??????????just curious??????????

[horseman12]

I was just pondering, why did my sister have to die @ 16 by a drunk driver, yet the driver lived?

I understand everything happens for a reason, but has anyone other than me ever questioned that reason?











Just curious?

[Lilith]

I don't think there is a reason. Things happen to the people we love, good people who deserved better and there is no reason. It bites. No rationalization....

I am sorry for your loss. It was a needless tragedy.

Some people believe every life has a purpose and that although we are not exactly sure what everyone's is they meet this purpose and then move on. Did your sister's life have a purpose? I'd be willing to bet it did and that she gave her gift to someone....


Damn I am getting all metaphysical here! I believe that although her life may have been ended senslessly her life must have been full of meaning and purpose.

[Scarlett]

I always wonder why the drunk driver lives too. My brother was killed in a wreck involving a drunk driver. The driver was fine and he is now in prison. He family was all weepy at the trial but I had no sympathy, he was coming back from jail in a few years. My brother isn't coming back.

[dicksbro]

For sure there's no understanding. Maybe someday it'll make sense, but I don't know how. My deepest sympathy, horseman.

[Grumble]

it is all imponderable, beyond our understanding. No sense or reason to it at all.

I like many wonder at the justice system. How some people push for murderers to be paroled early for good behaviour, the victim never gets an appeal on sentence or any reprieve for good behaviour. It is the victim that gets forgotten. Also the families and loved ones of the victim who have to serve a full life sentence and live with the grief and loss for the rest of their days.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr it makes me so bloody angry.

Horseman, my deep sympathy mate.

[fzzy]

Wish I had a great answer for that question as well .... and send my heartfelt sorrow at the loss of such promising lives ....

Now, I'm going to get a bit practical ... sometimes the very reason that the drunk driver comes out so much better off in bad accidents has to do with their slowed reflexes .... they don't react as quickly (which gets them into the accident) and so their body doesn't get all tense, etc. so when their body hits the "immovable object" they sustain much less bodily damage.....doesn't answer why the other person(s) had to die .... but does answer why the drunk driver survives in better shape so often.

[don73153]

My deepest sympathy at your loss, bro. Don't know the reason, other than to believe that the Lord had a higher mission for her.

[LixyChick]

Beliefs! How do we go on without solid answers?

I'm so sorry for your loss and for your sorrow to this day!

It seems to me (without getting too deep) that it is true that....."to everything there is a time and a purpose".....and yet I think ours is not to know ALL of the answers but to learn from the mistakes.....whether we are the ones making them or another makes them for us to see and know that it is indeed wrong.....and therefore, not to follow in the same path and repeat the same senseless mistakes. Maybe once the human factor FINALLY stops repeating the senseless act of driving under the influence............this tragedy will never be repeated again to families to bear the burden of question.

It's such a sad thing to have to see this scenario repeated......us, at the mercy of all who are ignorant of the impact they have on the lives of the loving, surving family mambers!!!!! We are given choices. That some very wrong choices are continually made is the hardest part to understand!

*hugs*

[BlueSwede]

Horseman, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. :(

[quisath]

We stand behind you My Friend. You have my deepest Sympathy.

[babybunny]

*Hugs Horseman* I am sorry hun. My sister-in-law's monther-in-law (if that makes sense) was killed in April by a drunk driver as well. He was fine while She was killed on impact (head on collison) I cant answer as to why the majority of these drivers live while the victims die (or maimed) and their families suffer. I can only take comfort that the drunk driver will be tormented having to carry that burden for the rest for his life.

[Loulabelle]

Horseman12 - I am more than happy for you to completely disagree with me here, but don't you think that after a trauma as massive as an accident like that, the greatest kindness to your darling sister was for her to be given peace and the greatest punishment for the drink driver is for him to live the rest of his life with the guilt and torment of what he's done?


It's just a different perspective to look at life, and while it doesn't make you miss her any less it is at least a possible answer to the question of 'Why?'

Maybe.


((((((horseman12))))))

[Aqua]

You have my thoughts and prayers too Horseman, although I do not know if you will ever have an answer as to a reason, I encourage you to keep the memory of your sister alive.

[horseman12]

Thanks to all of you!!!!

thanks for the diffrent perspective, and although I have thought about the possibility of these ppl having to carry the burden for the rest of there lives, I stop and think that thier is those who for whatever reason have no conceince(sp) about what they have done, I guess the main reason I have a problem understanding is life is to short so why screw it up, you only get one shot at it, and why screw it up for someone else, I don't know thier is alot of madness in this world, Hell I rode bulls for years, where is the logic in that???


Life is funny.....