Friendship Troubles...

[Ozling]

Hello everyone. I've been trying to talk to someone about this for a little while now, and I couldnt think of anyone. Then i decided pixies was as as good a place as any. Here's the scoop:

I've known this girl for a few years now. I've liked her since a month or less of the day I met her. She's liked me since a year and a half ago. When we really got to talking about it, she said that we could try stuff and maybe go out after we both finish college. But she likes other people than me, and sense im one of her best friends she tells me things that I want her to tell me cause i want to help, but it kills me to hear about her having sex with other guys and being with others besides me. I've already told her how i felt about her. But i dont know if i should tell her not to talk to me about these things, but then i dont want to do that because i do want her to talk to me. im completely over her when she's not around for a while but then i get a chance to see her and she's comes back into my life like a hurricane and i go crazy again just to get her attention. i cant take to much more, its just to crazy, i love her to death but it kills me to do it.

What should i do?

[Steph]

I feel for you!!! I'd definitely start looking for other girls to date, sweetie. Seems this one considers you a friend.

[krzykrn]

Been there, done that, and I can tell you it was painful as hell. This has gone on for a year and a half you say? If it hasn't happened yet, I can pretty much guarantee it will NOT happen in the future. I do not say this to be cruel, but what I see as the truth, and drawing from my own experience.

Learn (as hard as it is, and I do know it is hard) to get over her...go out and meet other people and try to distance your romantic feelings from this woman. Like Steph mentioned, it pretty much sounds like she just wants you as a friend. If you continue down the road you are traveling, you are just destined for a lot of unhappiness and frustrationg, believe me, I went down that road for almost three years with someone I was totally in love with...it just was not pretty and pretty much made me a shell of a man. Don't let it happen to you...please....

[Incubus255]

My current ex has this thing with us staying friends cuz I've been her best friend (and only friend) for the past 3 years, so naturally she wants ot keep coming back to me and telling me about all the new stuff in her life

as mean as it sounds I don't want to hear diddly squat from her, I'd rather her just have never exsisted ^__^ lol but i'm evil like that, so I just deleted everything I have and wait for the darkness to take her name from me, Having someone you still care about telling you about how there life is going has no other result in you getting hurt, I say you get out of there as soon as you can

I'm the same way with her, everytime I see her she starts talking to me and I start falling in love with her all over again, damn her for having that power over me, how can a simple conversation about nothing make me fall back in love with her regardless of everything else, oh well the best I can do is just chill my heart towards her the best I can, Personally I don't want her to think of me as her best friend, I don't want her to think about me, I feel dirty when she starts talking about how much she cares about me and the such.

lol yes I know thats alot easier said than done but trust me it's for the best,

[Grumble]

Yes me too, been there a couple of times.

Men are more vulnerable emotionally than females. The macho image is a lot of crap really, women are tough and they let out their feelings more easily. It the blokes who get their hearts broken more often than not.

When do you know when to give up? Buggered if i know, if i did I would not have sufferrred so much the last 3 years. As mentioned previously, you become a shell and exist not live.

Be tough and tell her you do not want to hear any of her tales of passion with other men, its too painful for you. Go and socialise and meet other girls, move on, you are in stagnant waters.

best of luck
Grumble

[Oldfart]

Give her some tales back, and see how she likes it.

I've known a few "Queen Bees" in my time and the only way to

deal with them is to stick them on the back shelf and get a life.

[Oldfart]

And do not sleep with her even if it feels like your your balls

are going to explode and blow your legs off.

[Casperr]

If your balls feel like they are going to explode and blow your legs off, see a doctor very very quickly.

CasperTG

[dreamgurl]

awww that's too bad but i would serously find someone for myself if i were u and maybe she'll realize by how well u treat them that u were the right one all along

[Ozling]

thanks everyone, seems the voters are unanymous. ill try and get over her, though i've been trying. but now that i have some support behind the idea, hopefully ill go through with it.