Cabrylla asked an important question....

[jennaflower]

I noticed that during the Blowjob thread, Cabrylla asked an important question... one that I have no doubt fellow Pixies (both male and female) may have a weeeee bit of insight on...

The quote from Cabrylla:

okay...will admit to a certain fondness of how should i say...ah yes...blowjobs...but that raises another question...I have a phobia of the mouthful and have never actually allowed it to happen so any advice on how to deal with the "first time" would be much appreciated.

[jennaflower]

Cabrylla...

Giving a blowjob, is by far one of my favorite was to pleasure a man.. I truly enjoy giving more than receiving... (but that is another topic)...

I know that swallowing doesn't come naturally for many women, but to be completely honest, there is no reason that it shouldn't be done (unless you have questions regarding std's, then you propably shouldn't be having any form of sexual contact with him).

Every man has his own distinct flavor which can be altered depending on what he eats. This being the case, there isnt' really a way to describe it accurately. I can only tell you that it isn't going to be a "horrible" taste... that it is definetely tolerable..

You might want to consider swallowing as you go... or waiting and swallowing when you must.. LOL :)

[Lilith]

or you may never want to swallow at all and that is ok too. There are no absolute musts in giving someone pleasure. Do what comes natural and what you are comfortable with. If you are loving it, he will be able to tell and if you aren't, he will see that too. So just being relaxed and enjoying the experience can be more important than how you "finish it off".

[BigBear57]

And if either of you feels the need to demonstrate for Cabrylla, I'd be honored to volunteer my services. Give, give, give.... that's just how I am.:rolleyes:

[Lilith]

Selfless BigBear57......:p

[Sugarsprinkles]

Well, I don't know if anyone had a bigger phobia about swallowing than I did. I had loved giving hubby bj's for years, but it was always foreplay for us. Until recently I had NEVER even had a man cum from me giving him a bj. But since being at Pixies I've become more willing to try new things and I made up my mind that I would do my damnedest to overcome my fear. So, without a lot of detail, I DID IT!!! It wasn't nearly as bad as I'd expected. And however 'unpleasant' it may have tasted, I'm happy I did it, and I look forward to doing it again. And I'd love nothing more than to do it for and with my husband!!! :)

[jennaflower]

BigBear57... you're volunteering....hmmmm.. you know... actually.. that is do-able... after all.. Cabrylla lives right near me... wouldn't be difficult at all giving her a demonstration... but... alas... you live soooo far away :(

[Cabrylla]

no no...demonstrations won't be necessary...honest...i know how to suck a dick just wasn't sure about the placement of the after effects...well...okay...nevermind....*goes to wake up before saying anything more*

[jennaflower]

shhhhh... Cabrylla... don't be tellin Bear that demonstrations aren't necessary... come on.. work with me here girl :) LOL

[BigBear57]

Hmmmmmmm looking at my map. Missouri thattaway... ok when I get there I'm gonna act like I live there and say "Show Me"

[jennaflower]

hmmm... no words necessary... just your gaze will do :) LOL.... just remember... that many who venture into the ozarks never come out the same...

[BigBear57]

Why do the words from a beer commercial come to mind?
You remember.... Bushhhhh, head for the mountains

[jennaflower]

ROFL.. too funny...

[Murphy]

What Jen Said... There's something about the Ozarks... come for a visit, stay for a lifetime.... I know Several of us who did.

And Cabrylla, like anything else, if you want to, just do it!

[ericthered]

For what it's worth, here is a quote from my latest book (blush!).

"I suppose there are men who don’t like to give their women the fun of oral sex, although I can’t say I’ve ever met any. Let us suppose such a man exists, what should be his attitude? Should he say my woman wants it so I must give it to her, or on the other hand can he say I don’t like the idea so it’s out of the question? Difficult, isn’t it? The truth is, of course, that most of us live in the gray area in between. We don’t particularly like something, or it’s boring or difficult, but because our lover enjoys it we’re prepared to go along. We enjoy our partner’s pleasure, and are hopeful that our compliance will be rewarded by something nice in return.
No one is going to say that you must let him come in your mouth, but think about what exactly he is asking you to do. Even at his hungriest, he is only going to produce a teaspoon or so of come, so you are not going to drown. It doesn’t taste completely revolting – you’ve taken medicine that is far worse. And it’s not going to poison you. So any uneasiness you might have is just about the idea of it. Some people won’t eat prawns or avocado because they don’t like the idea or the feel on their tongues (and that just makes them taste all the worse). If they can’t enjoy prawns and avocado, it’s their loss and there’s more left for the rest of us. But if you can’t give your lover a complete blow job, it’s his loss.
Most couples arrive at some sort of compromise. Some moral and very strong minded women actually refuse oral sex on themselves because they don’t want to suck their men to completion – that really is a case of throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Many women seem to give their men some fun until they are ready to come, and then finish them off either by hand or with their pussies. Don’t feel embarrassed if you are one of these. No one is being judgmental – except you yourself, of course.
If you are being self-critical, for once I have to agree with you. Imagine: you have been working hard at him, putting all you skill and heart into bringing on an agonizing, ecstatic orgasm, and at the last minute what are you going to do? You’re going to take him out of your hot, wet, inviting mouth and point him at the ceiling? What sort of message does that send? He’s your man and it’s his come he’s giving you. You can reject it, of course, but do you really want to? He doesn’t particularly want you to swallow it, but he does want to be inside you when he comes. If you had a cock, wouldn’t you feel the same?
Practically speaking it’s difficult to refuse, so what are you going to do? One strategy is to make sure he is well back in your throat as he comes. A quick swallow, just like taking a pill, and the problem has gone. If you don’t like to do that, just hold it in your mouth. Once he has finished, turn yourself around and share it with him in a big kiss. This is called snowballing and has the advantage of being very politically correct. Or you can just let it go, drop it on him or the bed sheet, where ever and wipe your mouth with the corner of the sheet. Don’t make a big deal of spitting it out; that’s rude and bad manners. It’s also very rude to run to the bathroom and gargle mouthwash. This sort of behavior is not lady-like so don’t do it!"

[Loulabelle]

I have to say that swallowing has never been my favourite thing. and one of the things that in the past has caused me a problem is the shooting sensation when it hits the inside of your mouth.

It's a difficult thing to explain to someone who hasn't experienced it, but I've found that that alone can sometimes stimulate the gag reflex.

However, I've discovered it really is about how you feel about the situation in general. Having got over my own 'issues' about oral sexin general (both giving and receiving) and being with a guy who is loving and respectful and not blow-job obsessed, I've found that I really enjoy it if I'm highly aroused and when I'm in control of the situation........like most people. I don't enjoy something if I feel obliged to do it, but thankfully, I don't ever feel obliged anymore.

The most important thing is not to put pressure on yourself about it or allow anyone else to put pressure on you. It's not worth fucking yourself up about and giving yourself sexual hang-ups which weren't previously a problem.

[LixyChick]

It's never been a problem for me. I can imagine why it would be for some, as I know that most people aren't all that willing to try something orally (be it food or anything else) that they have never had before. But I am from the school that I will try almost anything once and if I like it, it's on my menu! I've never had a problem swallowing.....anything! Pills, a shot of liquor, cum, etc.

There is a drink (dunno if it is local) around here called a "Dr. Pepper"....which is made with a mug of beer (your personal fave) into which you drop a shot of rootbeer schnapps and then slam it down in one gulp. I've never missed a drop! Some people have to swallow a few times before it is gone. I just open my throat and let it flow. I think I was a sword swallower in another life.....LOL! I'm not bragging here.....just letting you get the picture difference. It's the same with me for swallowing his cum. The only time I gag is if I take his cock so deep I nearly swallow it along with his load.

Geezzzzzzz, I should shut up. This is getting awkward to explain.

I do notice a difference in taste if air hits his cum before I swallow it. For example.....if I lick it off certain body parts that it was spewed on instead of keeping my mouth on his shaft. But, all in all.....it's still wonderful.

That's my take on it....for what it's worth!

[kleclere]

Cabrylla if it bothers you to have it in your mouth let him cum on your breasts, or if so inclined your face. You don't have to swallow all the time.

[Nuelaan]

I've really only had one woman swallow. It was the same woman that I had sex with for the first time. All along I had always given her the warning, but this time she mumbled no and stayed on it. Ericthered is right about one part imperticular, swallowing is one thing, but what I really want is that you don't stop the sensation of your mouth at the time I want it the most.

[Cabrylla]

just wanted to thank you all for the interesting and informative responses

[Uncle Silky]

*stifles laughter* Mm hmm...

[Cabrylla]

Originally posted by Uncle Silky
*stifles laughter* Mm hmm...

Sooo my favorite Amish delight..somethin funny? *grins and pffffts you*

[Uncle Silky]

Ya know, in a perfect world, I'd wake up tomorrow as an old black man that pilots a handcart.

[Cabrylla]

and if it were a perfect world, you'd wake up tomorrow a broken down race horse on the way to the glue factory

[LindyP]

ah such great topics!

Swallowing is easy (I thought anyway). Just keep going and let him shoot it in your mouth.

My first time I had his cock in pretty far, and it seemed just a slight feeling of volume suddenly appearing in my mouth.

I swallowed right away and really barely even tasted it.

I was so curious that I was eager to explore the sensation again and experiment.

[krzykrn]

[i]I was so curious that I was eager to explore the sensation again and experiment. [/B]

All this talk about experimentation, makes me wish I could be a test subject *looks in the local paper to see if such a test is running*...

I have actually never had this pleasure, only two women have ever wanted to go down on me, but they could never bring me to fruition that way...at least it gives me something extra to look forward to...someday :D

[Cabrylla]

Originally posted by krzykrn
All this talk about experimentation, makes me wish I could be a test subject *looks in the local paper to see if such a test is running*...


dang papers...I still can't find the ads for men offering their...um...helping limb for blow job practice

[krzykrn]

Originally posted by Cabrylla
dang papers...I still can't find the ads for men offering their...um...helping limb for blow job practice

Hey, if you find any, let me know Cabrylla! :) Hehe on kind of a side note, been looking for a part time job, so I ventured on a local posting board...and there was a posting entitled "GET PAID FOR WHAT YOU ARE ALREADY DOING!!!" I clicked on the link and it was a clinic asking for sperm donors lol