This is a personal bitch.....

[jay_ba]

Don't read it if you don't want to.

First of al: AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

This has been the most frustrating year of my life. Why are all the Pixies-place people so far away, or seemingly non-existent?

It is nearly impossible to meet women here. It is not a language issue as I have a lot of opportunities for "fun" when I have to travel to Brazil and there I am forced to communicate in either Spanish or English as I don't speak any Portugese.

You read all about how open and relaxed the people are here and it is frustrating in a way to find that lacking where I live. I mean, I am not exactly a GQ kind of guy, but my face won't leave you with permanent mental damage.

I'm not that bad looking, I exercise frequently (185cm tall and around 105Kg), I have a good job, I am polite, honest, nice, open-minded, adventurous......Man, but something is just not "clicking".

All-in-all, you guys piss me off! Well, alright. Not really. Actually, I am kind of envious. All right, really envious.

If only the world could be just like Pixies.

[TinkerBell69]

aww honey chill!!!!

[Sharni]

If only the world could be just like Pixies.
As much as it pains me to say it.....Pixies is more a fantasy world...

We Pixites rarely see the harsh part of this fantasy due to the hard work of the mods (or Mod as the case is at present)

We always appear happy and content in our lives....when in a lot of cases that is only a facade.
We come here to try to forget our problems in the Real world...so dont be envious...some just maybe worse off than you..

Remember the saying: Be careful what you wish for....

[Lilith]

*clicks her heels and says*

"there's no place like home, there's no place like home..........."

[jay_ba]

Sharniqua: I know what you mean about Pixies being a façade for some people. I come here to get away too. Different reasons and manners for everyone.

I'm just a little frustrated right now. My first serious relationship started with marriage and ended in divorce. My work entails *A LOT* of travel at times. I was promoted onto a team to develop and install a new series of telephone switch. I was home for a sporadic 4 weeks over a period of six months. I did get to see almost all the world (I am only missing Africa and Antarctica to having been on all continents). That put a lot of stress on the marriage. She decided to go and visit her family in Mexico while I went away on a trip and she decided never to come back. My second serious relationship was disastrous. She came with me to Argentina and it turned out she was a bit crazy.

I kind of just need to find some people like you find here on these boards. Just away from the Internet. You know, non-digital personae.

[Sharni]

I know everyone says this but

The right person is out there...

Ya just gotta find each other....and as much as it sux that takes time :)

[PantyFanatic]

Originally posted by jay_ba
.....Why are all the Pixies-place people so far away, or seemingly non-existent?.....
It’s Pangeas fault. :mad:

You can take it up with her. She’ll be along …















…eventually. ;)

[Steph]

A mate who travels . . . I would love it, myself! A lot of people get lonely when their s/o is on the road so much but don't lose heart! One of my cousins has to travel a lot with work and his wife goes with him when she can. It seems to work for them.

[jay_ba]

My wife, when we were married, did not like to travel much. My other serious relationship used to freak out when I would tell her what happened, or what I had seen (Once I had Albanian police threaten to take our car and throw our bodies off the mountain edge.)

I guess that I have just been frustrated trying to find someone. Well, anyone. I have never had this much bad luck. Maybe I ask for too much. I mean, what I am looking for is someone who would like to experience life. Someone who is extremely passionate and want to try things with me in bed, not someone who sits by saying "Well, not with you.", or "Well, I have already tried that."

Maybe I am off my rocker, but I believe that, as a couple, you should try and do everything you are both comfortable with together. If you are both comfortable with trying anal sex, try it. If you are both comfortable with having sex in a public place, do it.

[jseal]

jay_ba,

I think I know how it is for you. I lived and worked in Saudi Arabia from ’82 to ’86, and I saw a lot of marriages in our company fail because the couple were living in Jeddah, and I saw several fail because the wife was stateside wile hubby was in Kingdom.

Tough situation. No easy out.

Don’t sweat seeing Africa, except maybe Egypt, the continent is over rated.

You are, in the successful completion of you job, creating and improving the infrastructure that permits this group of people to exist. Surely in your line of work you must have heard the expression "the death of distance"? Pixies Place is a manifestation of that. I happen to think that this phenomenon is very important, but we’ll have to wait and see.

You are twenty-odd years old. Hang tight. You’ll find the right mate. When I did, I came Stateside and have stayed here since. I’ve traveled a bit on business, but raising a family is challenging, and it is easier to do so when you are not zipping around the world. That is, In my estimation what is killing you. Could be wrong, of course.

[Oldfart]

The right partner will probably surface someday.

In the mean-time, take fun and love where you can get it

and try not to focus on shortcomings in the meetings.

Happiness or misery is truly your choice.

[Tess]

I feel for you, jay-ba.

In my previous job, I stayed on the road for 11 years. It was exciting to see all the new places, but it really started getting old after the third year. It is hard to maintain a relationship in absentia. It cost me a marriage, and a lot of excess wear and tear on the body and the spirit. I finally made a career change and left the road for good about 1-1/2 years ago.

I now have a different set of priorities than I did before. I'm still solo, but at least I am in a position to nurture a relationship now.

I guess the bottom line is to rearrange your life so that your priorities are in their proper order.

And BTW - Pixies is not a replacement for a relationship, it just gives you a way to connect until you find the real thing. Don't fall into a trap of your own making.