Still a virgin!

[MrNebraska]

Hello everyone. Im new, obviously, but only to the forums. I have been familiar ith the erotic stories for a few months.

Anyways, I have been going out with this girl for 2.5 years. We have both discussed marraige and we know we will get married. The thing is that we are both freshman in college. So it will be another 4 years before that happens.

We both believe in waiting for sex for marriage. I am way cool with it. I just love being around her and holding her hand.

We resort to just make out sessions and some ear nibbling/ neck kissing.

Since we arent having sex. No oral and manual stimulation either, I have been going to the internet :)

I love her a lot, but is there anything wrong with me masturbating?

What makes are relationship even harder is the fact we live 2 hours away from each other because we are going to different colleges!

Thanks and I'm glad to be apart of this board!

- MrNebaska

[pepsigirl]

i see nothing wrong with it. i know people that are married that still masturbate. so go for it.

[Sodbuster]

Depends on the girl you ask. I'm in a similar predicament, although I'm willing to do it, she isn't. We fool around but a lot of times she doesn't want to do much. I find myself masturbating all the time and going to the internet for stimulation. I know she wouldn't like it, but that's my only release. Some girls are fine with it, other would hate it.

[Loulabelle]

I think that some of you guys are not giving girls the credit we deserve when it comes to masturbation.

We KNOW that guys do it.....I think there are very few women left in the world who are unaware that this goes on.

We also KNOW that guys often use pornography for stimulation and most women wouldn't have a problem with that either (aside from a few insecurities that they aren't as slim/big breasted/blonde/whatever as the women you're admiring).

You may also be surprised at the number of women who masturbate also and you may even find that your women's happiness to 'wait' may be in part due to the fact that they don't NEED sex because they can satisfy themselves just as you do.

Lastly, when you say 'Going to the internet' are you talking about cybersex? With a 'real' person online as opposed to a porn star? I can see why a woman would object to this as you are conducting a sexual relationship with another person, but even then, some women are fine with it......you should probably discuss this with her and work out what works best for you both.

Just a final point on this hugely long and boring post:

There is no such thing as 'right and wrong' - only what is right for you and your girlfriend and no-one else can tell you that, only she can. Anything's ok as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else, (incididentally that includes the nameless/faceless woman/women with whom you may be indulging in 'cybersex' - they ARE people too!)

*Steps down from soap box with a flourish and a courtsey*

- Lou
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[Sodbuster]

I'll have to agree with all of what Loulabelle said. You have to find what works with your relationship.

[txgrneyes]

I also have to agree with Lou. She sums it ups well. What is right for you may not be right for me or someone else. So open up the communication lines and talk about it with your s/o you might be surprised what you find out.

[MrNebraska]

thanks everyone!

by internet I mean porn, not cybersex.

:)

Im just a horny guy trying to get by I guess!

- MrNebraska

[TinkerBell69]

Im in a long term sexual relationship, and I still go online to get off sometimes.

My bf likes it, cos when Im dun, Im so hot and just pounce on him.

But I admit, I'd be upset if I knew he was cybering with another woman.

[stud_muffin]

true true, i remember cybersex (i've been sexually active with my gf for 2 years now and we're getting married in may ^_^) im just on the net like this because i write sex stories as a hobby (you wouldnt believe how much it turns my gf on when i read one to her) anyway its a fine way to stay a virgin, but it is a tough habit to break. I had been doin it for some time when i met my gf and i found that i had some major trouble stopping. When she found out she was pissed and called me a "perverted Bastard" it took 3 weeks and a lot of coaxing to get her to come back to me, but it was well worth it!


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