Is Pixies your dirty secret?

[Loulabelle]

I've been thinking about this for a while, and Aqua's thread that Skip just bumped has prompted me to ask:

How many of you have 'real life' friends who know that you frequent this place?

If you post pictures, do they know about those?

Likewise, if you write stories do your 'real life' friends know? Have they read any?

Do you find it easier to be open about Pixies with men or women?


Is Pixies your dirty secret, or do your friends/ family know?

[skipthisone]

I have one rl friend who knows about pixies, she just posted for the 1st time a few weeks ago...

I have also recently brought my SO here for the 1st time a few weeks ago. However she does not know about Skip. Skip is my own little secret self and he and the way he acts rarely comes out in the real world. My SO has read some of my stories and things most are a little weird, so I stopped showing them to her.

Basically, know one but the one friend of mine knows how often I frequent this wonderful place and I do not see that changing.

[Loulabelle]

Hmmm - Skip you couldn't be more different to me! Lol

Most of my friends know about Pixies.......they ALL know I write stories......a lot know I've posted Pictures.........and a fair few have actually seen them for themselves!

Having said that it is mainly men who know about the pics as I feel more comfortable telling them. Some women are just too uptight sexually to let in on the secret.

I'm wondering if women are more open about these things than men. I do feel it's harder for men to be honest about their sexuality as if they are honest with women, they may be seen as lecherous and in my experience men are not good about talking about intimate things with other men.

Just my little theory. I'd be happy to hear otherwise. :)

[skipthisone]

To be honest Lou, I would love to scream it from the rooftops and be open about who I am...but alas, I live in an uptight little town and have uptight little friends who would not understand....Also Pixies would not go over well when I am working on political campaigns.

[dm383]

The only person who knows I come here is Celticangel.... and I introduced her to the site principally cos I didn't want to have ANY secrets... and it's turned out, she loves it here just as much as I do!
As far as anyone else is concerned... well, I just don't know anyone else I know well enough to talk about it - sounds weird, I know, but since I came back to Scotland from 9½ years in the Isle of Man, I haven't made that many friends (I know, SA-A-D!) CA has several VERY close friends... but she feels that Pixies is just for US....... a bit selfish maybe, but she also feels a bit "shy" about her friends seeing our pic post(s)... can't say it worries ME that much, but I know where she's "coming from"!
So basically it's OUR secret.... but it's one we both love to share...... and enjoy!! :D

The other part of not telling anyone is the somewhat hypocritical attitude of West-of-Scotland people towards sex and sex-sites... LOTS of people will look at/enjoy/perv over sex sites, but God forbid you actually TALK about it!! Bit of a bummer really, cos I think a few of the people I work with could learn a LOT from the folks here... but, c'est la vie!! Their loss!!

DM

[Loulabelle]

It's such a shame that people are so uptight: or at least they pretend to be.

I've been amazed at how accepting everyone is when I tell them. Like it's no big deal. I think perhaps there's a little Pixie in all of us, and that only some people feel they are in a position to let it show.

I suppose my philosophy is: If I show my Pixie self, it'll help others to show theirs.

[dm383]

Wish I could be as open and (?)daring(?) as that Lou.... unfortunately, working for the NHS means I have to be a LITTLE BIT circumspect! Like I said...... BUMMER!! ;)

DM

[BlondeCurlGirl]

Alas, Pixies is my dirty little secret as well. I've grown up in a family where I was always told to be a good girl and of course we didn't talk about sex at home...although it's starting to happen now that my younger brother has hit 16. For quite some time I've wanted to expand my sexual horizons, yet have really been unable to do so until now.

I also have a group of friends that are very awesome, yet very narrow-minded when it comes to sex. Sure, we'll divulge some of our sex life secrets, but of course everyone denies things that go beyond the basics of fucking. Bring up masturbation, and of course they will say they don't do that. One friend who just got engaged won't even tell me if she's lost her virginity yet...she's a good Christian girl of course, and certainly won't live together before marriage either. Now you see what I'm dealing with here. I'm also the ONLY one of my friends that has had more than one sex partner. Go figure.

Recently, I've tried to let out little clues that I'm into much more sexually adventurous topics than they are. When talking about all the reasons to buy a new computer recently, I "jokingly" suggested to a friend that they could post some nude pics on the net. Of course she responded with a look of shock and disgust. I brought up my interest in taking some couples pics with my last boyfriend, and he was taken aback. He told me that I wasn't that type, and was almost offended that I'd want him to get naked online with me.

I too would love to tell my friends how awesome this place really is. It has helped broaden my views and introduced me to a lot of pleasurable things I would not have experienced otherwise. I also feel the site is rather safe and welcoming, the perfect place for the beginner to start...it's certainly much better than these sites that are now being advertised on the banner ads. I would never have started out looking at these.

Thank you Pixies. :) I'm sorry I have to keep you secret. :(

[Aqua]

The only people that know I am here at Pixies are already here, so no, no one from my 'real life' knows about it. It is a secret from my S/O and unfortunately it will always need to be, so I daren't tell anyone else about it lest someday word get back to my S/O. I would love to tell people about it. I know people I could tell about it, and they'd be happy to check it out, maybe even post pics. But it is not to be.

[fzzy]

I have a couple of female friends who know I post here ... most have read 1 or more of my stories and know that I've posted pics ... although all the pics I've posted have been somewhat conservative for this site. My friends are fine with me doing this and are supportive, but aren't particularly interested in joining the site.

[blkcat]

reading this thread and some of the others,it seems a lot of pixie people are here with out the knowledge of there S/Os,that suggests that there is a problem in their relationships,that
need to be addressed

[BlondeCurlGirl]

blkcat, I think you are going to extremes...some members just know for sure that their S/Os for example are not as sexually expressive or into these topics in the first place. The other one not knowing does not necessarily suggest relationship problems. I for one think by saying that it's almost like you are suggesting we are the root of a deeper problem. :rolleyes:

I know the ex I mentioned was simply too conservative. Therefore I knew from that point that I'd be a solo pixie until I find someone more willing to participate in a site like this. :p

[Lilith]

Mr. Lilith knows all.... and Summer here is my r/l bestest friend. Obviously she has seen my pics as I have seen hers. I get a bit squeamy when I think about her hubby seeing them but I seem to be able to deal with it.

Many people know I moderate at a site of an adult nature but I splain it off like a cyber nanny keeping kids off the site (definitely a partial truth).

I have to be careful because I would not be able to get a job if I was to be recognized in my community. Otherwise I would wave my freak flag high and proud.

[blkcat]

Sorry BlondeCurlGirl,if anything has to be kept from ones S/O
the relationship needs work,other than the physical side it is
much like having an affair,

[jennaflower]

nope.. I do not keep this place secret... my friends all know about it... some of them know the name of this place specifially.. others just know that I frequent places like this... in my group of friends... I am considered the most "sexual", "spontanious", crazy, etc... so none of them are at the least bit suprised...

[Santiago]

i told some of my friends about it, one even signed up (but that was probably just to see pics of my gf on here...he could have just asked me to show them to him :P )

[jennaflower]

Originally posted by blkcat
Sorry BlondeCurlGirl,if anything has to be kept from ones S/O
the relationship needs work,other than the physical side it is
much like having an affair,

Altho I appreciate your opinion blkcat, I must disagree.

I think it is great that based on your personal life experiences, that you believe that if you kept something from your s/o (or visa versa) that it would be a sign that your relationship needs work. However, let me remind you that EVERYONE is different.

There are many people (here at pixies and in the world in general) that keep things from their s/o and in no way is it necessarily a indication as to whether their relationship needs work. Some relationships have the "don't ask, don't tell" philosophy, while others find it necessary to look outside their relationship for things that they desire yet still have absolutely no desire to change their relationship in any way and is satisfied with the way things are (thus keeping their "indisgressions" to themselves since they don't want to change what they already have).

I don't find that ANY blanket statement fits here.... everyone is different... many have open relationships... or CHOOSE not to be exclusive yet LIKE their relationship the way it is. People have different motives and desires for the things that they do...


just my two cents.

[Boru]

WTG jenna, your last post just saved me from having to say the same thing....saved me because I would be much less eloquent than your post.


blkcat...you cannot possibly impose your beliefs on everyone here, or else you have missed the raison d'etre for this site. As jenna said, everyone is different. Keeping things from one's S/O is no different (in some cases) to the occasional "white lie" that smooths out the differences among people. My S/O has a significantly lower sex drive, does that mean the relationship needs work? NO!!!! It means that we see the world differently and we find our own way in areas that do not match. Seems to be the stuff that compatibility is made of....no two people can agree on everything all the time. And sex is generally a difficult area for discussion, if it is a problem, or could be a problem, there is no wrong keeping it away from your loved one. It is not dishonesty, merely a recognition of what you know about the person who is so close to you, and respect for how they feel.

BORU

[Steph]

The only person who knows about this site is my S/O. I've sometimes thought of mentioning it at work (an Internet dating place) but it probably wouldn't take them long to figure out I'm Steph . . . and that kind of weirds me out.

I just don't know how people might take it.

[FussyPucker]

*hanging head in shame* Yes Pixies is my dirty little secret...
I wonder if my S/O knows I come here...hehehe hi lou baby !

[lorri]

I've been around pixies for about 2 years now, and for a long while I didn't mention it to anyone in my immediate circle of friends or family.
Now, I have a few friends who know about my pixie life (both male and female) - although some don't know I have posted pics
As for my S/O - he knows I chat, but not about my posts
I introduced my best friend Hellsbells to the site .. and I have a couple of other very close friends and my cousin who have seen the pics I have posted .. and all of them think it's cool.

[blkcat]

jennaflower and Boru,I am playing the devils advocate here,
but your arguments are only excuses.the point of the thread is
"dirty little secret"

;)

[T-S]

nobody knows I'm here :cool: :D

[skipthisone]

Originally posted by blkcat
jennaflower and Boru,I am playing the devils advocate here,
but your arguments are only excuses.

Sometimes having some secrets are a way to stay sane. Keeping secret of something or maybe just not talking about something that the other knows is going on can be a form of compromise. I am sure if you ask any couple that has been together for 50-60 years they will surprise you in many ways on the things they had to do or not say to keep the sanity and make it that long.

To me denying my own sexual nature, where as my SO isnt sexually charged, would be far worse than having a little perverse fun at pixies.

[IAKaraokeGirl]

In my situation, my SO *does* know about Pixies and my chats. However, I have not brought him here, simply because Pixies is my own personal "space." It is a place where I can be me without the fear of repercussions I might receive from my real life friends and family. My SO really has no idea what I do here, or that I post pictures, and he's okay with that. In my humble opinion, and as Skip and others pointed out as well, whether it is Pixies or some other "private" thing that you keep to yourself, it really has nothing to do with your relationship with your SO. It's all in keeping a balance.

[babybunny]

My Hunny Bunny knows I like to visit here and I always ask permission before posting pics or whatever. (Thats prob why I have like 3 pics on here. Hehe) I do have to keep this site as well as my Diablo2 gaming one secret from my family. My family is strictly religious and my mom prob would have a heart attack if she knew the "real" me. I do keep this site a secret for the most part from the people of the other site. I game with them pretty much almost every nite and feel kinda weird if I knew they knew what I look like "snaked". Besides I have a hand full with them as it is. Dont need to fuel the fire. ;)

~babybunny~

[Loulabelle]

I totally understand the 'having something just for you' thing about Pixies and I really think it depends on what you are like as a person.

There are people who are pretty reserved in all aspects of there lives - it's part of who they are, and that works for them, and there are others who are more outgoing about these things.

I really have no secrets from anyone and the reason a lot of my friends know about Pixies is because there's nothing I've said here that I wouldn't say to them if the conversation arose. They are not at all surprised when I say that I spend time on a 'site of a rather dubious reputation' and in fact are more surprised if I tell them how few men I've kissed in my life!


One of the reasons for starting this thread is that there is a female friend of mine, whom I think is just starting to discover her sexuality (her marriage has just ended) and I can't help but feel that Pixies would be a great way to help her come out of her sexual. I suppose I tend to share Pixies with those I care about and whom I feel will benefit in some way from the nuturing bosom of this place. It's like I've found this amazingly wonderous place and I just can't keep it to myself.

[IenkiMoonshine]

I have two real life friends that I've told about the site.. one laughed and said she wasn't into that stuff and then other I think is a lurker if she's still on..

Originally, I was introduced to this site by my (now ex) boyfriend.. I thought it was all for boys back then and I remember being jealous when he posted comments for other girls' pics, but now... well I LOVE posting here so much... so I've no more problems along those lines..
BUt I understand why a person would keep it from his/her SO. :)

I do keep it from my family though :D

[IggysGirl]

Iggy knows I come here but he also knows that I won't cheat in any way shape or form. I am a sexually adventerous person always looking for new things to try, with him. He has his little perv hang outs and Pixies is mine. We have an agreement that we won't chat sexually or cyber, I am the jealous type. I happen to like this place and he likes free sex pic sites that don't have message boards. Trust is the key. As to anyone else I don't tell them but I do use the same name everywhere on the net.

[Deno]

I don't think I've really shared the board with any of my friends, but I know my wife knows I post here. I don't think she reads the board but I could be wrong (are you out there hun?). We both love sex and what better way to share ideas than pixies.. :)

I will probably not share my nick with any friends if I do show them the board. There are some things I would like to keep secret about my bedroom life.

[Cheyanne]

Originally posted by IAKaraokeGirl
In my situation, my SO *does* know about Pixies and my chats. However, I have not brought him here, simply because Pixies is my own personal "space." It is a place where I can be me without the fear of repercussions I might receive from my real life friends and family.

Sex 24/7 and I come here to unwind, get ideas and have fun.... :) and like IKG, Pixies is "our" personal space where we can be pervs together... our friends and family just wouldn't understand and to be honest... we kinda like it that way....

We have also made some really good friends of like minds here at Pixies that we wouldn't have anywhere else... :)

[LixyChick]

My Hubby knows and is a member/lurker (he hates to and can't type very well). My baby sister knows....but I don't care if the whole family knew. I just never told them cause it doesn't come up in conversation. A friend of hubbies and I knows and has become a member. I don't tell the people I work with cause that would just be too weird to go to work and have them say aloud....."Love the new pussy shots_______!" LMAO!

[rabbit]

Originally posted by Aqua
The only people that know I am here at Pixies are already here, so no, no one from my 'real life' knows about it. It is a secret from my S/O and unfortunately it will always need to be, so I daren't tell anyone else about it lest someday word get back to my S/O. I would love to tell people about it. I know people I could tell about it, and they'd be happy to check it out, maybe even post pics. But it is not to be.

Aqua said it for me perfectly...

*sigh*

rabbit

[txgrneyes]

I mention it to a good friend and she is interested too. But other than that only a few know...I like my little secrets.

[Vicious Tease]

Hmmm, for me it is a secret ... sort of. My SO knows that I come to "a site" but doesn't necessarily know that it's pixies. We each have our own separate playgounds.

I did tell my best friend about Pixies. She is a registered user, but we haven't exchanged aliases. I think we'd both rather not know exactly what the other has been up to.

[Midnight Kiss]

The S/O intro'ed me to pixies for the stories, and then I went looking around :D so he knew I was here , lol. I have 5 or 6 real life friends here, all of which I sent here. I am sure my little brother has found pixies, because he uses my pc and others have since/noticed me logged on when I know I haven't been. I also send online friends here as well, once I feel comfortable enough with them and think that they would enjoy it.

[Sodbuster]

Pixies' is definately a "dirty little secret" for me. I've posted a few pics and stuff and use the ladies' pics for a little eye candy when stroking myself. I have a GF but she's not into this stuff like I am. I think someone was right before when they said it could indicate a deeper problem, but that problem is a sexual incompatibility.

[KingMinotaur]

dirty little secret? But it's all in good clean fun :p (hey, if its dirty to you all I can say is its' your mind...) ok Ok.. no; not even I know I'm here :D Mwahahahahaha

[fzzy]

funny ... just told the guy I recently started seeing (again) about this today .... waiting to see if it was my best idea ever, but I'm basically an honest person, if someone asks me a question, I try to answer honestly ... he asked a question and then another and then another .... all of which led to my telling him about the site .... still really nervous about that admission!! :)

[kleclere]

Its my litle secret. My S/O isn't open minded enough to enjoy coming here. I go along with IAKG it is my own place to be able to say and think what I like without reprisal.

[Rygel]

God, yes!

[dadaist]

There's really no one in my circle of friends who would have any idea I come to a site like this (although a few of them likely wouldn't be surprised). Family of course have no idea....
It's just one of those things that hasn't come up in a conversation with anybody, and wouldn't be something I introduce either.

So is it a secret? Yeah, but only in that nobody's ASKED me and I haven't said anything either. (don't ask don't tell, anyone)?

[robguy]

Only a couple of people know about my "pixie addiction" and that's ok with me.

I'd hate to see the gang at work all hudled around a monitor reading my posts. Although...it might make for interesting conversation around the water cooler.


~~~robguy

[Irish]

My s/o knows about this site.I have showed her some threads,
that,I thought,she would be interested in.I don't go around bragging or shouting pixies name.The only thing that my wife
doesn't know about is,the "open-ness"with which I share with
some of the women here.She is a very jealous&posessive person
&would not understand,the frank discussions about masturbation,
etc.As far as underlying problems in our relationship-We have been married since May1,1965.38 yrs!As Jenna said,Everyone is
different.Mutual respect takes care of problems! Irish

[quisath]

I have no one to Answer to and Nothing to Hide. Pixies is Not MY SECRET. It's Great to be a Freespirit and do anything I want.


"What's in Your Closet"?

[Lilith]

Originally posted by quisath
I have no one to Answer to and Nothing to Hide. Pixies is Not MY SECRET. It's Great to be a Freespirit and do anything I want.


"What's in Your Closet"?

Unfortunately not you damn it!!!!

[Loulabelle]

Originally posted by Irish
My s/o knows about this site.I have showed her some threads,
that,I thought,she would be interested in.I don't go around bragging or shouting pixies name.The only thing that my wife
doesn't know about is,the "open-ness"with which I share with
some of the women here.She is a very jealous&posessive person
&would not understand,the frank discussions about masturbation,
etc.As far as underlying problems in our relationship-We have been married since May1,1965.38 yrs!As Jenna said,Everyone is
different.Mutual respect takes care of problems! Irish

I agree entirely Irish: mutual respect IS the key. And the fact that you have not kept the existence of Pixies from your SO is an example of that mutual respect. You respect her enough not to keep things from her, and she respects your privacy and your choices enough not to have a problem with you coming here.

I'm not suggesting that people should tell everyone exactly what they say and do here at Pixies, but it saddens me that a number of people here say 'My SO isn't into this stuff' without actually giving them the opportunity to a) find out if that's the case and b) speak for themselves.

I suppose I just have this vision in my head of lots of people here at Pixies wishing that their SOs were more like Pixie-people (more open etc) while their SOs are suffering in silence, perhaps even visiting another similar site, wishing the same thing. And the reason I feel like this, is that I've been in that situation myself.

In the past I've made the mistake of hiding my true sexuality from my partner and he's hidden his from me.......it was symptomatic of a lack of trust and communication in our relationship, and I strongly believe that if one of us had taken that leap of faith first, things may not have ended the way they did. Of course, I don't regret the end of the relationship, but I do regret the fact that it was fear that held us both back. It's not a situation I intend to get into again.