Women on Top!

[girls_rule]

AKA, the Cowgirl position. Which I didn't know prior to Pixies. I like that!

I have not had sex cowgirl style before although it's something I really want to do. Every time I bring it up to my husband he isn't interested and said that it won't work for him, like I won't be able to get him off that way. First off I'm thinking so what, we could start like that and move to another position after it's been enjoyable for me, but that aside, I'd like it to be fun for both of us, especially since he's tired alot and doesn't have the necessary energy for sex so if I could master the cowgirl then I could be satisfied more often.

Any suggestions? I've seen lots of posts about chairs and that makes sense to me, then you have a bit of support and it's easier to bounce up and down in a fast enough motion.

I think the key for us is to try this when we're both really in the mood, the more fired up you are the easier it is to get off! :p

[Lilith]

#1 suggestion is to not ask

#2 think like a cowgirl...if he bucks threaten to rope him :p

#3 rock and grind your hips...you don't have to just bounce

#4 do not wear spurs...it frightens them...but a hat, bandana, and bollo tie are acceptable attire;)

[Aqua]

Originally posted by Lilith
#1 suggestion is to not ask

#2 think like a cowgirl...if he bucks threaten to rope him :p

#3 rock and grind your hips...you don't have to just bounce

#4 do not wear spurs...it frightens them...but a hat, bandana, and bollo tie are acceptable attire;)

Lilith is right on! But also remember, you don't have to limit this position to straddling his thighs... ;) Practice muffling his hearing with your knees... :D

[Lilith]

Originally posted by Aqua
Lilith is right on! But also remember, you don't have to limit this position to straddling his thighs... ;) Practice muffling his hearing with your knees... :D


Muff being the key word:p

[Sharni]

Ohhhhh good advice Lil & Aqua!! :fly:

[Steph]

I personally like cowgirl style when he's lying on the bed and I usually put my hands on his chest. A back and forth motion more than a up and down movement will bring me to orgasm.

[ericthered]

A man who doesn't like cowgirl? Now I've heard everything!

Try persuading him to turn up the other was 'because you want a short rest'. If that doesn't work, tie the bastard down.

Can I ask a question along the same lines? I have been extremely surprised by little brown girls in Indonesia who kneel in a classic cowgirl position, and then change to actually sitting with their knees up. It looks as if it's so far up inside them that you'd expect it to come out of their ear. Now I'm and average sort of guy (I suppose) but these girls are SMALL. How do they do it!

[Casperr]

Women are amazin' creatures, Eric... :)


girls_rule, I don't have many more suggestions than have already been posted here - I definitely agree that trying it one time when he's not tired and you're both in the mood is a good start!

Just a question - have you actually tried it yet? Or does he just say he won't like it before he's even tried?

Another thing to consider - cowgirl doesn't always have to be facing! An added spice could be to face away from him while you do it.... different angles, different motions... and he gets to look at your cute but LOL :)

Hope this helps!
CasperTG

[krzykrn]

Originally posted by girls_rule
AKA, the Cowgirl position. Which I didn't know prior to Pixies. I like that!

I have not had sex cowgirl style before although it's something I really want to do. Every time I bring it up to my husband he isn't interested and said that it won't work for him, like I won't be able to get him off that way.

I am confused by his reaction...to get things straight, he won't try it because he thinks that HE won't get off...isn't that a little bit selfish? I have done plenty of things where I have not gotten off, but what gives me great pleasure is watching my partner get off from what I am doing to her. Even if he doesn't get off and you do, that just means he gets to go in another position right after and going...and going...well you get the idea :) Anyway hope I am not out of line with my comment, not trying to put your lover down, but to me it just smacked of selfish thinking. Anyway, good luck with trying out the position, for me, I love when a woman is on top of me, gives me more options to play with her :D

[Rifter]

I can understand where he is comeing from but not why he is unwilling to try it, when my GF is on top it is not as enjoyable for me and i could last for hours. However this is why she can go on top till she reaches her first orgasm or second at which point we change posistions and then i can start working on me getting off. I like it when my GF goes on top since i find that after she has been on top for 10-20 min and we change posistions then i can go for alot longer without cumming than if we had started in another posistion. just my 2 cents.

[girls_rule]

To answer a few questions posed by CasperGT and krzykrn.

We have never tried me on top and I agree with all of you that it's an amazing thing for him to not want to try. What guy wouldn't want to sit back and be pleasured? Well my husband is not very sexual. Getting him to have sex at all is like pulling teeth. Partly because he doesn't feel very well all of the time and sex definetly requires energy and I suppose how can you feel sexy when you are not feeling great. What he doesn't get is that it doesn't always have to be so much effort, we can just touch each other or I don't at all mind just satisfying him. As for him satisfying me, he is not a selfish person at all, he's actually a very loving and giving husband, but for some reason it doesn't flow over to the bedroom. : (

[ScottWaz]

maybe he doesnt like it because he thinks he isnt in control, and thast not exciting to him, so he gives you another reason, try telling him that he doesnt have to do any of the work and its all about you pleasing him (dont mention that it will most likely work for you too) and see what he says.

[naughtyeddie]

i cant figure him out either. admitedly i have only cum twice in this position, i find it useful to satisfy my partner when i am exausted or to catch my breath between positions.

[bigvolfan]

Well if I may....
this is ususally a finish position for us. I mean, I just can't take the view and the pleasure for very long.

My wife loves this position and make that move almost every time.



Maybe he doesn't like this position because it cuts down on his lasting power.

[nicocujo]

My wife likes the cowgirl position very much. It allows me to use my hands and mouth to stimulate her all over. Oh what a feeling!

[Incubus255]

lol me and my ex used to dry hump like that (we were both waiting till marriage lmao something I'm quite glad I decided to do now that she's gone) she was the one who always started it, I always thought she really liked it but appearnly she was doing it more for my sake than anything else lmao, of course I didn't care for it much considering the fact that dry humping like that is a bit sore on a guy without something to slip into so to speak lol, so really it just ended up being painful for me and a big waste of time for us all.

Just another example of why open communication is a good thing, and sometimes worrying about the other persons feelings really shouldn't stop you from telling the truth lmao

Really I think the whole thing with me not telling her stems from the fact taht she always got massivly depressed when she couldn't make me cum with her mouth, man life is a pain in the ass lol