Stupid, crazy or fun...what do you think?

[Raymond4fun]

Let me begin by saying I have decline the offer. However, I am curious about others attitude to this situation.

I am single. Today an attractive MARRIED woman I WORK with took me to lunch and asked me, almost point blank if I was interested in messing around.

I was nice but declined. What would you have done in my situation?

Thanks

Ray

[Lilith]

I would not have taken no for an answer;):D

[Mercury_Maniac]

well i wouldn't have declined right away


i would have definitely maybe gone for it


but who knows, you most likely did the right thing

the first decision is usually the best one

[Sharni]

To me fucking around with a married partner is not worth the hassle or heartbreak that can occur...i would have declined

[Navarre]

Originally posted by Sharniqua
To me fucking around with a married partner is not worth the hassle or heartbreak that can occur...i would have declined


Boy did you ever hit the nail on the head!

[hexalite2001]

I would have declined

[Prophet Reality]

Not sure if I would have said no right away. I am the super curious type, and would have asked questions to get a feel for the reason behind the offer. Then made my decision. But that is just me!

[NightRider]

Back in my younger days I too would have declined. However, now with more experience and wisdom under the belt. I would have said "Hell Yes!" <grin>

[Virgin Teen]

Personally, I wouldn't want to get involved with someone that was married. The fantasy is all very nice to think about, but just imagine the consequences...

Firstly, in your case, what if the husband were to find out somehow? Secondly, there's the chance of attachment. As it'd be a fling, I expect she just wants to have some fun but it can be easy to form a relationship. I know if I were having a fling then I imagine I'd start to get feelings for the married man. And the other way round, you may expect just a good time but what if she decided she wanted more than just sex?

So to cut a long explanation short (lol, too late), I don't think it's worth the pain it can eventually cause. Besides, if I were the married person, I wouldn't want my husband to go cheat on me...

[Steph]

I've been with a lot of people but always avoided the married types. I can't say I'd never date a married guy but the attraction would have to be really incredible.

[Casperr]

I agree with Prophet Reality - I'd have asked some questions first. For example, if her husband was ok with it, and they have an open relationship or whatever, then it might be ok. Or if they were swingers, etc.
But if it was a clandestine thing, I'd decline tactfully and let her know that she could be seriously jeopardising her marriage by pursuing that line of thought.

CasperTG

[Lilith]

Originally posted by CasperTG
...I'd decline tactfully and let her know that she could be seriously jeopardising her marriage by pursuing that line of thought.

CasperTG

You know married people seeks affairs all the time and often not for sex. That may be the guise or rationalization but truth be told, they may just want out and are too intimidated or insecure to just do it on their own.

[ericthered]

I'd go with Sharniqua - NO CHANCE! And she's a work-colleague too!

However ------ my iron resolve might bend a little if and only if her hubby was joining in the fun. If I was single, that would make everything OK for me - even the work issue. As I'm married, I would now be scheming frantically to get her, the hubby, Milady and me into the same bed ..... dream on!

[Neige]

I would've declined as well - I agree with Sharni. However, had the person been single (;)'s to lake) it would've been a different story :lust:

[dicksbro]

I also would have declined. I think you did the right thing.

[Cheyanne]

Decline - wouldn't interest me a bit.

[Scarecrow]

Casper brings up some interestiong points. :jedi:

[nikki1979]

well in my dating days when i wasnt looking fora relationship i really didnt care wether i worked them them or they were married (never both tho, i usualy knew the wives of coworkers and even if i disliked them i cuddnt have gone there ) my feeling on the coworker bit was can they shut up abput it , if htey cud it was all good, i never got attqached real easy so i had no probs when he and i went our seprate ways and still saw each other almost daily. and wrong or not i have been w married guys i was 20 when i stoped that ( i met jeeping wheni was 20 BTW) and my thing on married guys was , is there a chance in hell ill even meet the wife? no then ok , yes then get the hell away from me man LOL like i said i didnt attach to easily so it wasnt to much of a problem for me when it was over , most of the time it was me ending the relation ships first.wrong or not that was me, id like to say i did it cuz i was young and nieve, but no it was becuse i was young and horney !!!!!!!!
~nikki~

[zipededoo]

I'd have declined... but not necessarily because she was married, but because you work with her. If it gets messy, then you still have to work with her. So much to go wrong there.

Zipper xxx

[BlueSwede]

What Sharni said and because it's a co-worker. Both things being bad news.

[Ryan²]

Jeez, Ray, you should've passed her over to me.

Still any chance of doing that?

[Raymond4fun]

Seems that most had a similar take on the situation.

UKg2 - you are much more bold than I. Shame I cant schedule a coffee for you two.

Cheers

:)

[celticangel]

if the person is married or in a committed relationship, etc etc etc~~~~~~~~run away and don't look back until in a safe position!!!!!!!!!