How Old Should You Be To Have Sex?

[Esperanza]

I'm 19, I, just recently found a really great guy I like. He knows I'm a bi- sexual and that I'm a virgin. I've only started to go out with him for about a month and half, but I've known him since I was around 14, we've been best friends since then. He's not really trying to make me but he hints that he would like to get closer to me. I'm not sure if I'm ready, I mean.. yes. I've been with a women, but... thats not the same. I don't know what to do.

I would love to bring our relationship closer but, I'm not sures...

[Sharni]

If you have doubts....then i'd say the time is not right for you...

There is no limit on the age for losing viginity....You should be confident in your choices

Good luck on your decision

[LixyChick]

Welcum to Pixies Esperanza! I love the nic!

Go with YOUR feelings hun! Don't let anyone pressure you to do anything you don't feel is right at the moment! If he is a true friend he will wait and understand. Talk it over with him! Tell him how you feel! He can't read your mind and you can't read his. When the time is right you will know it and if he's the friend you think he is.....he'll still be around to take the plunge with you.

Best of luck and I hope you have a great time here!

[GingerV]

The rule of thumb I'd offer is that if you're not sure, you're not ready. It's different for everyone. For me it was 20, and when I was sure it was wonderful. Friends who weren't so sure don't say the same thing.

Trust yourself, you'll know.

[Slow Ride]

I agree wit Sharni !!!!!!!!!1


I told my Daughter(14 yrs) that she can have sex when she is 30 yrs.

[LixyChick]

Um...............SlowRide hunny? I lost my virginity at 14 y/o! Oh geezzzzzzzzzzzzz! OK........let's say I was 14 and 3/4 (nearly 15)!

And you want your daughter to wait till she's 30? Holy Moly.....she'll go crazy! LOL! Good luck with that one sweetums!

PS.....I was more mature than most for my age....if that makes you feel any better! *hugs*

[Esperanza]

That helps, I'm going to talk to him, I'm still not sure if I'm ready to go all the way, but i think it'll help if we talk.

Slow Ride: my dad said I couldn't have sex till I was 50!!! Oh well with that!

[Slow Ride]

Esperanza................*L* I guess it's a Dad thing, you think?



Lixy........Ida done you at 14( I had a different out look then)
at 14 I was sooooo horny all the time...........I think I tried to screw a pine knot one time............and once was all it took and later I found something much softer and wetter *wink wink*

[Esperanza]

Slow Ride, how old r u?
You seem or act pretty young...
You should see my mom, she keeps telling me to
get a man, we're hispanic, she had me when she was 16. Now she's 35! She wants grand babies... She wishes!
14, all boys are horny at that age!

[Slow Ride]

Esperanza......I'm older than I act, I'm 44 yrs old......... I may grow old,but I refuse to grow up *L*

BTW........ the 14 year old Daughter that I spoke of has a twin brother.

and might I say welcome to Pixies,and I find hispanic Ladies to be very sexy

[PantyFanatic]

Originally posted by Slow Ride
....... the 14 year old Daughter that I spoke of has a twin brother......
Was your advise the same for your 14YO son? LOL

And welcome to the group Esperanza. :)

[Slow Ride]

no comment *L*

[Esperanza]

Funny, I have a twin brother!!! He's such a player though... unlike me, he went to a regular high school. I went to a all girls school till I was a Sophmore! Your 44, bet your also married.... to bad. Though, 44 isn't old. I haves a step grap. who's 46! He acts and gets girls half his age!

I have five brothers, I know how guys act! Aww... thanx... pantyfanatic (luv ya name)

[Slow Ride]

Esperanza.......... no I'm not married, I've been divorced for going on two years.

[Grumble]

well I am 50 and dont think its old. I was a virgin till I was nearly 20 and very shy.

Its not the age that matters, its when you are ready. If I was 14 i would have been a willing starter too LOL.

I have a 14 year old daughter too, going on 15 in August and i hope she doesnt become sexually active till she is 18 or so.

You have to be sure in your own mind Hun.

Good luck and good loving.

Grumble

[BigDanRTW]

as a side note to this conversation: I love hispanic women, I think they are soooooooo sexy!!!!! :)

[BigBear57]

Hi Esperanza, I'm one in the SR's corner. I told my 14yr old she couldn't even date till she's 40. LOL She knows I'm kidding though. We cut up about things all the time. I also told her if we had any "early" grandchildren annoncements she'd make history as the only teenager with a child born really close to where Grandpa's foot was planted. I think the message got through too. She was given a pregnancy test at the Dr's office once and asked to sign an acknowledgement of its negative findings. When she realised what they'd done she asked why they didn't just ask her if it was possible she was pregnant. The Dr's answer was, "It's routine Honey we do it all the time." She quipped " You must not know my Daddy, he'd kill me!" LOL
Personally I don't think age has a bearing on when sex should happen. It's more of a maturity thing. One has to know the time is right and the partner is one they'll be happy about later on. Nothing ruins a first time like "settling" for Mr or Ms Right Now. Oh and if it matters, I'm 45.

[naughtyeddie]

well if you have doubts then you atre not ready
i first had sex at 25 and that was becausew my ex was not ready, we were together for 3 years but i guess we were not the right person for each other. i am now 35 and very happy about what happened or did not happen
wait until you are sure that the man you loose your virginity is the one you wanr to remember as that special one.

dont rush it

eddie

[RangerGuy20]

If you aren't sure about it, don't do it. It will only make you second guess the whole relationship. Once you feel that he shows that he is in the relationship for you and not your body, then you can talk about it.

[GermanSteve]

Simply BE what and who and how you ARE. If you have doubts, leave it.

[jogan]

I was 13 and horny as hell. She had "done it" lots of times. It was over in about 5 seconds and not a good experience. When was 16 I had a good relationship with a girl who will always be special to me though we are long parted.

[PantyFanatic]

Are you asking metaphysically or empirically?:rolleyes:

[osuche]

Originally posted by pantyfanatic
Are you asking metaphysically or empirically?:rolleyes:

Empirically, you're only old enough when you actually do it. That's circular logic in my book...

I was 13 and it was great -- the guy is still my best friend (with benefits) and I am now 26 (almost 27). Was I ready -- no...but I knew that I cared about THIS guy and that I needed to participate in this "rite of pasage." I was curious about being with a man and I trusted him to treat me well.

It's not just a emotional/lustful decision... Think about what you're trying to accomplish by having sex. Closeness with another person? Maturity? Pregnancy (please no)?

And then decide if that reason warrants your actions.

Best of luck...

[Dan99NY]

It depends how horny and mature the person is.

Putting aside maturity, some people look their best at 15 and their worst at 28. So if society tells a female she should not have sex until she's 18 and she gets really picky ... she might turn 28 with little or no prospects. You can replace the word "she" with "he" and the rule or theory still applies.

And, there are those people who are not ready even in their 30's. I"m thinking of that couple on "The Amazing Race".

[Tralis]

I thinkl the limit is when they feel ready, but know the mehtods of brith control.

[Esperanza]

thanks every1 that wrote somethin down...

Anywayz, i had a REALLY good vacation, my bf took me to Spain for a few weeks then we went to L.A. and he took me shopping. God... i now know i love that man.

Anywayz... I'm not a virgin any more, lucky me, my bf taught me everything r first night in Spain! =^_^=

Tralis... yeah, i'm now on b.c. (we wanted 2 be safe)
BigDanRTW.... I'm 100% spanish~_~

[Grumble]

well it seems you were ready Esperanza and now sound really happy and that is good :)

Welcome home and please keep posting

((((hug))))
Grumble

[darogle]

Do it for your own reasons...when you are ready. Don't just agree to it, because he wants to. It's been said before, but bears repeating...if you have doubts, you probably aren't ready. I say wait till it is what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

[Pussy Willow]

My son is 12 yrs. old and I've had the sex talk with him already.

I explained condoms and safe sex to him, and about what it means to be responsible. I wanted him to know the real deal from me before he hears anything from his friends.

When you lose your virginity it's gone forever. Be very choosy about who you lose it to. If you don't feel comfortable............
don't do it !!!!

[Fairy-Bird]

Originally posted by darogle
Do it for your own reasons...when you are ready. Don't just agree to it, because he wants to. It's been said before, but bears repeating...if you have doubts, you probably aren't ready. I say wait till it is what you want, when you want and with whom you want.



I totally agree... Esperanza I'm glad you had a good first time!! It's always the first you remember... not the third or the twenty third (exadgerating)... Glad you were able to talk it over and were ready!

[PantyFanatic]

Originally posted by Esperanza
.....Anywayz... I'm not a virgin any more, lucky me, my bf taught me everything r first night in Spain! =^_^=
.... I'm 100% spanish~_~

Please send me the video.:D I've not be a virgin for about 45 years, but still haven't learned everything...... I hope;)

Or is it just that I'm not 100% Spanish?:rolleyes: lol


I had THE same talk with both my son and daughter at about 14. I DIDN'T tell them they would burst in flames.:hot: As a matter of fact, WHEN the time comes, it's going to be something pretty special.:) So special it will be something they remember the rest of their lives,..... as much as getting married or having babies. That IS one of the FEW things that can only happen ONCE! I can't tell them and I'm SURE a partner can't be the one to decide when it's RIGHT. "They", alone, and only "them", will know when it should happen.:rolleyes: They each have responsibilities that WILL be there the day after. Some of them may be gender different, but they are going to be there. It's something SO good:D that it truly shouldn't have ANY bad points or second thoughts WHEN it's right for them.:rolleyes: That's one of the ways they'll know when it's right;)

I'm sure my son is going to be having a talk with my granddaughter in a few years.:cool:

[osuche]

So, PF, did oyu dread the TALK or was it something that oyu felt comfortable with?

...of course, all good advice.

[PantyFanatic]

Not at all. They weren’t brought up with any boogymen that would hit them with a bolt of lightening and was always thought that there was no magic to make something right. Magic only exists until you know how it works. Then it was just a mystery. So the concept of responsibility wasn’t quite so new to a kid.

Like all parents, we drew it as we built it. We always answered question but never any that weren’t asked. Because of the weird way we had brought them up, it was just kind of natural and not a lot awkwardness on either side.

(and I do know that we just got lucky. ;) got a couple good kids but I know it would be different if I had to do it again. [I truly believe in there not being any “magic answers”;)])