Iggy called and now I am lost

[IggysGirl]

Iggy called me today he is still in Kuwait which makes me happy but some of what he said makes me feel worried. He told me he lost his cool and choked one of his soldiers, this soldier has tried his patience repeatedly here. That soldier is getting kicked out of the army and will be back here Sunday. I have to take his file to the unit and have been told to hang up if this guy calls here and not to answer the door if he shows up. This guy used to crank call at all hours before they left for the ME. We talked to the commander about this but there wasn't much we could do since our phone number is on the alert rooster for Iggys other soldiers to have. The biggest part of the phone call that has me worried is he told me he feels like he has lost me, lost the connection we have. He wants me to send him all the pictures I have of us which I'll do. How do I reassure him that he hasn't lost me that I am right where he left me waiting? I have never in my life until I found Iggy been faithful to anyone. It's hard to explain but when I met Iggy it was like I found what had been missing in my life but I didn't realize it was missing until I saw him. We have been separated before because I had to come back stateside while he stayed in Germany but we talked everyday on the phone. I don't know what to say that can reassure him besides telling him I love him and staying faithful. I won't cheat on him and since we have been together I have stopped caring if I am hot or not, all that matters is Iggy loves me and finds me hot. I am just worried now that he is going to come back and decide he doesn't need me anymore.

[Lilith]

(((Iggy'sGirl)))

I bet my life his feelings of disconnection run deeper than he is exploring right now. He most likely feels removed from life or life as he knew it. You represent allll of that to him. When he gets home and sees that his life is still there for him he will feel more secure. He has been to war.....the world has changed for him now and he is probably fearful that he will never feel the same in it again!

As for this assholio that pissed him off. Be cautious but just be wise. If you have any sign of trouble report him immediately! don't hesitate or question yourself just make a complaint! Be safe!!!

[krzykrn]

We'll talk about it, but in the meantime *hug*

[kleclere]

IggysGirl as an ex member of the military I can tell you he is missing everything that is near and dear. The possiblity of loss of life is always on your mind. You need to send him letters more than once in a while. I know 2 or more a week kept me feeling that the one at home still thought of me and it gave me the drive to make it home alive. Keep telling him that you care, that you love him, that you want him. Good luck. And we are thinking of all of them.

[IggysGirl]

I write him everyday and he told me he has sent a letter but I haven't gotten it yet. The mail is very slow moving here to there and the same from him to me. I do know deep in my heart when he comes home he will see that I do love him. I am thinking that he is very lonely over there, we don't have very many friends so it is usually just us all the time. I can kinda understand why he feels he has lost the connection because I sometimes feel like I will never see my best friend again. He should hopefully ( and I have all fingers and toes crossed) be home by Sept/Oct. We will be going on vacation when he gets back so I will make it a priority to lavish all my love and attention on him.

[Steph]

(((((IggysGirl))))))) Have you recorded a cassette to send him? That might help . . . he hopefully was just having a down day when you talked.

[blastpdb]

I like Stephs Idea, its good to hear a lovers voice when your in this kind of life. Being so far away and not knowing whats going to happen tomorrow let alone today is hard and you do have a lot of bad days. I once was in this situation. Good luck.

[Grumble]

I agree with Stephs idea too. It is great to hear a voice it even better than getting a letter.

he is in a difficult situation and it is so hard for you both.

You have found yourself now and your love and committment show through.

keep your hopes and chin up, stay focussed on your love I expect things will turn out ok

Hugs
Grumble

[BigBear57]

(((((((Iggy's))))))))

Darlin, I have very little doubt that time your eyes meet again the flame will consume him. In times of absolute strain men tend to think in unusual ways. He may think any number of misconstrued things. It's easy to feel your committment and loyalty through your words. Faith, Love and Time Hon.... the hardest tools to use but the most proven and trustworthy of all. Hang in there. My thoughts hugs and prayers for you.

[IggysGirl]

I just thought I would tell you all how I am dealing with this. Today I mailed out a big box of things I know will remind him of me and home. He likes to buy big bags of lifesavers and he always saves the lime ones for me so I bought him a couple bags and left the green ones in. I also spent a good portion of last night making a photo album for him, looking through those old photos brought back many good memories for me so they should brighten his day when he gets them. I stalked his cat until I could get a picture of the fat bastard so Iggy can have picture of him too. When he opens the box he should get a healthy whiff of my perfume, I drenched the box and put some things in there that should retain the smell. I just wish there was a way I could mail myself to Kuwait.

[PantyFanatic]

So does he baby, so does he. :cool:



;)

[Grumble]

I am so impressed how you are handling all this Hun.
What a great idea to make that photo album, what an act of love and caring :).
It sure is tough being a soldiers girlfriend.
I was thinking a bit about how it all effects you too. Arent there some mutual support groups where the wives/girlfriends/so's of servicemen away on duty get together and help each other when it gets too hard to handle? perhaps you could find out and join one where other people in your own situation can make you feel less alone.
Just a thought
big hugs
Grumble

[dicksbro]

I think your guy is very lucky to have a girl who misses him so much. I sure hope that he'll get transferred back home soon so he can return the green life savers. I love the idea of a picture album. If it were me, I know I would.

I'm sure he misses you just as much and is chomping at the bit to get back home to be with you.