Too Much Masturbation?

[ValentineBaby]

I was searching google to see if i could find out some advice, and when i saw your website, then i had the idea to ask you this, and i hope that i do not offend you in any way possible, you just seem to know what your talking about.

Long before i met my fiancee i did, as all men do, mastubated. a lot. and i got used to it, but then i stopped for about a half a year. (not an easy thing)

And then i met her (my fiancee), and after a while, we had truly wonderful sex, but that eventully led back to me doing masturbation when she was not able to have sex.

now, i fear, i have done so much masturbation that i have a problem, and that is that i cannot bring myself to climax. We have had sex for several hours on end, and i still will not climax. I have not said anything to her, mainly due to fear, and she only likes the missionary possision, nothing more or less.

What can i do to make our love life better?

Thanks for any advice, it is appreciated, and has this happened to more men that just Myself?

[Casperr]

ValentineBoy, welcome to Pixies!

I doubt it's too much masturbation. It seems like there something else that's a problem - either medically or mentally....
Medically it might be worth seeing a doc about. Can you cum from masturbation? Quickly? Slowly? If you can, it's probably more mental.

If it's mental - make sure you're not stressed at work or at home or anything like that. Try and focus on the actual sex, not concentrating on cumming.

It might also be worth having a bit of a lay off (no pun intended!) and not having sexual contact of any kind - masturbation or sex- for a bit. That might help.

Hope some of this helps, let us know how things go!

CasperTG

[divot109]

First of all, there really is no such thing as "too much masturbation." Now, can you bring yourself to climax during masturbation? If so, then there are most likely issues within your relationship that are preventing you from being satisfied. If not, then there may be a medical reason for your inability to climax, which I would recommend that you see your physician about...he will probably refer you to a Urologist.

You did not indicate your age. Of course, age can play a role in this possible dysfunction as well. Viagra may be the answer if this is the problem.

However, by the tone of your writing, I would speculate that you are having issues within your relationship, and your sex life is stagnant as a result. If your fiancee is ONLY willing to engage in the Missionary Position ("nothing more or less"), there is a DEFINITE spark missing from your sexual relationship at minimum.

[Irish]

ValentineBaby---If not being able to come because of too much
masturbation was possible,I would have been unable to cum years ago.I am 58(almost 59)years of age,and still cum(at least)
once daily.Are you taking any medications?I once took(Tegretol)
and would almost reach the point of ejaculation,but would take
forever!Very detrimental if secretly masturbating in a semi-public
place! Irish
P.S.The most potent sex-organ is the mind!

[ericthered]

No expert but after I got divorced I found myself unable to come with a woman (although I seem to remember masturbation was OK). After a while I got going again as normal.

9 years later got divorced again and - guess what - I couldn't come with a woman AGAIN. I met a tidy and hungry Brazilian who took full advantage of the situation and was very disappointed when it all started to work as normal again.

Sounds as if it was all in the mind, doesn't it?

[ValentineBaby]

I have just turned 28 today (hence my name), and the thing to it is this, it may be stress. It is not that i cannot cum while masturbating, it is just that i remember when i could cum with out needing any external stimulation (pics, stories, ect...) and now i have to see those things just to get some out of me.

i can make myself climax while inside of her, but it takes about an hour, and after an hour, she is extremely sore. i think that it may be a mental thing, but if it is, how do i rid myself of it?

i mean, i love her more then life itself.

The reason that my fieancee only does the missionary is the she has a bad back, and any other positions puts her in physical pain, along with the fact the her old b/f was an ass and she is kinda scarred over it... we have been together for 2 years as of Feb 9th, and we have tried other positions, but it all cases her pain, or so she says.

[divot109]

If stress is the cause, and it very well may be, then you need to discover the cause of the stress and deal with that first. Remember, sex is one of the best medicines to relieve yourself of stress, but stress is also one of the biggest hindrances to good sex. If the issue is your longevity (damn, I wish I could consistenly last an hour, my wife would love it), and it is causing your fiancee pain, perhaps using a lubricant will help. By the way, does she climax during intercourse?

[ValentineBaby]

well that is something that i am not to sure of, if she does climax or not. when we first started having sex, i think that i felt her climax several times, but we have both only climaxed together once in our two years together, but she swears that she does every time, but i just cant seem to feel it for some reason.

i am starting to think that my member is defunct. :(

honestly, i am not (or so i think) that well endowed, and it seems to me that i can, at times, get "lost" inside of her.

BTW: thank you all for offering advice to me when i had real need of it, it really do appreciate it.

[whitehorse]

ValentineBaby, Happy Bday And Happy Anniversary. If you really love your girl and are having problems sexually, you should seek proffesional help. Counseling is a great tool. I have used it a time or two, and it is invaluable!

[whatswithme69]

aaawwwww crap! if there is such thing as too much masturbation then im screwed! lol

[denny]

I think you can get some help with the problem you describe. If you can cum during masturbation, some counseling is in order. Go find a therapist and get down to it!

[airhog]

I masturbate nearly every day. I have a hard time climaxing without pictures though. But when im with my gf, I cum in 5 minutes or less, so I think its a metal block. I would talk to someone about it.