Girl troubles.

[brackish]

Alright. i'm back again. This time I am requesting some advice from my fellow Pixies. A lot of you know about my recent problems with a certain young woman. IE Aus, Lil, CGT have listened to me go on and on about her.
Little history, Talked for 2 years, she came to see me in September, stayed for 12 days, ran home, we broke up, fought and blahblahblah. Well she called me to apologize and said everything is her fault and she wants me back and still loves me. I have come to realize how much I reallt do still love her and that if we did get back together how much better I would feel. I have been depressed lately and things aren't going my way, I just feel that if her and I got back together that everything else would fall into place.
I just need some advice because I feel completely lost and just need some input.
Thanks.

[Belial]

Well, it seems like getting back together with her would be a good thing. But, I'd advise working on the depression in such a way that if you broke up again, it wouldn't come back with a vengeance...if that makes any sense. The other thing is that I don't really understand how these "other things" - and I'm not sure what they even are - would fall into place. Possibly the relationship would give you the confidence to make them fall into place, but as I said, I wouldn't make that confidence too tightly coupled to the relationship once you've gained it.

Hope that made sense and was helpful.

[jennaflower]

brackish... happiness is within.. and until you are happy alone... I don't think that the happiness brought on by another will last..... I urge you to deal with other aspects of your life first... end your depression... and THEN everything will fall into place.... and that my include having this lady in your life :)

Hugs

[Steph]

Definitely what Jenna said!

Don't ever rely on someone else for your happiness. If you're depressed, you should deal with that first. A significant other can enrich your life but they're not a piece of the puzzle that is needed for everything else to fall into place.

My advice is to stay single for a while.

[brackish]

Ok, maybe depressd was too strong a term for what I am feeling. Perhaps I should have said more confused then anything. I am still in love with her, its just hard being so far apart. If I could I would move where she is tomorrow.

[pinkbutton]

I think u should give it another go with her and see how things work out. You obviously want to get back together with her i think so just giove it another go.

[brackish]

BUMP!

[Steph]

Come on, man! Give us an update. What's new in your life? Anything?

You're still looking for advice here?

[brackish]

Just to let people know. I HAVE DITCHED THE BITCH!
She gave me some bullshit about until I moved there she wanted to date ther guys. And she actually told me about fooling around with this guy behind the back of a guy she was "dating". She almost had sex with him. So much for being in love with me eh?
Now she is all pissed cause I have an online sweetie. She said she hates that but would have no problem if I went and slept with some woman here. Yeah right! Anyway, I am free of her now. Good Riddence. If I ever think of seeing her agan I hope my fellow Pixies will kick my ass! LOL

[Loulabelle]

LOL - way to go Brackish!

I'm a strong believer that you cannot truly be in love with someone until you have spent A LOT of time actually with them (virtual relationships give you a taste, but you never really know what someone's like until you share the same toothpaste.)

[Oldfart]

Brackish,

Good one.

Just remember you need to be happy with you before you can

be truly happy with anyone else.