Here a Spot, There a Spot, Everywhere a Spot-Spot

[Michael Smith]

I find myself confused about something. Even after lots of digging, I haven’t been able to figure out this problem. Can someone please shed some light on this for me?

Here’s the problem.

From what I understand, the A-Spot is the same thing as the AFE (Anterior Fornix Erogenous) Zone. I have an instructional video from a sex therapist and a sexual surrogate that says the AFE Zone is located directly across from the G-Spot on the opposite wall of the vagina. They say the AFE Zone is like “moisture central” for the vagina and applying pressure to this area will lubricate the vagina very generously. Information from afezone.com backs up this information as well as the location described above.

However, I’ve been reading from several other sources that the A-Spot is located halfway between the G-Spot and the cervix on the same vaginal wall as the G-Spot. So, I’m being told about two locations for the same spot. What am I missing? Is the A-Spot indeed the same thing as the AFE Zone? Or are they different? If they are the same, then which is the real location? And what the heck is the other location?

Can you help? I’m having trouble with this one. Thanks!

[Lilith]

I have always understood/ felt it to be closer to the cervix. Aspot orgasms are usually the only ones that I get from penetration alone, and they are very rare but soooooooooooo good!

As for which wall, hell if I can figure it out right now... I will have to send Mr. Lil on a scavenger hunt:p

[PantyFanatic]

omg! “A” and “G”…… and even “C” and “T” all mixed up.:eek: Well I’m sure it’s in there someplace.;) Just keep licking……. I mean, looking.:)

[Michael Smith]

Thanks, you two. Yeah, half the time I think the real experts are just as confused about these things as everyone else. One of the first things I learned when I started digging into sexually related matters is that, like most everything else, it's hard to get two experts to agree on much of anything. There are STILL "experts" that say the G-Spot doesn't exist! Thanks, again!

[LixyChick]

With the way you're describing all this Michael....it seems so damn clinical. Making love shouldn't be clinical unless you are on a regime to try and conceive....and even then it doesn't have to be a scientific exploration. What a killjoy to hear from your partner, "Is that it honey? Am I anywhere near it?" *poke, poke*........LOL! What difference would it make if you hit point A instead of point C....and yet she still feels wonderful when she is in your arms! What ever happened to...."Oh baby, right there...that feels so good...don't stop"? Why do we suddenly need to map it all out? "Oh yes baby...up 1/2 an inch and back against the front wall.....no....no....up further....up...no....too far....down.....not so far down....up a pinch.....THAT'S IT! Mark that as point "Q" on the map"! How can differentiating between these two (or sixty-six) spots make for a more delicious evening?

I dunno.....sorry for sounding so cynical.....but this seems so unimportant in the whole scheme of things!

[Michael Smith]

I agree with you, Lixy. Making love shouldn't be clinical. But, I'm not making love, here. I'm just trying to find out something I've wanted to know about for a long time. I've seen a few posts of people talking about the A-Spot and I've been confused about it for a long time. I was hoping someone could clear it up for me.

I really see it as no different than say the G-Spot. You need to know where it's at, first. You don't have to map out the whole vagina, but if you are going to play with the G-Spot, you should know where it's at, right? Same thing with the A-Spot. How can I play with it if I don't know where to find it?

I was just trying to educate myself. I regret I posted the question. :( I'll go back to lurker status for a bit until I get a better feel for what kind of questions will be better received.

Thank you, anyway. :)

[WildIrish]

Nothing says love like a white lab coat, miner's cap and calipers! ha ha

I sense a great commercial out of this...

"Vagina...where an educated customer is our best consumer" :D

[Irish]

As they say in the AD!---Just do it!I mostly agree with Lixy.I have
been married for 38yrs & it doesn't matter,what you call the spot
as long as the result is satisfying! Irish

[LixyChick]

Originally posted by Michael Smith
I agree with you, Lixy. Making love shouldn't be clinical. But, I'm not making love, here. I'm just trying to find out something I've wanted to know about for a long time. I've seen a few posts of people talking about the A-Spot and I've been confused about it for a long time. I was hoping someone could clear it up for me.

I really see it as no different than say the G-Spot. You need to know where it's at, first. You don't have to map out the whole vagina, but if you are going to play with the G-Spot, you should know where it's at, right? Same thing with the A-Spot. How can I play with it if I don't know where to find it?

I was just trying to educate myself. I regret I posted the question. :( I'll go back to lurker status for a bit until I get a better feel for what kind of questions will be better received.

Thank you, anyway. :)
Please don't regret posting this question.....I didn't say it was a bad question...I just said it seemed too clinical TO ME! Hey! If it helps others to go on an excursion like this...then more power to um....but for me....if it feels good, do it....and if it feels especially good...you might have hit the "G" or "C" or whatever spot....but don't go making it a practice to keep on trying for it and forego all the other good feelings in search of just that! Michael Smith.....please don't stop trying to learn on my account.....I was just giving my opinion....of which I should try and figure out how to just shaddup every once inna while! I totally enjoy your posts BECAUSE they make me think and extrapolate through your visions and questions!

Friends?

P.S. I have no clue where my "G" spot is....but some things feel better than other's so I must have one...eh? LOL!

P.P.S. If you go back to lurker status...I'll come and find you with WI's miner's cap! Please don't stop being you!!!!!!

[Lilith]

Michael~ I went searching online for A-spot info...not too much available.

I want my guy to know where all my good stuff is. Fumbling around can be fun too but when my guy sets out to please me it's easier if he knows where to start or finish;)

Some things I read said that the A-spot is on the opposite wall as the g-spot as you said and it equated it to where a man's prostate is but inside the vagina. If this is accurate it would make sense. For me each different type of orgasm, based on which area is stimulated, is very unique. When I have had A-spot orgasms it has been by penetration alone and very deep and angled and surprisingly in missionary but with my hips thrusting upwards often my ass up off the bed~mmm~ so this would fit with the A-spot being on the "back" wall.

[Michael Smith]

Thanks, Lixy! :)

[LixyChick]

Oh sweety....no TY necessary.....I'm just happy we can still be friends!

*hugs MS and gives WI back his miner's cap!*

Now what else do you have for us???? *blink, blink*

[Michael Smith]

Thanks, Lilith! I just like to know what I'm doing. I'm a sex nerd, I know. I've just seen some posts from people mentioning the A-Spot and having A-Spot orgasms, and it just reminded me of the fact that I haven't figured that out, yet.

Staying well read, well informed, and increasing my knowledge (being nerdy and clinical) really works for me. And I keep that aspect of my personality out of the bedroom - except to use the knowledge that I gained through doing my homework, because Lixy is exactly right - if you are trying to concentrate on pulling off some "special move" rather than focusing on your lady (or man), then you are missing the point of lovemaking, anyway.

That being said, knowing where everything is located, etc, makes me more confident in the bedroom because I feel that rather than guessing or hoping that I know what I'm doing, I'm confident I know what I'm doing. For me, information leads to confidence and to keeping things fresh and exciting in the bedroom by trying out new things all the time. I can do this while focusing on my lady without making it clinical. Lovemaking should be intimate and passionate, not dry and clinical. I keep the lines of communication open in our bedroom, too, so I know my lady doesn't feel that I'm dry and clinical in the bedroom.

Thank you for your help, everyone! :)

[Michael Smith]

Lixy,

A hug back to you!

Give the miner's cap back to WI and bonk him over the head with it! THAT WISEGUY! ;)

[Irish]

Michael Smith---Don't be discouraged if your question,is foolish to
some.My father used to say that the stupidest question,that you could ask,was the one you didn't ask.Remember:You can't make
all of the people,happy,all of the time.When you get older,you'll realise that you wasted alot of energy,trying to please everyone!
If the person that looks back from the mirror,is happy,you did a good job. Irish
P.S.When you get to be my age,you can give advice! (no one will
listen but you can give it!)

[Michael Smith]

I recognize that there's a lot of wisdom in what you said, Irish. I'm not going to just ignore it. I'll take it to heart. Thank you for sharing it. :)

[WildIrish]

Don't hate me because I'm beautiful...


Hate me cause I'm a dumbass! ha ha

Truth be told, Michael is very booksmart with sex and I can't help but think that it helps when doing the "lab work".

[Michael Smith]

LOL. You're a riot!

Thanks, WildIrish!

[Lilith]

OMG~ back wall....:D;)

[Michael Smith]

Sent Mr. Lil on that excavation, huh?
Thank, Lilith. :)

[Lilith]

Actually I went solo;)

[Michael Smith]

Thank you, Lilith. Nobody can say the Pixie ladies don't go the extra mile to answer a question. :)

[Lilith]

*curtsies* my pleasure;)

[BlueSwede]

I always like to know the why and where, especially physiologically, so I most definitely enjoy a question like this. I'm usually off researching stuff like that myself.

What I consider to be my A-spot is where you and Lilith first mentioned--close to the cervix on the opposite wall as the G-spot. What I DO know for sure is that there is an area from which a particular kind of orgasm (for me) is triggered. How did I find it and how do I continue to trigger them? I have a rather long, crystal G-spot toy that is shaped like a regular dildo but has a slight bend at the end of it. I triggered orgasms from that "A-spot" when the bent part accidentally ended up facing down on the posterior wall of my vagina rather than the anterior wall where my G-spot is. I decided that it felt even better to come w/the bend part pointing downward than upward, but I'll happily take orgasms from either or both locations simultaneously.

BTW, Michael, I first heard about that "A-spot" location in a post at another sex forum site in which a guy described that area that he presses on in his girlfriend to trigger that type of orgasm. He called it the "A-spot," too.

I just looked at the anatomical diagragm at the afezone.com site, and, yes, the spot they label as the A-spot in the vagina is where my "spot" is.

[Michael Smith]

Thank you, BlueSwede! So your experimentation would suggest that both spots I mentioned are definite potential hot-spots. They are just confusing the names by calling both spots the same thing. That's what I had suspected all along. Thank you for sharing. It was very informative. :)

[BlueSwede]

yw, Michael. :) Just wanted to be able to let you know that it sure seems to me that you are on the right track. :D Happy hunting!

[Loki]

The images on this page http://www.afezone.com/ square up well with our personal experience.

You might find that letting your fingers do the walking will enable the two of you to confirm this. One good position for you to try is allowing her to lie comfortably on her back whilst you situate yourself near the bottom of the bed. Your fingers will need to be able to curve comfortably downward to locate the delightful spot in question. A calm exploratory approach might be best. Take your time, be gentle. And you just might be rewarded with a nice little "Oh My".

Some women may not have the remarkable sensitivity as the gem I have the pleasure to work with. But they all seem to have the same parts.

Good luck!

[Nuelaan]

I have but one comment, could you describe in a little more detail the search for the spot please Lilith?

[Loki]

If you are seeking advice in general, try here:

http://www.findthegspot.com/

But if you are seeking Lilith's personal tale. I suggest kneeling and begging. She might respond more vividly to that.

good luck !

[Loki]

Doing the G-Spot Jiggly
The G Spot is not a magical button,but rather, an area that some women enjoy having stimulated. The following steps are written for self-exploration, but can be modified for use with a partner.

Relax. This should be fun, not a goal-oriented mission.
Use a lubricant you like.

Masturbate in your usual way until you feel aroused.

Insert one or two fingers into the vagina, crooking them up toward the belly (12 o'clock position if you are lying on your back).

Press firmly against the roof of the vagina about one-third of the way in.

You should feel a small ruffled lump that increases in size with continued stimulation.

Start slow: insert your fingers gently and use soft, gentle motions at first. When you feel the G-Spot area becoming enlarged, use more pressure.

Remember to keep paying attention to other parts of your body: your breasts, your clitoris ... whatever feels good.

As your body begins to respond positively and you start feeling pleasure, use more pressure and more rapid motions.

As you continue to stimulate the G-Spot, you may feel your vagina clench and bear down, the signal that orgasm is imminent.

Apply more pressure to the urethral sponge, stroking and manipulating the area around the urethral opening.

You may feel the urge to urinate. Don't fight it! You are probably getting ready to ejaculate. Relax, trust your body and your partner, and see what happens.

[Belial]

Originally posted by Michael Smith


if you are trying to concentrate on pulling off some "special move" rather than focusing on your lady (or man), then you are missing the point of lovemaking, anyway.



"Be quiet honey! Now, let me see, it was 'quarter-circle forward, hard punch...'"

:p

A nice reminder that one should stop playing video games long enough to screw :)