Advice for the Rookie???

[TexasTreasure]

Okay ya'll, I am pretty sure that tomorrow is going to be the big day. Yes, I am 22 and I've waited a long time, . . . . . but I was wondering if there was any advice you could offer? What do I need to know. I feel totally clueless


Thanks:confused:

[PantyFanatic]

You may want to start by getting up in the morning. Wash your face and brush you teeth. The rest of the day will pretty much take care of it’s self. I think you’ll find it a lot like today.;)

[TexasTreasure]

I hope you are right.

[dm383]

Just relax, experience and enjoy!! Above all... BE SAFE!!

And, welcome to Pixies :) :)

DM

[PantyFanatic]

OH!
Did you have a reason to expect it to be different than 23.93446965 hours long?:rolleyes:

[TexasTreasure]

WELL yeah. I hope its a little different. And I hope it's not the typical "first time is always bad" kind of thing. i guess we'll see.

[Lilith]

WEAR A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[FussyPucker]

Just relax and be yourself the only thing you have to make sure is...............WEAR A CONDOM as aunty Lilith says :)

[PantyFanatic]

Just relax and enjoy! ;)

[airhog]

I would imagine everything exactly how you want it. Go to the library and do research on the best positions. then when she takes off her shirt, you will forget all of it. :D

[TexasTreasure]

her? .....i am the girl...

[T-S]

oops :D

[dm383]

LMAO @ T-S !!! :D :D ;)

[TexasTreasure]

man..i thought i was gonna get some good details . . . . . .???

[kleclere]

TexasTreasure just relax, enjoy, be slow, pleasure him as well as yourself be safe and above all ENJOY.

[Sharni]

Exactly what sort of details are ya after????

[TexasTreasure]

this is all great...i guess i'm just a little nervous about living up to expectations and things like that.

[Loren]

Originally posted by TexasTreasure
this is all great...i guess i'm just a little nervous about living up to expectations and things like that.

I doubt your first time will live up to your expectations, especially if your partner is inexperienced. It gets better with practice.

[TexasTreasure]

he is a bit older than i am and quite experienced

[Dan99NY]

I almost posted thinking that you're male.

I suggest you do it with you on top that way you have more control. Also, ask the guy to freshen up immediately before both of you get together. If you feel uncomfortable ask him if you can stroke it and check it out for a second. Complement his equipment and keep the moment light and playful.

Don't expect him to bring a condom. If I was you ... I would buy a box just in case he forgets or his is not new or weak. You never know.


Dan


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[don73153]

Girl, just relax, forget expectations, and go with it. Do what makes you feel good, and don't hold back.

Enjoy, and have a good time! ;)

Don

[Santiago]

dont forget to fuck his brains out (and hopefully he will return the favor) ;)

[airhog]

Originally posted by TexasTreasure
her? .....i am the girl...


my fault. In that case, you will forget everything when he takes his pants off. Dont laugh if its small ethier :D

Besides that take it slow, let him know to go slowly and dont be afraid to be creative

[quisath]

Not to sound Cliche................JUST DO IT

[Steph]

So, how did it go?

If it hasn't happened yet, I would strongly suggest LOTS of foreplay before "the big event".

[horseman12]

LMAO, I was as clueless reading the start of this thread as all the rest i do believe? like Steph, if it has already happened how did it go? If it has not, have no expectations, relax, and lotssssss of foreplay, and when you feel ready do it.

[Dan99NY]

If you still feel nervous beforehand, ask him to kiss it for good luck. If he's already did that ... ask him to do the alphabet. For those of you who don't know, thats when you trace each letter of the alphabet over the top section of the Pu*sy (the hood).

If he did both those things and you're still a little nervous ... ask him to rim you. I've never done that, but a guy has to be wild for you if he does it.

Since your first time will not be perfect it might as well be unforgetable. Besides, if he makes you cum 3 or 4 times ... you have something to brag about to your friends in the future.


Dan

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[TexasTreasure]

you guys are very cute......and thanks for all the advice.

i will say that i did follow through with it, but it wasnt as "earth-shattering" as i had hoped.

[Lilith]

It gets better........I promise!:)

[TexasTreasure]

i can only hope so !!

[Loren]

Originally posted by TexasTreasure
i can only hope so !!

As a male even I can say it gets better with practice.

[TexasTreasure]

good then i have LOTS to look forward tooo *wink*

[Dan99NY]

Which suggestions from this board did you use?

Also, did cum?

Dan

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[TexasTreasure]

actually to tell ya the truth...i felt like it was a "wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am" kind of deal....not to mention the fact that i didnt reach orgasm and he left about 20 minutes afterwards.............yeah..i was kinda disappointed actually.

[whitehorse]

O.K., I'm disappointed for you, Texas T. That is terrible that he left 20 Mins. after. What was he thinking???? Don't give up on us guys' we're not all like that. Some of us want you to be satisfied!!

[TexasTreasure]

thanks for the encouragement whitehorse.......and i wont give up. i'm not a quiter *wink* . . . . . i know there's some great sex to be had out there. i have faith!

[Loren]

Originally posted by TexasTreasure
actually to tell ya the truth...i felt like it was a "wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am" kind of deal....not to mention the fact that i didnt reach orgasm and he left about 20 minutes afterwards.............yeah..i was kinda disappointed actually.

As far as I'm concerned there's no justification for his behavior other than possibly a lack of knowledge. Demand better treatment next time.

Next time, you come before he gets inside. Especially without experience coming from intercourse might not happen--but there are also hands and tongue, a gentleman does not leave his partner unsatisfied!

In the early days of our relationship there were some times she didn't come because she was too shy to accept a hand down there, but after that initial time of learning there's been only a few times in our 16 years together that she hasn't come and those have always been due to something interfering.

[Dan99NY]

Did you go into it for the orgasm or did you to do it just to say you did it?

Also, from your original posting, I got the feeling that he finally convinced you to do it. Therefore, you was the one making the decision and had the power. If you knew you had the power going into it ... why didn't you ask him to eat you before the sex. That way you could have possibly got off (had the orgasm) before the sex or during the sex.

I"m sure you was nervous and it definitely gets better. However, I'm curious about how you thought going into it. Not your emotions (as in you being worried or excited), but what you wanted.


Dan


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[TexasTreasure]

hmmm... good questions Mr. Dan. let me see if i can answer them objectively. how did i want my first time to be? well of course i wanted to be seduced. i didnt want it to be planned. i wanted it to just kinda happen. yes you are right. i am the one that made the ultimate decision. and i have no regrets about that. i wanted to do it. you may wonder why i am 22 and just having sex for the first time. well for a long time it was a religious/moral issue that kept me waiting. but i guess you could say that i started to rethink things some what. i felt like i was waiting for the wrong reasons if that makes sense. and i also find myself to be a horny little girl. after much thought and deliberation i made the conscious decision that waiting till marriage wasnt what i wanted to do. i still believed that "love" was for somene special...but that sex was a little more carnal than that. (i realize that love+sex= a really great thing ... but i'm not there yet , and thats okay) ....so anyway...back to the sex. i wanted it to be more involved i suppose. not just a kiss, a few gropes, a bing and a bang, and thats all she wrote! ....am i making any sense here? yes i had some control in the situation....but i guess you could say i wasnt confident enough to take on that responsibility. and frankly i wasnt expecting it to be over that quickly..i thought i still had some time........i guess i was wrong. the thought that he was a man of ample experience and i was quite the rookie was very intimidating to me. like mentioned before i was concerned about living up to expectations, etc.

but what can i say...u live and u learn right? and really...him knowing it was my first time, i think he could have made some more efforts especially to spend time w/ me (there's more to that story as well...but anyway). but on the other hand..i wasnt going to be the "typical girl" and whine and cry about him hurting my feelings. so i will take the fall on that one too. oh well.

[Loren]

Originally posted by TexasTreasure
i wanted it to be more involved i suppose. not just a kiss, a few gropes, a bing and a bang, and thats all she wrote! ....am i making any sense here? yes i had some control in the situation....but i guess you could say i wasnt confident enough to take on that responsibility. and frankly i wasnt expecting it to be over that quickly..i thought i still had some time........i guess i was wrong. the thought that he was a man of ample experience and i was quite the rookie was very intimidating to me. like mentioned before i was concerned about living up to expectations, etc.

but what can i say...u live and u learn right? and really...him knowing it was my first time, i think he could have made some more efforts especially to spend time w/ me (there's more to that story as well...but anyway). but on the other hand..i wasnt going to be the "typical girl" and whine and cry about him hurting my feelings. so i will take the fall on that one too. oh well.

As I said before, the *ONLY* justification for his conduct is not knowing better and even that falls short on not spending time with you.

Find someone who wants you, not just a little piece of you.

[TexasTreasure]

thanks to you all for the advice and insight. i appreciate it :D

[Jilly Jill]

jumping on the bandwagon a bit late here but, hey, I just joined a bit ago and this is only like my third visit to this area...always seem to find myself stuck in the story area for some reason, dangit!

Anyway, I won't rehash the important points of foreplay and safe sex. I think you've received plenty of good advice in that area. However, a point that's been missed, I think, is the importance of COMMUNICATION.

By now, I'm sure, you have an idea of what makes you feel good or not so you shouldn't be afraid to let your partner know what he/she needs to do in order to make things better for you. You can express these things with subtle signs such as a sigh, pleasurable little moan or by coming right out anf telling him that whatever he's doing feels good and should keep going. And if he isn't on the ball and misses these small clues just come right out and tell him what you'd like him to do. Sex, after all, is supposed to be enjoyable for both people, not just the guy, so don't be scared to let him know what you'd like or want to try. After all, if someone comes to remodel your house you wouldn't just say, "here's my house..have at it!" and let them run about whilly-nilly and you shouldnt do the same where sex is concerned.

And in regards to him leaving 20 minutes after "he" was done....what the hell was that? I know I'm ignorant to the background information but it sounds to me like he was just trying to get himself a piece of "virgin pussy" and didn't really care about you're first experience or feelings.

But hey...that's just my opinion and I've been wrong before.

[dm383]

First off, like Whitehorse said, "Don't give up.. we're not ALL like that!"

I feel bad for you, it not being anything like it should have been for your first time! Doesn't sound to me like this guy was very experienced AT ALL... OK, he may have had sex with a few/lot of girls, but as he showed, that DOESN'T necessarily make him any good!! And as far as leaving after 20 minutes... well, I know you said there's "more to that story", but IMHO he needs his ass kicking for that alone!!

Apart from the sex itself (WHEN it's good!) I think the cuddling up afterwards is just the best feeling there is.. unless we've done it somewhere that we CAN'T cuddle (like in the kitchen or somewhere!) the Angel and I ALWAYS cuddle.. usually til we fall asleep!!

*Gets down off his soapbox*

I hope your next time (and there WILL be a next time, won't there?!) your partner is much more thoughtful and loving (BTW, you can be loving, but not IN love.... though both is GREAT!!) so you can experience sex the way it SHOULD be... it'll blow your mind!! :D

DM

[Dan99NY]

Let me tell you a secret TexasTreasure ...
If youre cute and horny - and I think you are - I strongly suggest finding a cute guy that jumps when you call. The type that would be more than a friend, but less than a boyfriend. You could practice with him, tell him how you want to be licked and everything else. If you're calling the shots and you trust him ... why not?? As long as it's done in a safe way.

I went throught this and it works. I was in the 4th grade, but it was only oral and alot of kissing and exploring. Yes I submitted to my lustful needs in the 4th grade. She had several hiding places and easy rules to follow. It was great.


Dan
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[TexasTreasure]

Mr. Dan99NY.....you make me laugh. I am certain what u are saying is true...and would be all in good fun, which i'm not opposed to...but still...lol...oh my

[Dan99NY]

You have to have hidding places. That's why it was so much fun. Also, you need the kind of guy that takes directions well.

In the 4th grade, she used me and I liked it. In the long run, I learned alot and had good memories. If you do this I strongly suggest creating rules that protect the whole system. So you can do it over and over again.


What part of this plan makes you hesitate?

Dan


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[Lessergod]

Sorry to post so late, but i agree with JillyJill...
Its all about communication.

but hey, if he wont listen to ya i live in Austin(wink wink)
LOL