Best way to hookup?

[NightRider]

Hello, I'm a long time lurker. I've done a lot of reading of posts and looking of pictures and have trully been enjoying it all.

Question for the group, what have you found to be the best way to get some strange? Yes I am married, but the wife doesn't share my interests in the bedroom. There are so many things I want to do and try, but need to find a willing partner. I live in the northern portion of Puget Sound (Seattle WA area for those not in the know). I've tried a few personal ads, but there are a ton of guys looking for poon. Is it normally hard for a guy to find a willing lady? Or am I not doing the right things? I cannot go out to bars etc, because the wife would wonder what I'm up to etc etc. I need to find someone via online, and then arrange a day time rendezvous. I am open to any and all suggestions. Thanks for all the entertainment and sexy pics. You've gotten me hard and ready more than just a few times. :spin:

NightRider

[Lilith]

You can always pay for it since it doesn't seem to matter what it's attached to.

[WildIrish]

OH DAAAAAAMN!

[Lilith]

Wait now.......mayhaps I best edit myself or at least clarify. I did not mean to come off as rude.


My understanding was that you just wanted "some strange" or "poon"but not a relationship. So to me it seems natural to pay for it to avoid the hassles and emotional maze that could come from a relationship.

[WildIrish]

Oh, well that makes much more sense. ha ha

[Steph]

Poon? Should I be offended?

If you go the online route, you can try an ad on one of the dating sites. Just put some thought into it & be literate and you'll have 90% of the guys there beat.

There are willing women on these sites but they can choose to be picky since the horny men outnumber them.

(Disclaimer: I work for an online dating company and know of what I speak.)

[sixsense]

Ok so Im going to sound like a marriage councillor...

Have you discussed your sexual relationship openly and honestly? Telling what you wish she would be more willing to do, and seeing what her fears are? IF they are unjust, then allowing her access to show why these fears are unjust.

If no compromise can be made in this area, then have you been frank about your need for a sexual release outside of the marriage. With the emphasis that it is release vs anything else?

Barring all this. If she is uncompromissing on any of these. While you are also.

Then why the hell are you still together?

[paprclphd]

I agree with Lilith, and I agree with sixsense also.

If you try to find someone without paying for it (via online, etc.) then you run a HUGE risk of it blowing up in your face, trust me on this one. Its really hard for women and men to have sexual relationships without emotion, no matter what anyone may say. Some sort of emotion will come into the picture eventually, especially with the sort of session that you are planning on having, and then you will be in big trouble.

On the other hand - you love your wife and all, but if you loved her so much wouldn't you take the time to talk to her, get some help together, try some different things, before having an affair?

Just make sure the affair is what you want to do. Affairs can get extremely complicated and messy - and your wife will have some idea that you are getting it somewhere else, no matter how much you try to hide it.

If you still want some go for it, try an online dating thing - I think that is the best advice.

[NightRider]

First off, I need to say that I have paid for it. Hiring a escort for an hour or two is a very expensive proposition, and at this time I’m unable to continue with that methodology. I refuse to go the street walker scene, very unsafe in more ways than one. I’ve even gone to massage parlors, but those are almost as expensive as the escorts.

You have brought up many ideas that have already been tried and proven ineffective. We have been to counseling, we've talked till the cows have come home and left again. She just doesn't get it. We are cut from different bolts of sex cloth. We are together because we love each other and have children. Yes I will admit that we shouldn’t have gotten married, or at the least gotten divorced early before the kids showed up. What can I say, I’m not perfect and have made some mistakes in my life.

No, I am not looking for an affair. Just a booty-call. Realizing that this will probably never happen, I’ll just have to save my pennies to buy a professional once or twice a year or be very sexually frustrated the rest of my life.

I just thought that since this site is so full of what seems to be sexy people willing to share so much, that you could help. Is this a case where everyone does a lot of talking but no doing? Are the women just attention whores, you can look but no touch? Understand that I’m not trying to put anyone down, but just thinking out loud as to why people, especially women, are so willing to share their sexy pics, thoughts, stories etc but not actually share their bodies. Help me to understand. It has been suggested that if there is something missing in my marriage where I need to go elsewhere to get it then I should get out of the marriage. I could say the same thing to everyone here. If your relationship with your SO is such that you need to post what you do here, then you are missing something important to you and should find another companion that gives you what you want. That makes about as much sense doesn’t it?

[fzzy]

Perhaps your question is not really the one you asked? This site is many things to many people .... there are many couples who have come together via this site, but it's not really a dating site per se. There are some who have shared pics who have come together for what sounds similar to a "booty call", but the truth is as Steph said, there are a lot of men out there looking and that allows women to be selective in who they actually meet up with ... and many women want something more than a quick one night stand and no emotion attached.

I personally have sexual "conversations" with a select couple of men .... I love writing stories, but am not looking to meet up with someone who is not caring and respectful toward me ... there are already too many risks ... so, I don't believe I'm an attention junkie, but I'm not really looking to hook up with someone from the site either ... if it happens, I wouldn't mind, just not the primary reason I'm here.

I would suggest that whatever route you take that you be open and honest in the search, I know there are dating sites out there that are open about what the person's marital status is, find a couple of those and sign up then make yourself known to those who interest you .... don't be discouraged about the ones you don't hear back from ... personally, I don't respond to men who list certain things ... just not comfortable with those and so I know it isn't worth getting friendly in those situations. Hope some of what I said is of help.

[PantyFanatic]

First I would truly like to welcome you to our “happy group” NightRider.:) We truly DO enjoy and care about each other here very much, and I have to tell you now that some of your phrasing has caught some of our notice and is making us pay close attention. Especially among some of us hopeless old fucks with the “PROTECT” imprint from another time-culture.:cool:

I hear a real frustration with your dilemma that may make some of this a little hard to digest:(, but hear me out, as I’m attempting to do for you.:confused: These are the points that stood out to me.
I'm a long time lurker. I've done a lot of reading of posts…..
….. Is this a case where everyone does a lot of talking but no doing? Are the women just attention whores, …..
…..why people, especially women, are so willing to share their sexy pics, thoughts, stories etc but not actually share their bodies……
…..something missing in my marriage where I need to go elsewhere to get it then I should get out of the marriage. I could say the same thing to everyone here. If your relationship with your SO is such that you need to post what you do here, then you are missing something important to you and should find another companion that gives you what you want. That makes about as much sense doesn’t it?
Actually no. It is coming at the subject from opposite ends I believe.

First I hope that your lurking has been for more than the few days you profile indicates. There is a LOT of serious material buried in our fun antics. It’s from real people that have been there. The sincere advice given above is from folks that come here with a SEXUAL COMFORT level that may be the main difference. We “share”, not just run in and “take”. These recommendations were addressing NOT adding complications to an already troubled situation. Our people come here as couples, as singles, straight, bi and gay. They COME WITH more experience than some others and with evolving considerations and desires. But they don’t RUN FROM an unsatisfactory relationship and expect to meet somebody with a trapeze over her bed to rectify there personal problems. That IS what you will only find in a whorehouse or from confronting the issue.

The “doing” here, whether fun conversation or international meeting and fucking each others brains out, is done with a “personal relationship” of respect and desire on all parties part. You can fuck our ladies if they so chose, but don’t fuck WITH our ladies or you’ll find more attention than you may have expected.:mad:

Hope what I said helps clarify the honest and polite replies you were given.:)

[Lilith]

<~~~~ is an attention whore who has no intention of risking a 17 year relationship for a fast fuck. But I am not all talk. My husband is aware of everything I do here. I post pics here to stimulate not only myself, but others. The fact that you bemoan women who post pics, thoughts, and stories but won't share their bodies with you should be a clue that some introspective delving is required. You are looking for a woman to use and you make that clear. As a woman in a site full of sexy charming caring men, who do you think I am gonna choose as a playmate, the guy who wants to use me or the guy I have struck up an intimate reciprocal relationship with???

I can understand the problem you are having and my suggested solution was to seek professional help(hooker). I think that your response clearly indicated that it is viable solution but that cash is a problem. I know very few woman who want to be treated like a whore and will do so without the fundage. Unless you can find one of those I think you are S.O.L.

[FussyPucker]

Everyone who loves Lilith please raise their hand :D

*raises a hand and smiles wide*

[Raul02]

I agree with you on that Lilith. I think the encounters that NightRider seeks are something that I have also read in print but not in here. Penthouse Forum comes to mind. Good luck in your search thought.

[NightRider]

Thanks to all for a good dose of reality. Not what I wanted to hear, but probably what I needed to hear. <tail between legs and turning away>

[Lilith]

:spank: don't tuck tail and scoot. Look around the forums and see what all the people here have to say about the sexual experiences they are having or in some case not having. You may find something or someone that strikes a familiar chord and you may be able to provide insight to someone else.

[NightRider]

Lilith, I'll be around and will chime in when I feel its appropriate. Thanks for your words of understanding and sexual wisdom. At my age you would think that I’d be more attuned to things sexual, guess I still need to do some growing up.

[Lilith]

Hey we all have shit we gotta work on.... like for instance I am working on this obsession I have with asking men to post pics in Men's Pics.








You are gonna post some right???;)

[NightRider]

Hum, maybe. I'll have to work on getting a pic or two of the ole tool in ready mode. I have some piercings that people either like or don't like. But I like them, and that is what count's. I used to have more, but the wifey didn't like a couple of them so out they came. Stay tuned, news at eleven!

[LixyChick]

NightRider? If I haven't said it before....I'm saying it now.......Welcum to Pixies! And, I'm so glad you hung in there and read ALL the posts of wisdom from our finest Pixies! No bolting now mister! Two more posts (you are at 8 as of my reply) and you're officially "in"....LOL!

I've read and re-read your post and replies here......to get a feel for you (no pun intended) and to understand your query. It is a good question and there have been some good responses.......but no one has mentioned respect. I get the feeling from your replies that you don't value women except as a means to and end......your end......your satisfaction. It comes off loud and clear in the way you speak of your wife (wifey) and in the way you refer to the Pixie women (attention whores) after only reading but a few replies to your question.

And....while I'm on that fact.....your lack of patience could use a kick in the ass too! Not everyone gets time every day to be able to respond to every thread posted here.....so as you settle in and post inquiring threads......try and have a bit of patience as the members trickle in and find you! But, I digress.........(and I appologize for the reprimand.....I have no intention of making a mockery of your question!)

As I was saying..........even if what you seek is a wham, bam, TY ma'am rendezvous from an online meeting.....you still have to show a touch of respect for the opposite sex or you'll have your baited hook in the water all year and NEVER get a bite! There are plenty women on this www that want a onenighter.......but how would you ever know that if you just put the question (hook) out without trying to get to know some specifics and share some of yourself (bait & net)?

Talk to women! You don't have to share your life story.....but it'd be nuts for a lady to just say, "Hey....I'm available even if I know nothing about you....and we can meet at ______, today"! There's a lot of kooks out there....and frankly, you haven't proven you aren't one of um! Don't confuse kink and kook either.......kink is in the eye of the beholder.....and kook is in the eye of the victim! I didn't say there was anything wrong with kink......but at least let that certain someone get to know you a bit before you accuse them of being all show/no action. What you are offering isn't a bad deal.......but mores specifics would be in order if you expect to net such a special catch!

Oh geezzzzzzzz........sorry about all the fishing talk........but hubby just recently went striper fishing and it's fresh in my mind I guess! LOL! I hope you understand my advice none the less!

P.S. As with Lilith.....and many other Pixites.......my husband is aware of all my posts on this site (we even post together in "Couples") and I lack nothing in my relationship with him! He loves that I love to post here.......and I love that he loves that I love to post here. It truly is a one of a kind site.....and I suggest you take pantyfanatic's advice and peruse all the threads before passing judgement! Have fun and I hope to see you around the boards......(and in "Men's Forum"....hint, hint!) LOL!

[Vullkan]

All I can say is try and work things out with your wife first. And in the process remember one simple truth--sex is the desert of a relationship not the main course. Honor, love and respect are promises made, and as an honorable man they are meant to be kept. Certainly there maybe elements of sex in your relationship that does work for the both of you.

In this relm I can but empythize with you. I Personally gone through 7 years of a living Hell before exhausting all hope. I can rest comfortable with a clear conscience. It was hard...thought for my "X" and I it wasn't sex that was the issue--just something a lot worst.

In part by honoring your wife, you honor yourself.

As to the ladies here, I can truthfully say from observation and communication that they are sophisticated and worthy of respect. I would be comfortable in wagering that such that you seek can not be found here.