Do you think it's sexy to be someone's "first"?

[Sodbuster]

Some people take a lot of pride in being someone's first (often referred to as earning their "white wings"). I've known some guys who treat it like a score. A girl I knew told me it turned her on to fantasize about being my first, because you never forget that person.

Any thoughts/experiences?

[robdog]

Being someones first is a special thing. Not just for the recently deflowered virgin but for the other person as well. The virgin chose that person to give a special gift to. I have been lucky enough to have been with 6 virgins. While they may never forget their first time, I will never forget the present they gave me.

[lakritze]

Not so crazy about being first,but give me those sloppy seconds.heh heh heh

[BlondeCurlGirl]

The guy I lost my virginity to, also lost his to me. That was special...and I belive it'll always be memorable in the other person's mind.

[IAKaraokeGirl]

I don't need to be their first; I just need to be their *best.*














:D :p :D

[BlondeCurlGirl]

Oooh, now that is a motto to live by, IAKG!

*Scribbles that into my notebook*

[IAKaraokeGirl]

<-----has added that life philosophy to her signature. :D

[Lilith]

IAKGirl~ you rule btw!


I don't wanna be somebody's first. Too much responsibility Then they'd be all ruined for anyone else;)

[skipthisone]

I want experience...virginity is overrated

[GingerV]

Brilliant IAKG!

Any first is special. But I have to say the few times I was someone else's proper first...I've been more wrapped up in making it special for them than really been about enjoying it myself. So while it's fun, I don't think I'd have called it especially sexy.

But that's just me.

[IAKaraokeGirl]

Can you imagine? All of these men running around, searching desperately for something equal to the spoiling Lil and I already gave them? :D

[Sweet Thing]

I was my hubby's first. I had had sex with around ten guys before I met DH. Our first time together was the first time I had ever made love. KWIM?

[Lilith]

Originally posted by IAKaraokeGirl
Can you imagine? All of these men running around, searching desperately for something equal to the spoiling Lil and I already gave them? :D


rotflmbfao~ a tragedy indeed:p

[Sodbuster]

Interesting perspectives here... I think I've already been ruined since I tend to hope for someone like those I know here on Pixies.

[Loulabelle]

As soon as I find out someone hasn't ever done something, I always want to be the first to do it with them! LOL

It's not a score card thing, just an addiction to seeing a look of pure joy when someone experiences something heavenly for the first time ever. :D

[danziggy]

i remember the first girl i lost mine to. it was crap!! It just wasnt what i had expected.
I also remember the girl i 'deflowered'. It was a great feeling for me that she had chosen me to do it with. Although i do feel looking back that she just wanted to get it over and done with.

[BlueSwede]

When I was someone's first, I didn't even think about it in those terms. I just knew that this was my steady boyfriend and that our foreplay up to that point was just not enough to satisfy us anymore. It was not that big a deal as far as the deflowering itself goes. Plus, at my age, I'm lucky to even remember the details.

So, I don't care if I am or was somebody's first on anything (virginity, anal, BJ, whatever), I am just looking to be somebody's last.

[Aqua]

Originally posted by skipthisone
I want experience...virginity is overrated

What skip said...

I have been saying much the same thing for years.

[darogle]

Not that I wouldn't be honored, but give me a woman with experience anyday!

[Cheyanne]

Yeah, the first time I rode a rollercoaster, I threw up... :eek:

I guess I don't really concern myself about being the "first" in any of that.... I wouldn't like the expectations.....

I prefer someone who has experience.....

[FussyPucker]

My first time was her first time too..........I think people put too much on "the first time" I was just glad to get it over with so I could be more relaxed about the whole thing ready for the next time.

[dicksbro]

I guess being first has sentimental value ... but practice makes perfect. ;)

[Mercury_Maniac]

it would be nice to have a first, and if i would ever get laid, big IF there, anyway if i was ever to get laid i would like to be the other person's first also, because i would like to lose my virginity to a virgin while she would lose hers to me, cause i would just feel awkward with someone who has already done it and i don't know what the hell i would be doing,

of course it will be awhile before i get laid, and i'm sure I won't even be that great anyway, and it will probably be under a drunken circumstance

[Wicked Wanda]

Goodness!
This question has brought up a flood of emotions in me.
My deflowering was a wonderful experience for me. But I didn't tell him that he was my first. (there were age and other issues that I wanted to keep secret, and I was ready todo this damn it!)
Was I wrong not to tell him? Did I cheat him of some special feeling or memory?
I have been the first for only one male that I am aware of. I was the "older woman" by a few years, and I made a celebration of it, spending the night together, and I loved being his first.
I did *ahem* everything for him, letting him experience almost every fantasy he would admit to. I wanted him to always remember it as a special, almost magical life experience.
Now the "other point of view"
The woman who was my first same -sex partner knew I was a "virgin" and she had set out to seduce me. I treasure this memory above the memory of my loosing my virginty with a boy.
It was a fantastic, intensely erotic, truely life-changing experience, and for a lot of complicated reasons involving a louse of a now ex-hubby, ultimately saved me.
I have also been the first same -sex partner for a lot (!) of women. I have learned that many women on vacation, often traveling alone, are curious,and willing to experiment, knowing that their new "secret" is safe many miles away in another city.
It is fun, intense, sexy, and in a way that I don't really understand, fulfilling.
Frankly it is a large part of my social life. (too much so, some of my friends say)
But when I read the messages above, I can't say that the feelings I have about doing this are anything like what is written about in this thread.
A lot of really conflicted memories and emotions...
Oh well...

Love,

Wanda

[Cobalt]

A first timer might be nice, but I like the ones with experiance, they may know some fun things that I don't and can really make it enjoyable when you don't have to teach them how to please.

[Sodbuster]

Don't be so hard on yourself Mercury, I still haven't had my first and I'm 23... sometimes things don't fall into place, so to speak. It just takes time.

[gryphon]

My first time was a terribly horrific experience......the only good thing i got out of it was my oldest daughter(who at the time i did not think was a blessing, now i don't even want to think about what life would be without).

Now I would really like to be someones first blowjob......hehe that would be fun...BUT dont want to be thier first intercourse partner...too clumsy. Not in the mood to have to teach ALL that stuff over again....

[andyhart]

I have to admit that I have yet to find someone anywhere near as wonderful as my first. I still wonder how she knew one of my deepest fantasies without ever asking me. I still ten years later dream about her. And lucky for me someone here at Pixies was kind enough to post a series that resembled that unforgettable night!! Of course, I still have a few firsts to go.

I think a lot of it has to do with the relationship, the timing, and of course the ANTICIPATION!!

[osuche]

I would be so caught up in making it perfect for them that I probably wouldn't enjoy myself. So...yes, in that I would want the person't first time to be perfect. but no, because I wouldn't want to be responsible for making it that way.

[faerysflower]

i was my partners first time. he didnt tell me at the time. he told me about a week later. it was the sweetest thing in the world.... he he it also explained why he lasted 10 seconds he he

i think its very sexy

[Hardy]

I will never forget the woman who let me savor pussy for the first time....

Before that I would only play with my hard cock thinking about girls...dreaming about pussy...

The difference was tremendous :fly:

[wyldchyld]

i remember my first time and it's not something that i want to relive again. when a woman tells a guy to stop moving, she means it. this guy almost got a punch to the head. then he decided to up and leave right afterwards. i'll never forget laying there and thinking "that's it? you mean to tell me that i waited 21 yrs for that?" i found out months later, after much arguing and his harassing, that i was his first too. explains the reason he looked at the condom to see how much he filled of it. give me a man with experience any day. 5 minutes from start to finish doesnt do anything for me

[ChinesePussy]

guys

i have this question for you

i heard some guys lost their virginity to those hooker

now how do you think about him? is he gain good experiecne with hooker than with regular girl at first time?

[cowgirltease]

Can't even remember the "First". But I can darn sure remember the best ones!:hot: :slurp: ;)

[Sher]

I've recently became someone's first. I couldn't believe it when I found out because he was the one to come on to me first. I just didn't think that virgins would be so not nervous about it. I freaked out when I first found out about it. I had to find it out from two other people before he told me. But he's cool about it I think. We talk about it everynow and then.

I must say it was good. He was the first guy to ever make me cum but doing all the work wasn't that fun.

It's kinda weird now cause we're friends and hang out and stuff. He still flirts with me and shit but says he doesn't want to be with me. I can't stand it really but there's not much I can do. hehe... He says that he thinks that sex is overrated. But I don't think he's being totally honest about that.

I have been fantasizing about teaching him the ropes lately which totally makes me mad when he turns me away.

[scotzoidman]

On a T-shirt: "You can't be first, but you can be next..."

[Lord Snow]

I'm confused by a few posts. Some people have mentioned that they'd be so intent on pleasing the other person because it's the other person's first that they wouldn't enjoy it themselves. Now I may be weird or at the least a minority, but I enjoy pleasing my partner. I couldn't care less if I got mine or not.

I don't think I would want to be someone's first though. It is a very personal thing that I would not want to take the chance on ruining the experience.