Cumming during sex...

[SexKittten_18]

I can't do it for some reason. It just doesn't want to happen. Is this normal? (And yes I realize that someone probly already discussed this, but I want to know) Is there anything I can do during sex to create an orgasm? I've tried rubbing my clit...but that didn't work out so well. I kept getting in the way of my bf's thrusts. So any ideas? I'd appreciate any suggestions. :)

[denny]

Maybe he can help, my lady likes for me to "manipulate" her whilst I am poking away. Eventually (with some guidance initially), she will come. I think everyone is different, met plenty of females that were not easily orgasmic. I thin k you are plenty normal.

[SexKittten_18]

Thank you Denny. I'll give that a shot. And thank you for saying I'm normal. I don't get that a lot. Especially from my family, friends and whatswithme...he likes to call me weird...must be some weird sex thing ::shrugs::

[Lilith]

Very very normal! I would suggest you rub your clit while on your knees as he enters you doggie style or make it a point to have him let you rub your clit while he strokes slow in missionary. It can happen I assure you but it takes some effort sometimes.

[Aqua]

Denny is right. It is pretty normal for a woman to need extra stimulation during intercourse to cum. Woman on top and doggy style are good positions to be in that allow you a free hand to stimulate you clit to bring you to orgasm. Good Luck!

[Loulabelle]

I struggle to have clitoral orgasms from intercourse, but I can have G-Spot orgasms pretty easily. Not as intense or as satisfying I find, as it's a different kind of sensation but I recommend you experiment a little bit and try to tap into that part of your sexual potential as well as your clitoris.

On the other hand, I've found that certain positions make it great for clitoral stimulation without getting in each others way so to speak. One of my faves (especially for sleepy morning, or middle of the night sex) is to lie on my back, while he lies next to me on his side, almost at right angles to me. I put my legs over his body and he enters me. This is great because I'm lying on my back, being filled and have as much access to my clit as I would if I were masturbating alone. It's hard to explain.....perhaps I'll have to take some pics in that position to demonstrate it! Lol

And my final suggestion is: buy one of these: O - M - G !

[ericthered]

Sex Kitten, here's a suggestion. Try lying on your back with your right knee up. He lies at right angles to you, under your right leg and with your left leg between his thighs. And guess what? His cock is in just the right position to slide into you. (You can of course switch the left and right).

The advantage of this position is that he can set up a steady rhythm and either he or you can attend to your clit as required. When you are super excited and coming, you might like to grab his top leg and pull it up onto your body - then you can crush your pussy against the inside of his thigh.

We use this position a lot when both of us are too lazy to get on top. I love it because we never really know whether she playing with me or her - I can just pull out to the entrance and get the benefit of all that rubbing too. Mmmh - feeling horny again!

[Loulabelle]

Ericthered - sounds like a variation on my position and far better explained!!!!!!

You're right - it's great for lazy leisurely sex....which is also a good way to feel relaxed enough to enjoy a good orgasm, SexKitten.......and if all else fails, try the same position with a vibrator on your clit....mmmmmm. Hehehehe

[Lilith]

That's my fave lazy Sunday morning sex position...

[BlueSwede]

Lou, when you are in that position you described, how long do you usually have to stimulate your clit when you use just your hand, not a vibrator, to come? Eric, how long (same situation I just asked Lou) does it take YOUR SO to come? I am wondering if it would still work (the guy being able to either not come before the woman does or not get soft waiting for her to come) if it takes her 10 to 25 min to come?

I'm in the same situation as you, Lou; I can have G-spot orgasms easily during intercourse,and I DO like those, but blended orgasms (vagina and clit or ass and clit) are definitely my favorites. I can come usually in about 5 minutes if I'm using a vibrator on my clit, but by hand it takes a heck of a lot longer. And my SO doesn't want me to use a vibrator. Plus, I know it would take me a long time for a while because I will be very self-conscious about what I am doing.

BTW, Sexkitten, I don't mean to steal your thread. I DO agree with Lou that if there is some way for you to use a vibrator on your clit while you're having intercourse, you will probably have success orgasming pretty fast. It seems many couples have luck with that using eggs, especially the pulsating eggs, the item Lou showed in her photo above, a Hitachi wand if you can fit the thing in between you, or really any vibrator you come easily with.

[airhog]

I can take my gf upwards of 15 minutes to reach a clitorial orgasm, maybe 1 or 2 minutes for a g-spot orgasm

[Cheyanne]

That position described above is one of my fave... a we are tired but horny position.... doesn't take a lot of acrobatic effort.

If you have a small G-Spot vibe you could use it in this position on your clit... just remember to not use too much lube if any if you do use lube. Another thing you could do is purchase one of those beaver vibes that has a clit vibe attached to the reg vibrator and practice with it to determine what feels good and what does't work.... just some suggestions...

[catman]

My wife and I have used this same position for years and it is still the most reliable. Also the guy can slip his under and stimulate her ass, it's a little bit of gymnastics but it's do-able! And we thought we invented it! oh well I guess there's nothing new under the sun or the sheets!!

[Loulabelle]

Blueswede - I've never timed myself in that position! Lol and to be honest the timing is not usually an issue with us. We find in that position although it's good for him, it doesn't usually give him quite enough freedom to move as much as he needs to to cum, so we tend to do it like that for me, and then by the time I've had a really hard orgasm all over his cock, he's turned on enough not to be tired anymore and just moves into missionary or some such position and ...er....finishes the job so to speak. ;)

Oh God I shouldn't have described that in such detail......I'm totally horny now! Lol

[BlueSwede]

Thanks, Lou! And thanks, Airhog, too! I'm afraid I am very guilty of usually being concerned that I am taking too long to come (and I think often I really am). I get concerned that my lover will get bored or sore, etc...and then you throw in being self-conscious...at least at first. That doesn't help.

[SexKittten_18]

^.^ OOh! Looks like a fun toy. I need to get me some toys it sounds like. I'm sure WWM69 will appreciate them too lol.

[dabird]

Sex kitten, is your sex life quk or does he take the time to really get you going. the reason I ask is that my wife is the same way. If theres no foreplay for at least around an hour she will not come no mater what. Kinda kills a Quickie.

[SexKittten_18]

He takes plenty of time unless I don't let him. Like I said sometimes it's ok if I don't come...like in doggy...I don't mind because its really intense and most of the time it feels like I've cum but I haven't. It's kinda hard to explain. And he hates quickies anyway...says they aren't as fulfilling as hours long sex. I normally have to beg him to go fast and make it quick. :( Lol. But I'd really like to experience cumming during intercourse.

[ScottWaz]

my gf usually doesnt either......what does work is if she gets on top and leans back......that way i can play with her clit till she is all done! (it feels great also!....he should really like it)

[ericthered]

Blue Swede, to answer your question about how long. I believe the great thing about this position is that it really doesn't matter how long the lady takes, as long as she is enjoying herself. The man controls completely how excited he is going to get. He reaches a plateau of excitement and then slows his movements to just coast along at that level. If he needs more excitement he can either speed up or (my favourite) pull out until his cock head is only halfway in. While there he can feel everything you are doing to your clit and will probably have to hide inside you again quickly because it feels soooo nice! Because you are not moving your hips, he can 'cool off' by just lying still inside you.

Milady normally comes in a few minutes, so she is not going to stop at just one orgasm. As she gets more and more excited, she starts chasing my cock head inside her so that no matter if I am trying to move slowly and regularly, I have to come with her like it or not. Just a game - but a nice one. A slim vibe works well like this because she can squeeze it in beside me.

[BlueSwede]

Thanks, ericthered; I appreciate your reply. Hopefully we can at some point give these suggestions a try. :)

[bob900]

Lou -

What's the name of that toy?

Thanks

[wyldchyld]

i've found that if i'm on top and lean forward, i can get my clit to rub against his pubic bone which is enough to send me over. i've gotten so good at it that he'll just lay there and cheer me on while i go to town and make myself happy. ok, so then we end up switching since he says it's only fair that if i cum, he gets to too :)

[Gilly]

Originally posted by SexKittten_18
I can't do it for some reason. It just doesn't want to happen. Is this normal? (And yes I realize that someone probly already discussed this, but I want to know) Is there anything I can do during sex to create an orgasm? I've tried rubbing my clit...but that didn't work out so well. I kept getting in the way of my bf's thrusts. So any ideas? I'd appreciate any suggestions. :)



I'm the same way. I've tried several things, different positions, toys, etc, all to no avail.


I think there are just some of us destined to not have it happen.
:(

[WildIrish]

One of my wife's favorite sexual positions has her flat on her back, with her legs up and apart, bent at the knees. I kneel between her legs and wrap my arms around them from the top, leaving my forearms supporting them while my hands are both free to roam around. At this angle, penetration stimulates her g-spot and I can also play with her clitoris. If we want to introduce a toy, using a silver bullet on her clitoris is perfect in this position too. I highly recommend giving it a try.

[dicksbro]

Bob900, not sure the "name" of the toy but most adult shops would have something similar ... designed to fit over the penis with nobs to stimulate the clitoris. If you stop at one of the stores, no doubt you can find one or the clerk can show you some.