Spice things up a little

[TinkerBell69]

my boyfriend and I have been sleeping together for around 6 months now, I won't lie, the sex is amazing. The problem is, I don't want things to start getting dull and predictable.

Any suggestions as to keeping things hot? Please let me know. Thanx!!

[Casperr]

Variety is the spice of a sex life!!

Be prepared to always explore new things, new positions etc etc. Don't get stuck into "every night at 9:27 we bonk missionary style then he falls asleep and I read my book" type thing. Try a different room, type, and style of sex!

And occasionally, DON'T have sex!!! Try having a breather for a week or two, then getting back into it - you might be surprised at how much better it is!

And as always, communicate! Keep talking about what you'd like to try, what you found boring, what else you can do etc etc etc!

Good luck!

CasperTG

[LixyChick]

Well......that's damn good advice Casper hun!

Yep! What he said!

And Welcum to Pixies TinkerBelle69!!! I just know you'll love it here!

[MikeR89]

On the way home from work - plan to meet up at a pub or bar (check local listings) at different times - and do some role playing - sit across from the bar - flirt with each other like you are strangers. Play up the drama - send each other drinks/shots/brownies whatever - get closer to each other and have fun watching the people around you squirm!
Then go back to your place and enjoy the evening in the bedroom..

[Sharni]

Variety and Spontineity

[Tess]

DON'T GET MARRIED!!!!



Thank you, now back to our regular programming :)

[denny]

What Casper said! How very insightful! Is he a therapist or what?

[MikeR89]

Laura Corn has a series of books for couples that can be found at some of the major book retailers like bn.com or amazon or at her site...

http://www.grrreatnights.com/


These are books you use - you or your bf tear out a page and are given suggestions for your lovemaking or romantic life - (depending on the book)

Ideas like sending your guy on a scavenger hunt where the prize is you at the end - and challenges like going out to dinner without your panties on - and presenting them to your mate during dinner -

It's chock full of suggestions and it's a heck of alot of fun - my wife and I know of at least 3 other couples who use this and are happy with the results : )

just my 2 cents..

[TinkerBell69]

thanks to all of you.

last night he went on to www.wellcoolstuff.com and invested in a load of stuff, but wont tell me what! My only clue: from the sexy bit. oooooh!!!!!!!

[skipthisone]

Yeah, what H@rd Rock said

[Lilith]

Originally posted by H@rd Rock
DON'T GET MARRIED!!!!



Been married 16 years and sex is hotter now than it has ever been. It's all about the choices you make. Sexual compatability is as important as any other aspect you would look at in evaluating whether this person is someone you wanna be with every day of your life:p So look closely!

#1 thing like Sharni said is spontaniety. If things seem to be feeling a little stale you just toss in something to freshen it up. Not being afraid to take risks goes a long way.

Some people like to be safe, secure and don't appreciate variety I think like souls need to stick together. For me I want a man who is not afraid to experiment!



but.......statistically speaking.....for the US, Hard Rock is probably right!

[Cobalt]

Most all of the responses are true, don't be afraid to try new things, anything is open as lone as you both agree. If you find you don't like something, then don't do it again. But remember you can't decide if you like it or not if you don't try it.

[Loulabelle]

Spontaneity is definitely the key.

If he's normally the dominant one, it's easy to turn the tables occasionally and surprise him. I "Raped" a certain someone the other night, which is not at all like me usually, but we both loved it, because he wasn't expecting it and I got a kick out of surprising him.

It can be more difficult to get him to be spontaneous for obvious reasons (you can't tell someone that you'd like to him to ravage you at the front door when you come in from work or else it won't be the suprise element you're looking for) but you can encourage him to be brave enough to try things you aren't expecting. If he's confident that you won't slap him around the face if he grabs you by the arse and takes you on the stairs one day as he's walking up them behind you, then the chances are that he'll do it one day.

Of course some people lack the imagination to think of new things to do, but I've always found erotica (stories, films etc) is a very good source of inspiration if you're stuck for ideas and if you watch it together, you can also pick up subtle hints about each others fantasies and fetishes....it can sometimes be easier than sitting over the dinner table trying to discuss how he'd like to see you in Catholic School Girl's uniform!!!

[blkcat]

some truth in hard rocks reply

how to stop a woman having sex

marry her:rolleyes: