Why am I so mad ??????????????

[ChinesePussy]

Why am I so mad at him whenever I know he is watching Asian porn pictures from the internet?

I told him million times he can watch Cacausin porn females BUT NOT asian females. Because I am asian and I don't like him watching asian, coz i hate the fact that those bitch looks kind of sexy on those pix, so that is why he might compare me and those other asian. coz i am also asian too. But i don't mind him watching cacausin, i don't get jealouse at all.

It had been 4 years already, almost every year at this time, I found out that he keep a new links of asian bitch sites. I hate it so much. He told me he won't watch asian females sites, but he still doing that.

every time i got mad of him for this issue, i kicked him out of the bed at night, i don't let him sleep on the same bed as me. I don't even let him sleep as well. If he sleep in the sofa by hiself, i keep making noise i didn't sleep well as well. i don't want to let him sleep when i can't fall as sleep because of this stupid asian bitch stuffs. last night i we talked about that issue again coz last week i saw he keep a link, and when he knews that i know coz i ask him what is that. Then he deleted it right away after he knows i know. But i still mad from last Wednesday until today, almost a week already. why can't i get rid of this thoguht in my mind? why can't i accept this??????????? i just feel bad i told him that i don't like you to look at other asian more better than me. he told me that,"there is always someone out there who is better than me and you, that is life" When i heard that i even get mader I know there is always somone out there who is better than you, i know that no one is perfect but i hate when he is telling me the true, it makes me mad.:mad:

This problem had been discuss and fight for more than 4 years already , but it goes no where.

now why am I thinking like that all the time? is that because i am not working and i have too much free time on my hands that is why i keep diging out bad stuffs to fight?don't forget i hate fighting over this stupid porn issue. When ever he mad at me he said you should go to work, but whenever he is not mad at me, he said i don't have to go to work, is good to stay at home. i want to work as well., but look like i didn't see any job that i like and same as my hubby. he doesn't really like me to work for those jobs that i don't like.

now what is going on about myself? am i crazy?

[babybunny]

CP~ You answered your own question. You said you hate it because youre afriad he will compare you to the girls in the pictures.

I know how you feel at times. I to get worried that my husband would comapre me to the gorgeous girls online or on TV. But I have learned to deal with my insecurities. And yes that is what they are- insecurities.

My husband tells me not to worry, that I am the most beautiful woman he has ever seen. Yes, there are other ladies more beautiful, trimmer, fuller, (you fill in the blank) out there. But he is with me isnt he? He chose me. He doesnt make a big deal about the other girls. Sure he likes to look, and so do I. There is nothing wrong with appreciating beautiful people. The issue arises when you or him make an issue out of it. This is my opinion only. I think that you and him need to work out some things that seem to be bothering you. I hope you and him are both open and honest with each other and you can tell him how you feel. And the same with him, as I am sure he has some frustrations about the whole thing as well.

[ChinesePussy]

but he like to masturbate when he saw those bitch

[Shogun]

Dont worry so much CP. Talk to him about it. Im pretty sure he thinks about you when he looks at those pictures, thats why he likes asian porn.

[skipthisone]

*sigh* This is convincing me that women are just too complicated.

[Scarecrow]

Women


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[T-S]

Originally posted by skipthisone
*sigh* This is convincing me that women are just too complicated.

this might explain (http://www.humorpages.net/womanbuttons/)

[Lilith]

that damn near does sum it up doesn't it;)

[GingerV]

Be fair, guys...the girl's upset. First help her calm down, then tell her she was silly....cause you know as well I do that it just doesn't work the other way around.

CP: You said two things, I think. First, you don't want him to compare you. I think Bunny's right...that issue probably lies in you. Guys can masterbate to all sorts of images...not just the ones they find MOST beautiful...it could just be a momentary interest in a position or feature. Or just convenient. You're right to talk to your lover...but you also have to listen to him when he tells you when he doesn't prefer them to you.

The second thing you mentioned is trust. He told you he wouldn't look at THOSE sites (whether it was a reasonable request or not, he agreed to it). He did it anyway. You sound like you feel specifically betrayed because he did something he said he wouldn't. That can undermine trust, and isn't fair. Again you have to talk to him about this. And you have to be careful to seperate those two issues in your mind, because mixing them up is going to confuse him.

But ask yourself...if you were convinced that he thought you were the most beautiful girl in his world, would you care that he looked at pictures of women who looked like you? Maybe, if you spent some time looking at the pictures of asian women with him, and talking about what turns him on about those particular pics...you'd feel more comfortable that those pictures are just a piece, and you're the whole package. Dunno, really...just a thought.

Hope you can work through it.

[Loulabelle]

GingerV - You're my kinda girl! I couldn't agree more with what you've said here and I can only think of one thing to add:

ChinesePussy - he is looking at Asian girls like you because he finds Asian girls attractive........that means he finds girls who look like you attractive! Wouldn't it be worse if he was admiring women who looked nothing like you? Personally, I find it very hard to deal with when my SO lusts after petite skinny blondes because they are so different from me.

What I'm trying to say, is that you need to try to look at this from the positive angles which certainly do exist. And also, to look at it from his point of view......if he himself is Asian, it would be pretty damn hard for him NOT to be interested in looking at other Asian women........just like you posted on here the other day that you like looking at Asian men.

I hope you work through it together CP. :)

[Porn_king]

just look at it this way, hes chosen you, and even though he visits these sites hes still with you. sit down and talk to him about it, if he understands and stops then good if not then look at it another way, as louabelle said he is looking at asian women, who he finds attractive which means he would find you attractive because you are also worried.

this problem may not go away too easily. i myself had to deal with it when my girlfriend regularly went to a male strip joint, i couldnt face it because i felt that i would be seen as inferior to the strippers, we've sorted it out now. i accept her going to the strip joint on like special occasions which she does now, but she has to give me a night of sex afterwards

[ChinesePussy]

GingerV

reading your reply make me wants to cry.

Loulabelle and Porn_king

you are right i know. but i have to learn how to deal with this and accept this.

I think you guys are right is better to look at something that is also similar to me which is asian, what if he enjoy look for white blond porn and i don't have :( that i think is suck right? but i havem't think about it. i was thinking that i like him to look at differet one coz he won't compare to me, coz you can not compare a blond to an asian, coz it look different right? but i think he can compare me to other asian.

i want to yell out lound sometimes

anyway sometimes iff i am so mad i donn't let him sleep well at night. i guess if i do that i myself can't sleep well either. but i want to

ah........................i am i so pissed off by this ? fuck !

can i go out and trea on him because i am mad at him look at asian porn? can i go to have sex with another guy because i think he enjoy look other woman?

now tell me can i do that? i just want to have an even

[Deno]

CP, I don't think that having sex with someone else will help things at all. In fact, it will probably make things much much worse. Bad idea in my opinion.

Being a guy I can tell you that looking at porn has nothing to do with who you are with. I look at porn and never compair the girls in porn to my wife. My wife is the most beautiful thing in the world. Period.

Why do I still look at porn? Because it gives me visual stimulation, new ideas of fun things to try, etc.. But I have never wanted to have sex with the people I see online. (even though there are some sexy Pixies out there)

That's not to say you don't have a right to be mad, becuase he did agree not to look at Asain girls and you have caught him doing that. That was not nice of him at all. However, maybe you should talk to him and get things in the clear. Maybe he has a reason for liking Asains, after all, you are Asain.... Maybe it helps him visualize you in his mind when it is an Asain on the screen.

Besides, even if he does for some reason compare you to the girls online, I am sure you would win. Think about who he shares his bed with.. it's not the computer, it's you!

[ChinesePussy]

Deno

thanks :(

[Shogun]

Hey CP, werent you the one who was looking for pornographie pictures of asian men?

Whats up with equal rights?

Oh yeah, were all equal, women are just more equal than men.

[ChinesePussy]

no the reason i look for male porn is to make him mad

[Shogun]

Girl you shouldnt do that, revenge leads to revenge, itll keep going that way.

[erc25]

CP,
I am an asian guy so maybe I can share something with you. Yes I like to watch porn, any porn with any race, whether caucasians, africans or asians. There are beauty in any race, any color. And yes I do masturbate with any porn too.

But there is one thing for sure. I NEVER compare whatever is in porn with my lover. There is two totally different things. Whatever is in the porn is only for our arousal. It isn't really different with a lubricant or toy. It is just a tool for us to release ourselves. So your husband only look at it just as a tool to arouse himself. He never tries to compare you with whatever in the porn. For him it is only just a body, not even a person. When he looks at you, he sees a person, a person that he loves. So there is no comparison between you and whoever is in the porn.

[ChinesePussy]

erc25

can i have a picture of you nude?

[Porn_king]

and if your husband is the kind of person who compares, he would compare you with any porn he watches. be it breast size, technique, beauty or legs he would compare you to anyone, after all colour is only skin deep

when im watching porn with my girlfriend and theres a nice girl having sex on there sometimes i go 'man she's hot i wanna fuck her' and she does the same with the guys, which if fine cos both of us know we will never encounter any of those people and that we would only FUCK them, with each other we would make love.

so what i would do, let him watch any porn he wants (as long as its not sickening) but if after a while he'd rather watch porn than have sex with you or he calls a pornstars name out in bed, then i'd worry.

[ChinesePussy]

Porn_king

[Loren]

Originally posted by ChinesePussy

now tell me can i do that? i just want to have an even

Trying to have an even is a quick route to divorce court.

[Incubus255]

If it's one thing I picked up from my history teacher it's that it's ok to look as long as you don't touch


guys will always check out other attractive girls, you can't stop it, and really you shouldn't worry about it, just because a guy is attracted to a girl doesn't mean he's compareing you to her

Getting even with him is not the answer, that will only make things worse, from the way it sounds, your crashed down on him and he gets defensive and just tries that much harder to hide it, it might come down to the fact that your just going to have to accept the fact that he likes to look at porn, I understand how this can be a big deal to you but speaking as a guy , it in no way means he finds you less attractive