for me that WON'T be possible..... my (first) daughter died just over six years ago.

Lixy, on the other hand; my motto in life is "Never say NEVER", and applies to EveryThing!! :) One day...... :)

DM

[Mae]

My very best friend in high school. We were friends for 10 years. I ended up marrying her husband. (No, I didn't steal him.) She just cut off all contact. She was a sister I never had. I still miss her. I was part of her family and almost married her brother. I always hoped she would be okay.

[jennaflower]

Yes.. I think that we all have "that one"...

Mine lives in Northern Louisiana... not far from Shreveport... married.. several kids... the love of my life... he would be the one..


(p.s. any cajun pixies out there willing to give me a hand?) LOL

[cowgirltease]

mine is an old lover from 20 years ago I heard called a friend not long ago lookin for me. He lives in Iowa. Yeah, I'm curious......:D

[White Noise]

I guess I have a bit of a different approach to this one. I'm of the opinion that if people from my past wanted me to know how they were doing they would make some effort to contact me and vice versa.

I wish them all well but sometimes catching up with old friends can be disappointing - especially childhood friends - because we change so much. Sometimes it is better to remember them (and the friendship) as it was, rather than catch up and find out that it isn't as you remembered. Or worse still, they have turned into complete asses!! Or you have.

When it comes to old flames, well, that is water under the bridge. Our lives have moved on, for better and worse. I'm a big believer in 'the past is the past'.

If the friendship was that good we'd still be friends. I realise that sometimes there are circumstances that take people away from us that we have no control over - but then again, wouldn't we have kept in control if we were true friends?

Sorry if I seem cynical but that is the way I feel about it. I certainly don't mean to make anyone upset if I seem somewhat cold about it or unfeeling. That isn't my intention. It is just the way I look at things.

"Never look back, always look forwards"

[Mae]

White Noise - No offense, here. I have relatives and friends that don't keep in touch. I gave up trying many years ago. I have a small print on my desk of a girl taking a path that says "Your Life". She's coming from a path marked "The Past - No Longer An Option". I've kept that with me for many years. The way I see it... The past may tug at your heart and emotions; you may want to revisit it; but it will never be the same way it was. You cannot go back and bring it forward. Look ahead at the possibilities and make your life as close as possible to the way you want it to be. (Stepping off soap box.)

[White Noise]

Mae - no offense taken, that was pretty much what I was driving at.

About the only thing I may take offense at is that maybe you didn't read what I wrote carefully enough. *LOL*