The Swinging Scene

[Bilbo]

Why are the ppl within the swinging scene so pushy?
They all seem so nice and polite when you are chatting online, but God forbid that you suggest to meet and feel the water between you, just to ask to meet for a coffee to get to know each other, they go into a dark mood, and are only interested to meet on the condition the you agree to fuck them.
This must be so frustrating for those, like us, who are trying to experiment with our sex lives, and experience the lifestyle.
Is it simillar the our teen years when you find a virgin, and you just have to be the one to "break" them in, and fuck the consiquences.

Really starting to sound like a prude now.

any thoughts?????

[Lilith]

Bilbo~ Mr. Lilith and I are beginning to dabble in the idea of an open marriage/ swinging. We have a set of friends that have been involved for a bit. I think we have to find people who are more interested in an experience than just in wife swapping. I think you are right that couples who are really into the lifestle look forward to new couples. I think here it may be because there are so few couples into it. Please keep us posted on your quest....

[Bilbo]

If we continue with the Quest, at the moment it is one big turnOFF!

[Steph]

The site I work for does brisk business in couple swappers buying credits for the site . . . if someone turns you off with their pushiness, just stop writing them and move on to the next one! Couples who take this seriously will want to take their time. The profiles I edit include many from people who insist on meeting for wine/coffee first to see if there's a connection.

[Sharni]

We know they are out there....but as yet we haven't found any....and it is become increasingly tiresome to have to wade throught the pushy-we-wanna-get-down-and-dirty-straight-away types

We will not be pushed into doing something that we are not comfortable with.....and we both must be happy with the people we find...

While the pushy type maybe well suited and happy with their choices....we are only starting out....and require some time to deal with any issues we may feel we need to sort out first

[Loulabelle]

*Thinking out loud*

Pity Sharni and Bilbo are so far away. :P :D

[dm383]

Funny, I was just thinking that myself!! ;) You an' Fussy, on the other hand............. hehehe!!

DM

[Steph]

Originally posted by Sharniqua
We know they are out there....but as yet we haven't found any....and it is become increasingly tiresome to have to wade throught the pushy-we-wanna-get-down-and-dirty-straight-away types

We will not be pushed into doing something that we are not comfortable with.....and we both must be happy with the people we find...

While the pushy type maybe well suited and happy with their choices....we are only starting out....and require some time to deal with any issues we may feel we need to sort out first

You have to state that you want to meet with people before hopping into bed. That should definitely deter the horn dogs.

Ahem, here I am, off work . . . rolling up my sleeves to help . . . from what I know of you both, here's a quick sketch that will get the right type of people interested . . .

Hi, we're a middle-aged, sex-crazed couple interested in making a connection with like-minded people. We want to make a connection first. We love sex but aren't willing to jump into bed without knowing you first.

That's the boring disclaimer part of it. It's up to you two to make the rest of it interesting.

[Sharni]

*LOL* Thanx

But we've done the disclaimer bit....but still manage to get all the ones wanting a quick fuck!

Anyway...we'll just keep plowing through them til we find someone on our wavelength :D

[Steph]

Shit, sorry. I deal with so many level-headed people like you guys and learn from you . . . I hoped I could help but maybe the shitheads just won't be stopped . . .

[Midnight Kiss]

We have been looking into this as well. My problem has been the single males out there, no matter how much we say no that we are in this as a couple and are only looking for other couples at the moment, they still keep sending us messages. We have attented several swinging parties and love them, they are so much fun. We are planning on attending the caonoing/camping trip in May as well. So, far we are soft swing only because we want to make sure that this is really for us. And when people are pushy we let them know. I don't know if this helps but this has been my experiance with the lifestyle.

[Midnight Kiss]

Also, wanted to say , we have meet a couple and done diner and drinks, have gone to the movies with them a few times as well, and our 2 year old little girl was in their wedding when they renewed their vows last month after 25 years together. There are some wonderful people out there, just sometimes takes a bit to find the people that click with you :)

[Steph]

It's definitely true - single guys do want to get involved more than some couples would like. . . you two rock - I KNOW there are other couples out there like you!

[Bilbo]

hope so

[quisath]

I think the Quickie ones are probably a waste of your time anyway. Sincere couples are much more refined. With an attitude like................if it works out Great.................if it doesn't .............At least we can be friends. Am I making any sense here?

[Sharni]

That is what our attitude is....if it dont work out we at least have friendship :)

[Midnight Kiss]

That is exactly what we are looking for and what we tell other couples when we 1st talk. So far it has been great with the few that we have meet even though nothing more than friends has happened yet.