I surfed here cuz I wasn't happy with a guy and then . . .

[Steph]

a year later he sends me an e-mail telling me he's wondering what site I was on (I think I broke it to him gently about sex sites but I really have no idea why I would do such a thing!!!).

He's in a relationship, I'm in a relationship . . . this thread overlaps so many threads . . . he's not stalking me, he's curious, just bought a new computer .. .

If you know me, I'm easily identifiable on this site . . . would you tell him about this site or no?

I hope this post isn't too confusing to you. It's confusing to me. If you have any questions, please post them and I'll answer.

This guy seemed like a good guy and I thought I could live with him forever but doubts clouded my mind. The sex wasn't all it could have been, I didn't want to live where he lived, I couldn't mention Pixies to him . . .

enter Tyler . . . ANOTHER post to Pixies . . . I'm deciding between the two of them, Tyler was the MUCH better choice, Tyler respects Pixies, the other guy would have mocked it in an argument . . .

[Lilith]

wow....you just basically said guy #1 was a lousy fuck:rolleyes: so I don't think I would give him the URL unless you are hoping we can remediate him:o:D:p

btw if you do tell him...pm me to delete this thread:D

[PantyFanatic]

It’s always hard to give honest opinions here with the limited info that can be given in the complicated human relations department.

As I read it, … you were with this guy long enough to feel that there was more wrong with the relationship than there was right. While you seem to feel that at the moment, his interest is innocent or reminiscent for you, one note stands out to me.
…...I couldn't mention Pixies to him . . . the other guy would have mocked it in an argument . . .
That makes me feel you shared “attitude shifts” with him. I’d be less inclined to bring him in until he showed that he had a “participating interest” in this subject and not just in you. That would require developing a dialogue that you already decided once you didn’t want.

[Steph]

No need to delete this thread, I'm not going to tell him :)

I have no idea why he wanted to know about sites I posted to, PF . . . I'm just going to ignore his request. I thought it was kind of creepy, actually.

[Oldfart]

Perhaps he thought he could have the relationship with you in cyberspace

he was incapable of in the real world.

Probably not a good thing to encourage.

[Oldfart]

Late again, as usual.

[Steph]

LOL Oldfart

He bugged me about it again so I asked if he was lacking something in the bedroom with his current girlfriend and offered to talk to him as a friend about it. Haven't heard from him since!

[Grumble]

Glad you are happy Steph - you did the right thing