Non-Negotiables

[osuche]

Just wondering about people's preferred tradeoffs in a committed relationship...and I do mean tradeoffs! No cheating by saying you want it all!

[celticangel]

would trade money and material wealth any time!

[dadaist]

Yeah money isn't all that's cracked up to be, as long as you have enough to survive on.

I'd rather have the compatibility with personality, intellect, hobbies and pursuits and sexuality. Otherwise no matter how much of any of the rest you have, those fundamental differences are going to lead to nothing but squabbling.
And fitting any kind of looks/fashion mold is silly - on its own - if you have your health, why obey the dictates of whatever Hollywood or Madison Ave. are trying to push onto people for the moment?

[MilkToast]

Money and material wealth would be at the top of the list...

But the only thing that I would not ever want to see go away is personality... pretty much all others can be worked around.

[PantyFanatic]

I too have to flip a coin between appearance and wealth to be at the top of the list, or is that the bottom?:confused:

We seem to have a consistent “feeling” about this. Now if the real world only “thought” that way.:rolleyes:


Interesting that we have 4 post and 13 votes. Frequently we have the same or more post than votes on many poles.;)

[Cheyanne]

This is a tough one.... I would have to vote for appearance.....

Selfishly... if you have enough money.. you can purchase the appearance you want............. I guess, but if the person is kind/generous.. and has a great personality.. appearance isn't all that important when you love someone..

[fzzy]

I'd drop the money ... but then money isn't the way I measure success ... success means that the person is happy with who they are in my way of defining it ... that I would never trade!

[Steph]

I'll choose the money, too. However, anyone I'm dating has to have ambition.

Great poll!

[Sharni]

The money for me

[speedy]

Has to be the money,when your heart is touched can make it thru anything.

[south]

Of those four options I gotta let the success thing go. I mean like what are you gonna do with all that cash if you don't have some one sweet with which to share it all. And besides there is always LOTTO!

[osuche]

Interesting that no one has left out skills in bed... If s/he looks good -- but lays there like a log -- is that OK???

Haven't men been making this decision for years? ;)

[dadaist]

Originally posted by osuche
Interesting that no one has left out skills in bed... If s/he looks good -- but lays there like a log -- is that OK???

No. :p


Haven't men been making this decision for years? ;)

Not me. :p

[babybunny]

Munny here as well...I am living without that option right now...lol

[Nuelaan]

shit I voted wrong, I voted for personality but I thought that was what we were keeping, I would have to say wealth also. Really the only one that matters to me is personality, but among the other three money means the least to me.

[Incubus255]

lol money is what I voted for, it takes more than cash to interest me lol

[dicksbro]

Certainly I'd give up the money as a reason for being with someone, but, in all fairness, if my spouse suddenly came into a million bucks, I wouldn't reject her for that reason ... :D

[Cobalt]

I voted for money awhile back, and still feel the same. Don't need money to be happy with the one you love, (although it does help things). We have been going threw this phase since we were married, and I have since I was born. Trying to change that. That is why I am going to collage now.