Worry and Drama abound

[Incubus255]

Oh man, what a situation I'm in, You'll have to forgive me as I'm posting this right after receiving the news so forgive me if I'm a smiggen dramatic about everything , but do to the fact that it's the middle of the night and I have no one to talk to about all this , Hopefully typing it out will help relieve some of the worry lol

Anyway a little on the backstory , for those of you who don't know me very well I have a friend named Tabs, we've been good friends for about 6 years now and she's been with me threw thick and thin lol I know I can always count on her for anything, I can think of at least a few times where I'm not sure if I'd be here today if it wasn't for her,

anyway, about 3 years ago I went though a really bad break up, I had gone and gotten myself to be extremly attached to someone who didn't feel the same back for me and it was a very short relationship but one that hurt me deeply, anyway, to help me out I went and stayed at tabs place for a week, I can honestly say it was one of the best weeks of my life, all the pain I had been feeling and everything else just seemd to go away for that week and having all the pain I was feeling taken away , even if it was just for one week was completely priceless to me,

lol moving on, I naturally got attached to her (moreso as I had known her for a few years already and had already been interested) , however out of fear of just being on the rebound and fear that she didn't feel the same way I did, I eventually backed off and let things rest, not wanting to ruin our friendship, well about half a year after that incident, I ran into Shauna,(my girlfriend for the previous 2 and a half years) during this time I stayed good friends with tabs and she met up with someone she really cared for and he eventually moved in with her and they lived together for quite a while, mostly happily.

now skip ahead to present month, I've recently broken up with Shauna(much to the dismay of the people at the chat who have to listen to me constantly whine about her lol) and have been taken it rather roughly, however thanx to having tabs around I've managed to keep things together once again, although I'm still damaged goods as I like to think I'm on my way to healing, things went on like this for the last month.

Skip ahead to present week, Tabs tells me that her and her boyfriend are going on a vacation to meet up with her boyfriends old best friend and his girlfriend, they plan on having a foursome as tabs has been interested in the lifestyle for quite some time. anyway I've been eagerly awaiting her return this past week as I've missed her quite a bit lol

Skip ahead to present night, Tabs comes online telling me to call her tommorow night because she needs to tlak to me, the only details I got were that something big happened, her boyfriend was moving out right now, and that she has alot to tell me and that she'll explain everything tommorow night, shortly after she had to go in a hurry

I could tell she sounded very distant when I was talking to her, very detached and certainly wasn't sounding like herself, obviously I know something very serious would have had to happen for her boyfriend to have to move out the instant they got back, however I'm (EDIT: the word NOT was certainly not meant to be here lol EDIT)worried sick wondering what has happened and I have nothing to do but wait until tommorow night.

The anticipation and worry is driving me nutz I tell ya, I don't know what to prepare for so naturally I'm thinking the worst that could happen, I have no idea what I'm going to say to her when I talk to her since I don't know what happened, Naturally I'm assuming they had a fight but it must have been something mighty serious,

Anywya, I'll keep you guys updated once I find out everything that has happened tommorow night, thanx for givin me a place to get this off my chest!

[Grumble]

It helps to get it off your chest mate

It is good that you are able to be there for her and I can identify with your anxiety. Relationships can be so difficult and well in my person opinion when you share your love in reality rather than in fantasy it can be devestating and often fatal to it.

You cant live others lives for them, lord knows we make enough mistakes on our own LOL


So be there for her and that is what will help her most at the moment. Good on you Buddy, please keep us posted if you are able.

[Casperr]

Just relax Incubus. Worrying won't help anything!

Sounds like yes, something serious has happened - so you have be strong and be there for her. You need to make her as comfy as she made you after your breakup 3 years ago. That won't necessarily be possible, but you just have to do everything you can to support her.

Hope you feel better for getting it off your chest, and good luck for this evening!

CasperTG

[Steph]

I agree with Casper. It's payback time. It's now your turn to make her feel relaxed for a while.

Keep us posted, Sammy.

[Incubus255]

Well I just got the whole scoop after a whole lot of hasstle of actually getting the call though


well the basic scoop is that her boyfriend had been talking about a threesome and really encouraging it right from the start, well after the two of them had lived together for just about a year he decides that it would be a good idea for them to have a threesome with his best friend, well she and his best friend have been talking for a while and have grown close themselves

well they go on a vacation to his and his bestfriends hometown and thye are planning on having a threesome, well her boyfriend throws a major fit at the last minute , regardless of the fact the whole thing was his idea , and ends up telling his parents EVERYTHING that had gone on between him and her and they completely flip out, cornering her and his bestfriend screaming at them about how evil they are and shit

anywya his parents (he's 23 and had been living with her) decide that they are going to immediatly drive back to indiana, taking her with them, not giving her a chance to call her parents to let them know whats going on or even letting her say goodbye to his bestfriend and drop her at her house, procede to gather everything up and take him back home.

geez what a crazy hastle, so now eveyrthing is in the air because his bestfriend doesn't want to hurt him but his bestfriend and her want to be together now, they were even willing to stay in the threesome with him but he doesn't even like the idea of it at all (so why he encouraged it in the first place I have no freakin idea)

anyway so thats the situation lol just thought I'd fill everyone in on it

[Steph]

Nightmare, Sammy! Oh well, maybe she'll be happy with the new guy and her ex will be kicking himself for being a crazy nutbar. Like I said in chat, who in the hell tells his parents he was going to have a threesome?!?!

[gekkogecko]

Another senseless monogamy accident...

[jennaflower]

ROFL.. gekko.. good point :)


Just goes to show that bringing something from the "Fantasy" realm into the "Reality" realm isn't always beneficial and in MOST cases shouldn't be attempted. There are some fantasies are better left as just that.. FANTASIES... because no one truly gets hurt with a fantasy.. reality involves the heart and real emotions..


Lesson here... proceed cautiously and at your own risk.