How important is.......

[jennaflower]

Romance???

How important is Romance? Do you consider yourself a romantic individual... if not... do you believe that it is something you need to improve on... or not an important characteristic that is important to have? Do you tend to notice the "romantic" things around you? Or do you just allow them to fly over your head :)

What brings this question about you may ask... especially coming from me... the solo girl :) well... the answer is simple...

I tend to be a very romantic person... whether in a relationship or not... and right now... the romantic side of me tends to be in a hightened state of alertness... (with any luck this might be a inner knowledge that love is waiting around the corner)... one can hope :)

Anyway... talk to me about your views on romance... how important... who makes the effort... or is it an effort??

[Lilith]

I am extremely observant of the little details, but I also think that many of the things I find romantic may mean nothing to someone else. I tend to be too pratical to be romantic but that does not mean I am blind to it's charm. I revel in romantic overatures such a a kind phrase, a simple gesture of putting my needs and desires first. If you buy me flowers I will love them but if you pick me flowers I will love you.

[BigBear57]

I see myself as a hopless (hapless) romantic. I notice romance most of the time. One of these days I even hope to renew my licence to practice.

[SweetCandi]

I think romance is very important! that being said I also think sometimes I'll settle for just a good f**k

SC

[Glyndwr]

Hi jennaflower

Romance is not dead it just needs reviving from time to time. It can come in various guises from the full blown overt gesture to just a hug at the right moment.

I don't think there are many people who don't melt if the right person does something special for them.

[WildIrish]

I've done the usual things: prepare a bath with candles and a glass of wine, roses delivered to the office, loving note in the car. But they all seemed so calculated. I didn't mean for them to be, but they just did. The simple things that come naturally, without thought. Random acts that show you're paying attention to your loved one. When you're cooking supper, remember that she likes her pork chops bland! ha ha Put a new bar of soap in the shower, and refill the toilet paper, for crying out loud! Ok, so that's not romantic...how about noticing that she looks chilly and bringing her a blankie without being asked. Or fixing hot chocolate on a cool evening. Remember that cd she mentioned a few months back? Get it for her, just because. No special trip, "just thought of you and took a look for it while I was there and found it on sale". You know how much she likes to visit antique stores? Suggest taking a day this weekend to spend meandering through an area she likes to go antiquing in. Or how about a short drive through an area with nice scenery and a bowl of chowder before heading home?

[Gilly]

I think that in a long term relationship, romance is very important. Feeling loved, feeling that the relationship is meaningful to both people, helps to nuture the relationship.

[LixyChick]

He'll kill me for telling this but............

Several years back...at a very rocky point in our relationship.......my hubby (then, just living together for 12 years) sought advice from a girl[friend] of his as to what to do to romance me! He sucks at it....and he's the first to admit it....but his unrehearsed charms are so much more romantic than even he knows! Well, anyway........he was on the phone one night and then he was off the phone and in the bathroom and I could hear the tub filling. Soon, he was in the candle drawer (rummaging) and then back to the bathroom. Then, I heard him in the vanity drawers and in the linen closet......and then he was behind me......taking my hand and leading me to the bath he had prepared. I was in a mood and sort of protesting....but he insisted, so I followed. He had lit candles around the tub....filled it with warm, steamy water and bubbles...found a tub pillow I still had in a package (because I really never get to take a long soak)......and he undressed me and guided me into the tub. It was wonderful and so out of character for him...which made it that much nicer. He told me to relax....just take my time...and he'd be back to dry me when I was through. Then he left.....and I sighed and relaxed, nearly into a coma. I kept hearing a voice from the living room and (curiousity abounding) finally stepped from the tub on my own.....grabbed a towel and went to see who hubby was talking to. I thought someone had come over.....but it turns out he was on the phone...to his girl[friend]......telling her all about what he had just done in taking her advice. Now.....she was a sore spot in our relationship in the first place....and here she was telling him how to woo me and he playing Cirrano <sp> and doing all she said....with more excitement then I've ever seen from him. Some would say that he was trying his best to "save" our relationship by seeking advice.......but I knew (and he eventually told me the truth).....he was actually trying to woo HER into believing he was a romantic at heart, but just needed the right girl for guidance!

My point is.....(yes....I actually have a point here!)....his idea of what should be romantic has never been what makes him truly romantic to me! We've come such a long, long way in our relationship since that particular evening............and I have silly little secret coded love notes and trinkets and even a flower or two pressed between some pages of keepsake diary. But, in every single day since that day (above), he hugs me and kisses me and says he loves me and if I get home later than usual, he'll have dinner started or made and the dishes done and the cat fed and the laundry started and a story of his day that makes me smile and I'll ask, "Did you miss me all day"? and he'll say, "With all six bullets"! and hug me and laugh, and I'll know I've been romanced! So, I guess romance is in the eye of the beholder! Never practiced...always given with no expectation....and it could be something so insignificant that only the beholder will know it's been done! Important? I suppose you could say that when it's been felt....yes, it's important! Yes, I tend to notice what some would let fly over their head and take to heart the significance of the seeming insignificant!

[Irish]

Very important,but people really must know you for awhile,because everyone expresses it differently!What some might think is unromantic,is recognised by someone,who knows
you as romantic.I have a romantic outlook,on many things,that
is scoffed at by others!Example:I have always believed that there
are two people,in this world,that are destined to be together!That
even if they start out,at opposite sides of the world,they will
eventually be together. Irish
P.S.I hate to ruin the rough front,that I put on to people,but I
actually,get choked up,at some movies.Especially with kids,animals,etc.(Only,my wife,knows this!)

[Vullkan]

Romance is an art in itself

The heart is the engineer of romance. Just giving flowers and candy is a small part of romance...it is the how and why that makes the difference.

The last romantic gift I gave to a lovely lady was a gold and sapphire ring. What I did was that since I knew she loved tigers I bought a large stuffed toy tiger and put the ring on a chain around the tiger's neck and left it at her door at her apartment. When she stepped out to go to work, there it was waiting for her.

It is a matter of being creative. And when you care for another, it is easy for you to let your heart plan your romatic surprises. For the whole point of romance is to show your mate just how special they are to you and to delight them.

If there is one true way to say to another that they among all the countless billions of people are valued above all others to you is romance.

[Vigil]

I had an incredibly erotic dream about my wife last night.

After seventeen years or so together, I think that's pretty romantic.

[jennaflower]

Vigil... I couldn't agree more... that is pretty damn romantic :)

[Wildeye]

Jennaflower

oh wild and winsome woman, romance is always here, in the fingertips, in remebering her fave choc, in knowing her hair sweeps away, seeing the sparkle in her eyes, just recalling what makes her laugh or smile.

flowers when it is right..walking and listening to her feelings, sometimes knowing that it is not about the answer but about the listening, and reading Keats and sex, and hugs, and a gentle kiss, and letting her shout and be angry and then just holding.

wildeye

[Oldfart]

Ah, romance.

The candles and six-pack on the table you remembered to put the

tablecloth on. You know the one, with the little clowns on it from

Junior's birthday party.

The almost irresistable aroma of Colonel Fujisaki's Kentucky Fried

Something blends magically with the sweet and dulcet tones of

the music centre, quavering passionately to the Kill Bill soundtrack.

A minor light display given off by the Friday Night Football completes

what must truly be a romantic event worthy of Casanova or Don Juan.

Romance, ya gotta love it.

[rusti.1]

I write romantic messages on the toilet paper.
Thats about as romantic as iI get

[Irish]

OF---You're supposed to use candles & a tablecloth? Irish

[quisath]

I'm a TOTAL ROMANTIC ..................... Flowers, Wine, Chocolate, Candle Light, and Lots of touchy feely ................ all of that plays such a Part. Ohhhhhhhhhhh and Lets not forget that BURNING KISS.

I could tell some stories of my escapades but I think actions speak louder than words. Nough said. Pox Vobiscum