Same old pussy? Same old cock?

[BlueSwede]

I asked this question a long time ago and want to ask it again. A male friend of mine insists that no matter how good the pussy, as he puts it, and now matter how great the sex is w/that person, all long-time partners will eventually get tired of eating, fucking, fingering, etc. the same pussy and will want to graze in other pastures--if only to discover or be reminded that the pussy at home is actually pretty damned good after all. Is this true? Do all long-term monogamous partners end up wanting to have sex w/others? :(

[PantyFanatic]

I'm not sure what "old pussy & cock" is. I've never seen any in the junk yard.:rolleyes:

[LixyChick]

Very interesting question BlueSwede! If I could presume to speak for my husband (beings this seems to be directed to the male sex) I would say.......he would say......Yes and No.

I think he would have a go with another woman to "get something new" if he knew he had my official okie dokie.....but I doubt he would go off on his own in search of greener pastures. I'm not being naive here....I just know my husband....and he wouldn't be adverse to being with another woman.....but he'd love it if I were included in the equation. If the situation arose for him to have another and I wasn't there......I don't think he would do it just to do it.

Now...as I said...I am presuming to speak for him....and I could ask him (tomorrow when he wakes)......but I'm nearly 100% positive I am right about this. But.........I did say "nearly 100%"..........so there is a chance I could be wrong!

[eyesopen]

Have gone to the greener pastures and dam it was good. Wish I did not have to would like to have this at home

[Steph]

The grass is always greener, no matter what the subject. Better house, better car, better clothes, better sex.

[dm383]

From MY experience; the grass almost always LOOKS greener, and the sex may even BE better....... but for most of us, there is SO much more to lose!!

Then the question becomes ~ is it WORTH it??

DM

[osuche]

I second DM's statements. There are times when having sex with someone else sounds very appealing -- it's easy to get into a rut in your relationship and want something that's just different to what you've been experiencing.

However, at the end of the day...everyone needs someone to come home to. You know, the person who makes all the BS in life worthwhile. And that person isn't likely to be your fling...

[WildIrish]

If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence...



it's time to water your lawn!


That having been said, I'd love to hop the fence and plow that pasture like a John Deere! That doesn't mean I'm tired of my own yard though.

[cowgirltease]

I love the way you put that WI.

[WildIrish]

You just like it cause I talk about tractors. I know how you country girls are. ha ha

[SuzyQ]

The pastures look greener but they are so complicated, (speaking from experience) And I hate sneaking. And Lixy, I think the temptation to have extracarriclular activites applies to both sexes.

[Loki]

For myself, no. I side with the water the grass clan. I wouldn't have that desire myself. One woman is more than sufficient. My side of the fence suits me just fine.

Yet, since I own a tractor of a different color, (mine is blue). I would readily support a partner who felt the freedom to sample the fertilizers in use across the fence.

[WildIrish]

Originally posted by Loki
Yet, since I own a tractor of a different color, (mine is blue). I would readily support a partner who felt the freedom to sample the fertilizers in use across the fence.

Are you offering to let me plow the neighbor's field with your tractor? :D

[SexKing]

its much better to have loads of different people because that way you are happy.

variety is the spice of life

[Loki]

Originally posted by WildIrish
Are you offering to let me plow the neighbor's field with your tractor? :D

No. Not quite. The neighbor's field is not mine to offer. You would need to speak to them. However, if you wish to borrow the tractor, that is a different question.

[WildIrish]

Here's a question to make you think...

If I "plowed someone's field" with Loki's tractor...who'd be the one cheating?

But now I've got a new expression! "I wouldn't plow her field with Loki's tractor!" :)

[Loki]

LOL Most inspired. A great line !

[Ryan²]

Old cock and pussy may be "old" as some people describe it (odd, but there you have it folks) but to me it's talent and performance. Ask yourself this: Is my partner as good now as he/she was many many years ago? If yes, then it's not old cock 'n' pussy,

[sillyme]

I think it is only natural for people to think about "plowing another field with Loki's tractor". After awhile, things can get into a rut. I tend to like my ruts thank you and need periodically to be reminded to come out of them.

At the same time, if you are in a committed relationship, unless it happens to be of the open variety - I am a firm believer in look but don't touch.

[osuche]

<-- Is currently having a moment when thoughts of having my field plowed by another tractor doesn't sound too bad.

:D

Willpower, please!

[Lilith]

Willpower is over-rated;)










Did I say that outloud?:D

[Tess]

As a former farmer, I have some insight into this.

It's really not the tractor, it's who is driving the tractor. Tractors are pretty much the same. Some are heavy duty, some have more fuel capacity, some have large wheels,... well, you catch the drift. All of them can plow a field, and most of them do a good job at tilling the soil.

The mastery of the driver is what is at issue here. You can always just furrow in a straight line, but agriculture experts agree that for each field, you change the direction on alternate years, and some years, you let the field grow over to enrich the soil. Soil is a very delicate balance, and needs to be fertilized, hoed on a regular basis, and watered very generously.

My suggestion is learn to do crop circles. That gets everyone's attention, and puts a whole new look on that same field.

[BlueSwede]

Thank you, everybody, for your responses. I just found my friend's statements to be very depressing. I don't see why anyone would bother to commit to a LTR if they DO believe that they will get tired of their partner's body before too long. He also believes that you shouldn't have to work at a relationship. I totally disagree there, too. I think a couple will be more likely to get bored w/each other if they don't make a concerted effort to keep their relationship alive and thriving. I'm a firm believer in the saying if the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence, try watering your own lawn.

[Oldfart]

Most people crave novelty, regardless of how good it is at home.

That is why married people go to strange places to pretend that

there is something different happening.

The grass IS always greener over the septic tank, and there is always

a possibility of falling in.

Personal call.

[Lilith]

<~~~~~ is wondering if Oldfart just called me a septic tank:D:D:p

[Aurora]

Originally posted by WildIrish
If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence...

it's time to water your lawn!

Then it's high time, I would say ;)

But better late than never, no question.

Best, I think, is to keep the grass watered all the time, from the beginning - and I know it's possible. It's up to behave the same you did in the beginning of the relasionship.

At least for me it worked, for almost 10 years now ;)

[WildIrish]

Hmmmmm, now I'm thinking.

How do I know that my lawn is green because of my sprinkler and not from Tru-Green Chem Lawn?

And is it a crime that if while watering my grass...my sprinkler oversprays and hit's the neighbor's lawn?

[BlueSwede]

I totally agree, Aurora.

[BlueSwede]

I understand what you are saying, OldFart, but I still think it is rather depressing. I also think that is why it IS extremely important, as Aurora said, to always be working at keeping the relationship as alive as possible. You may not still feel that same feeling of lust that you did on day 1, but hopefully your love has deepened and you have become creative in ways to keep you interested in what you have at home. Plus, yes, the grass may actually be greener over the septic tank; there will always be people out there who we think are sexually attractive, but is it worth stepping in septic tank doo-doo to experience that green grass? Is what you have at home worth jeopardizing to experience it? Well, I am getting away from my original question of whether your partner's body always has to become old hat.

Thanks for giving your insight into it; I appreciate it. :)

[ericthered]

I know it's the same cock and the same pussy - but the same thoughts apply to eating. We don't stop eating a great filet mignon just because we've eaten thousands in the past. Thank God! Imagine having to go out hunting each time you wanted to get laid.

But we are naturally blessed with a great curiosity about other cocks and pussies. That's natural - even President jimmy Carter admitted to it - so there's no need to get up tight about what exactly is hidden in those tight pants. So when-ever I find a hot, wet blond in my hotel bed, I know just what to do. But I don't go out looking for something extra - no-one knows my cock as well as Milady and she does it best. Of course, if she were to bring an extra pussy (or cock) home as a temporary sex-toy, I will be delighted to join in the fun.

[jseal]

BlueSwede,

I feel that the accumulated values of a long-term relationship tip the scales away from a transient, or even several transient relationships. There is much attractive flesh out there, and some of it may be within reach. I think that those who stretch out their hand to grasp it run the risk of letting their plans, partner and perhaps children slip out of the other.

In strictly business terms, the liabilities, both emotional and financial, outweigh the potential benefits of enjoying an alternative to what you have enjoyed in the past. Sticking with the business model, perhaps it depends upon the level of investment the partners have made in the existing relationship. If both, or either, discounts the value of the other, it becomes easier to look for value elsewhere.

[denny]

No matter how attractive the neighbor's fields are, I want to keep my farm, if you get my meaning. I would jump at the chance to help out the farmette owner next door as long as I didn't neglect my crops. So before you saddle up your Cockshutt, make sure that your fields sre well tended.

[flutelady]

It's easy....very easy... to be attracted and tempted by a hot body and a pleasing face. But those things are just a person's glove. I love my man's glove, but more than that I love and respect the hand that lives within that glove. I'd never do anything to jeopardize our relationship. He stimulates me in every way.... he knows full well that the brain is the largest sex organ and keeps my brain well exercised, lol.

We've both been around the block a few times and been hurt a few times. We cherish the relationship we have, particularly the level of trust we've found. I'll not do anything to fuck it up.

[Oldfart]

Lilith S.G. O'Pixies

How could you possibly think that... (cough) .. (splutter)..

I know that we Aussies call Americans Septic Tanks in jest

(rhymes with Yanks), but never....(um).. well hardly... (gasp)..

not without a suitable bunker to hide in.

[Grumble]

Beat me to it OF LOL

Often heard the expression "trust the septics to do that"

septic tank = rhyming slang for Yank (which is a broadbrush descrition for all americans, not just the northern states)

Another saying that was a bit sensitive for our american cousins was the term used in the services as U/S - Unserviceable. That was frowned upon but it is still in common use in British & Australian service lingo. It had absolutely nothing to do with the United States BTW.

[cowgirltease]

No this is not true!! It's usually a breakdown of communication between the two. People just like to blame their problems on things other than the obvious! If you get bored ... Do something different!:rolleyes:

[Lilith]

Originally posted by Oldfart
Lilith S.G. O'Pixies

How could you possibly think that... (cough) .. (splutter)..

I know that we Aussies call Americans Septic Tanks in jest

(rhymes with Yanks), but never....(um).. well hardly... (gasp)..

not without a suitable bunker to hide in.

Funny how that tongue can get you both into and out of a predicament;):D