Problems "getting it up"

[Datatrain]

Uh, hey... I just started having sex, and I've noticed a disturbing trend. I can have a raging boner, then once I get a condom on I go limp, sometimes immediatly it happens. I've even had it go limp while in my girl friend, but it only happens when I have a damn condom on... What the hell is the deal? Frankly I'm getting really really pissed off, cause when we don't use a rubber, theres no problem, except isn't the best way to avoid a bundle of joy... Should I get bigger condoms? I was thinking maybe they're cutting the blood off or something, they don't feel too tight. Maybe they are... Anyway, can someone help me out here???????

[Loulabelle]

I can think of a couple of suggestions off the top of my head:

1 - Condoms can have this effect so don't worry about it, but look at buying condoms which are designed to be more sensitive.

2 - If the condoms are uncomfortable, by all means try other brands, as they do fit in different ways (or so I've been told). Sometimes, condoms with a different shape can help, even if they are not neccesarily bigger. Experiment.

3 - You can buy condoms which are ribbed etc, which will probably make no difference to her pleasure (despite what it may say on the box) but which can provide extra sensation for you. This extra little bit of stimulation may help.

4 - Try using a cock ring, which is something that grips the base of your cock, therefore keeping the blood in it and keeping it hard. I personally have never tried using one of these with my partner while also using a condom, so I'm not sure how well it would work, but it might be worth a try. You can also get them which vibrate, which can be so much fun for you and your partner.

5 - Remember that condoms not only prevent bundles of joy, but also bundles of different kinds of infections.



OMG - I sound like a teacher! LOL......hope this helps. x

[Datatrain]

Thanks, I'll try these suggestions. Hopfully it'll work, cause as you can tell this is really a source of frustration.

[Lilith]

Originally posted by Loulabelle
I can think of a couple of suggestions off the top of my head:

LOL......hope this helps. x

Aunty Lilith thanks you :p

[GingerV]

OK, this is gonna sound dumb....but you said you were just starting...so maybe it's worth a shot.

If the condom is too tight, it'll cut off the blood supply, and then there's no way in hell you can keep an erection. Don't know what size you are, what size you're using, or if that's the problem. More likely it's one of the things that Lou mentioned. But thought it was worth throwing out there just in case.

[Lilith]

GingerV~ great point....maybe Datatrain should come over my way for a personal fitting;)

[Datatrain]

Uh, I mesured, and it's around 7 inchs heh... And I'm using regular size LifeStyles... But tonight we tried a different one and there seemed to be very little in the way of problems (Except the cop).... So indeed, I think the problem has been solved.

[Loulabelle]

YAY!

[Grumble]

:) happy days

[LixyChick]

Next problem!

Gee you guys are so smart!