Whats Wrong With Me?

[babybunny]

*rant warning*


I dont know where to begin, or how to word it. I will try my best to state the problem though. For those who know me I am one of the rare (not so rare pixie-wise) ladies who love sex and everything to do with sex. It is an addiction I loved to take part in. No sex could be labled bad sex to me....until now.

I feel numb all over inside of me. I cant respond to the very little sex I do get. I dont feel the urge to get off or to even play with myself any more. Its like a once brillant memory that has now faded into the mist. Sex is now basically my hubby getting off and me rolling over back into my forlorn thoughts. I mean I was used to such sex before..would get ontop and get some even if wasnt very great sex. But no urge to do so now. Even my daily visits to pixies leave me sad knowing I am missing out in something I once treasured.

I try and intate sex and get things rolling but 80% of the time its ignored or "Im too tired"...So now I dont try hardly anymore. I work hard everyday raising an 18 month old lil boy, keeping a 3 bd house clean, taking care of a big puppy and making meals for my hubby and his mother (who lives with us now). At the end of the day I want to relax and snuggle and cuddle. I dont get it.. I get to relax by playing my online games or chatting. Then by 11pm or midnite my hubby asks if I am horny. Then the constant naggings of "Why dont you want me anymore" start..

I dont know what to say. I do want him! I just dont know why sex seems so far way and so distant to me now...


I need help! :(

[huntersgirl]

(((((babybunny))))) sounds like there are many reasons you could be feeling the way you are. I've been there myself and though maybe some of my reasons were different, reading your post brought back some strong memories. Check into the resentment angle, I sure know when I felt unappreciated and was expected to want sex w/ my ex, it was the last thing I wanted to do. Also sounds like you could use some time just for you, no kids or hubby just time to pamper yourself without the distractions of your everyday stuff. Maybe try a girls night out or seeing a massage therapist or whatever will make you feel good. Ebbs and flows of sex drive are normal, maybe if you don't worry about it quite so much, you will take the pressure off of yourself and maybe that will help to bring it back. Good luck hun, feel free to pm me if you want to chat.

[Scarecrow]

((((((((babybunny)))))))) Could it be stress, naw not with an 18 month old baby or mother-in-law moving in, oh well was just a thought. Have you strated any new meds. lately, some of them can take away your drive. But check the stress factor, a day at the spa sounds like a good get away to me.

need to talk just PM me((((BB))))

[BigBear57]

Hugs Bunny Darlin, I think one of the best things is to have a good friend who's been there to talk to. You've had 2 offers and even a third if you'd feel the urge. I'm always happy to listen to a friend. Now if the talking isn't enough, you might consider a good councilor. I did during and after my divorce and it made a helluva difference. I'm not suggesting that I know a lot but being in a rut can sometimes put us in a place we need some bread crumbs to find our way back. Let us help if we can or find a professional shoulder to lean on. In either case, I wish you the best Hon.

[nikki1979]

babybunny i so know what ur going tho, this time last year i went tho it , lasted several months to , it was right around the time my girl turned 1 and had a lot of stress goingon as well, it was the most agrivating thing when hubby wud want it so bad and i wuddnt , he wud pester me till i gave in and let him get off just so i cud go to sleep :( it was real depressing to me cuz i have always been very sexual and usually been more so than any man ive ever met LOL after about 4 months tho things got better and now im "all better" hugs hun if it dont get better soon see the dr. but i think me getting out and away from hubby and baby a few hrs every week fixed me , i was jus tburnt out , i think the girlsnight out or day out idea was a good one, get ur mom in law to watchthe baby (let her earn her keep ;) and im sure she wontmind spoiling the baby w mommy gone) ) and go spend some money buy new outfits and shoes get all tarted up and go pretend to be single till u have to go home. it was a life saver to me , hugs hun were here if u need us!
~nikki~

[Grumble]

All good advice above. You do need some time off, you can't be there for everyone else 24/7. We all need our own time to relax, think, be with friends ect and if we don't get it we become tense, wound up and not in a sexually receptive mood.

get mother in law to give you a break on a regular basis, have your time and when you feel better, have time you set aside for you and hubby. It is for keeping the bond between you and sex is an important part of it.

best wishes BB
hugs
Grumble

[GusAspar]

Babybunny, please take a letter:

Dear Hubby

I've had enough and need a break. Please persuade your mother to look after the kids for the weekend. Call the young woman from across the road and ask her to come in and clean the house. Book us a room in a hotel for the weekend and, with any luck, we won't get out of bed except for meals.

[LixyChick]

Oh bunny hunny! All great advice above...please heed the words and caring ideas! Don't know your age, and you don't have to say......but hormones are ever changing and this is definitely a conversation you should be having with a doctor. Just remember one thing hun..........you are NOT alone in this! Many woman before and many after you have/will have this problem. Those who seek help and advice....such as what you are doing....are those who come through it with a favorable outcome! Those who go into a shell are the ones who end up with a most unfavorable outcome! Do this for YOU hun..and your entire family will benefit from your loving yourself enough to seek help! My heartfelt best wishes...and please do keep us informed!

I'm always just a PM away!!!!!

[denny]

Gus has it. You two need a date where you get to enjoy each other and know going in that you are going to get lucky. Maybe even some new lingerie to enhance the mood. Go for it girl!

[Little_Miss]

i went through the same thing with my bf, we've now split up because of it.

when he didnt get his way he went to work on his car, which later led him to start seeing some 15 YEAR OLD behind my back.

Do something about it now, before it goes too far.

[Oldfart]

Babybunny,

It is really difficult (didn't say hard) for a man to be sexy and

affectionate knowing his mother can hear him being "naughty".

It can be the hugest intimidation.

The house-work and the baby don't seem to have slowed you down

very much, and if you can bottle this, a generation of Pixie-mum's will

love you forever.

This needs more than a night out at the pictures, it needs time away alone

to let the two of you mesh again.

Good luck.