Reading vs. Posting

[dadaist]

The few of you who know me know I like chatting online, in fact like it a lot, but that I'd been intimidated about posting, even posting general replies to message forums (as in just text). I'm starting to wonder if I should have.

I just feel so out of place, out of my league I guess. The girls seem to have such fans, and everyone seems to know each other so well.

I don't regret having posted the pics I did, as they were all decent (G-rated), but I'm glad I didn't post anything steamier cause I'm not sure I could have taken it.

How do the rest of you feel?

I mean obviously I still have a bit of courage left or I wouldn't be asking...

[Sharni]

Dont feel outta place *hugz*....your one of the family

Jump on in wherever....thats how we get to know you :)

[Angel_25]

yeah posting pics does take some kind of courage dadaist, i know how you feel about posting on message boards- im a member of another site and have only gotten into message boards in the last couple of months( once upon a time i was a big fan of chatting) but for some reason have managed to somehow 'outgrow' chatting lol and have gotten a bug for posting on boards instead(ok not that much on this site lol but my old site lol) i guess it gives a 'whole new buzz'? and i have to say this is one of the best free sites out there- and as to the posting pics part- i guess thats up to my partner to enjoy real life images- but more power to those that feel free enough to put pics up- good on u guys :)

[Angel_25]

damn sharn you beat me lol- hey and ya av is still hot girl lol- and how sad am i- ive only recently seen the lotr's sequel lol- good to see orlando bloom still is lookin' gooooooooooood hehe:D

[dadaist]

Okay I'm trying this again. Accidently quit the browser the first time. ARGH.

I don't know if it's just me generally, or just having a period of low esteem right now. Although part of it is that I guess I find it easier to keep up with chats - I have half of a chance of getting a word in edgewise, and not (necessarily) be ignored or get behind in posts.

For the pics - the women all seem to have their fans already, and seem so unattainable...either taken already or too far away, and why would they be interested in what I have to say?
I guess the guys have fans too, but I have a feeling my threads, if I posted any, would have no downloads and no replies - I posted a second G rated pic on one thread and there were barely any downloads at all. Maybe it's just short attention span on readers' parts, but that's one of my fears, I'll only be noticed for a moment, and then forgotten when the next thing comes along. Actually this is partly how I approach people in real life too - if she's not already taken, she must not be at all interested.

Anyway, I might stick with these text posts a bit longer, but if I quit altogether, you know why now.

[fzzy]

dadaist - don't feel bad ....you sound like you are intelligent and well thought out comments .... personally, I don't spend a lot of time looking at the pics, I spend a little time playing the games -- though I love playing them .... just usually don't take the time to do that as much .... spend a fair amount of time in the members stories section and like you have only posted a few pics that don't show as much as most do. I'll tell you now that if you do well in chat rooms, I admire that ... I'm horrible there ... I get so easily distracted when there are more than about 2 people in one ... so I tend not to even go there.

I don't think it's so much that people have fans as that as people get to know a bit about you they feel more comfortable commenting to you .... The games section can be good for that, getting people so they see your name a bit more, you don't have to post pictures to be part of the group here .... there are all kinds of ways to fit in ... including the relatively quiet ones, but don't stay quiet just because you think we wouldn't like you ... please!!! :)

[dadaist]

Another thing I thought maybe is that it's a small group (chatroom) vs. large group (ALLof pixes) thing. and the smaller group is less intimidating.

[T-S]

Originally posted by dadaist
For the pics - the women all seem to have their fans already, and seem so unattainable...either taken already or too far away, and why would they be interested in what I have to say?

I can't speak for the women who post pics but some thoughts on your post from a guy who hasn't even posted a g-rated pic :D.
Yes they have their fans but I seriously doubt they'd reject a new one.
Some are unattainable for the reasons you say *sigh* but who knows you might strike lucky and find someone unattached, right on your door step.
Why would they be interested ? Have you ever known a lady who doesn't like to complimented on their beauty ? and a lot will show their appreciation with a reply.

I was like you didn't know if I should post or not then some of the pics just grabbed my attention so much I had to show my appreciation, after cleaning the drool of the keyboard.:D

[PantyFanatic]

I’m not quite sure what your question is here dadiast:confused:. I’ve never seen our group as a beauty contest or popularity vote. Like yourself, after a long reconnaissance, I was satisfied that these were real people and not a commercial endeavor or coven of crackpots. The entire “recreational” use of bulletin-boards was new to me, but it didn’t take long (particularly then with a lot less to read through-;) lol) to see that the personalities were consistent enough to be real. After a cautious first post, I felt as comfortable with the people as I did before as only an observer.:) We’re just a bunch of sexy adults that come here to kibitz with people like ourselves:p, but it’s a lot cheaper than doing it at the bar every night, and I don’t have to go outside when it’s too cold or drive home drunk to jackoff.:eek:
I’ve met you in chat and know you as a sharp guy who types a hell of a lot better than I do:rolleyes:. Posting on the board lets me communicate with the whole tavern instead of the few that happen to be standing around me at the bar.
So I can only offer you a stool and hope you chime in when you find the conversation interesting.:)

Diva- Give this man a drink on me.:D

[IAKaraokeGirl]

Dadaist~I've got to echo what's already been written. In chat the other day, another Pixie member (female) and I were lamenting the fact that it seemed a lot of women post here, but few men. I personally don't have to see pictures above a G-rating--I'm just curious about all Pixie's members in general: what they look like, what they do for a living, what they like to do in their free time...it's like a big, friendship melting pot. Even when men *do* post pictures, it seems as if they don't get as much attention as the women, for some reason. I know, though, that the women appreciate men posting, and you might have a better chance of talking to someone later in chat if they've seen your picture or know a little about your personality.

Fzzy was right about the games. They're an excellent way to get to know other members better, and the same goes for chat as well. T-S was right, too. While the women you've met may be unattainable, you may happen upon one that isn't, and things may click for you. In games and in chat, I know I've gotten to know people I don't have a shot at ever meeting in person, and that's okay...I have a great deal of fun with them online. Perhaps if you took the pressure off yourself a little, hung around the games and chat...things sometimes have a way of working out.

I know I've enjoyed talking to you, and I'm sure a lot of other people you've met here feel the same way. Hang in there...we like having you around.

[dadaist]

I hate to sound cliche, IAKG, but I think the reasons are the usual ones. Guys are more visual, and are generally more interested in seeing a woman naked than men seeing a man or seeing a man naked (note I made a distinction there). There's ALWAYS more demand for men seeing women than vice versa, though I think the tide is changing as women are being allowed to be more sexual and express themselves sexually.

Thanks for the comments guys. I guess I'll see how things go.

Nice to get a real conversation going however.

[LixyChick]

Dadaist,

If you know anything about me at all, you'll understand when I say I HAVE to reply to you today!

Pixies, to me, is alot like real life in that in any given situation where you have a large group of people...there will always be those who are more outgoing and those who sit back and listen and enjoy whats going on around them. At times the folks that usually blend into the background (for lack of a better analogy) will chime in on a subject that is of a certain interest to them. Some may feel content in this role and prefer to pass through unoticed. And some, like you (I think), want to add to or take more from a particular situation. This is actually easier than one might think. Just the mere fact that you took the time to explain your feelings here on this thread has opened a whole new door as to who you are and what you are thinking. One or two posts ago, I really didn't even know you at all. Yes, I have seen your nic from time to time. And as you stated, they have been few and far between. That is the one thing I did know about you and that was ok. I never really pondered the fact that you felt you were having a hard time with "joining the family". I always just assume (not necessarily a good thing on my part) that if a person comes to a site like Pixies that eventually they will make a place that is satisfying to them.

Pantyfanatic has posed a truly brilliant scenario! (Don't let that go to your head PF....either one of them!) Chat is like a club (tavern) and a person can talk with one or two people as the rest of the chatters banter with others. Or, if someone calls attention to a particular situation, everyone can add a comment or two and then it's usually back to the couple (two, three) people who were originally chatting to one another. Posting on the boards.....whether it be in pictures or stories or general chat etc....is entirely up to the individual and this situation opens up a whole new realm to the poster. If one wants attention then he/she can make a statement or post a pic and then playfully answer each and every reply individually or in one fell swoop and continue with the thread for as long or short a time as they would like. You started the thread and it is yours and you can do with it what you want.

Almost everyone here who generally adds replies to threads are genuine people with caring hearts and witty personalities and, might I add, very intelligent (despite what you'd might think from a bunch of pervs). There is no "click" that shuns newcomers or chooses who is cool and who isn't. Judgement is never passed by anyone here but the moderators (except in an extremely few rare cases) as to who is welcome and who isn't. The moderators have a particularly hard job in deciding who is trouble and should they be banned. Other than that, all are welcome to roam freely and join in or "lurk" to their hearts content! You, the poster, are in control of how you conduct yourself and who you associate with and whether or not you want attention. You can reply with long drawn out posts (like I do....LOL!) or just add your two cents and be done with it or come back again and again until you are satisfied! YOU are in control of how you are perceived in any situation where there are alot of people in one place (in this instance, Pixies).

So, as I said earlier, with this one thread......you have opened doors Dadaist! You can choose to come in and blab to your hearts content (of which I am hoping you do choose to do) or you can close this door and either open another or jump into someone elses threads or whatever it is that you are seeking. It's up to you hun! Try not to feel like others are responsible for how an individual is perceived. I think it's the individual's responsibility to let it be known how he/she wishes to be known.

I truly hope you will feel more comfortably here when you read all the words of advice and caring and widom. Come on out of your shell and jump right in.......the water is fine and I think PF is buying the entire thread a drink! If he isn't........won't he look cheap now after I said that! LMAO! Have fun hun.....that's what we are all here for!

*hugs*

P.S Feel free to PM me anytime. I don't bite unless you want me to! TeeHee!

[dadaist]

Well I will say it IS hard to keep up sometimes in the room when everyone's busy reading each other's posts or drooling over each other's pics :P

I also want to make it clear for anyone who's thinking it that she's got it dead right, it's just me trying to find a place, I am NOT for a moment trying to have a pity party or make people feel sorry for me. I guess I was just trying to gather what you guys thought about the (growing) "community" here, and how you felt you fit into the place.
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[LixyChick]

*Runs back in the thread and up to dadaist and hugs the stuffins outta him*

Oops! I can be so demonstrative when I get excited that I actually made a point! Didn't mean to squeeze you to smitherines dadaist! *gentle hug* LOL!

Now do as I do............Click your heals together three times while saying...."There's no place like home....there's no place like home....there's no place like home"!

WooooooooooHooooooooooo! Let the party begin!

[jennaflower]

dadaist..

You are NOT alone in your opinion on the ease/difficulty of fitting in here at Pixies. Yes, it is true that there are many here that are "taken" or "unavailable" (due to distance or life's circumstances), tho that being the case should not alone limit you from establishing an online friendship. Yes, it is hard to establish such a friendship on the board itself.. but that is what pm's and chats are for ;) I have no doubt that there are many people here that would like to get to know you on more of a personal level.

There are many times that I don't feel "embraced" and begin to worry about what others think of me here. When that occurs tho, I find that is more an issue within myself than it being an issue here. Yes, there are some here that I have never spoken with (directly or indirectly), but for each of those there are just as many who pm me out of the blue just saying hello or respond to one of my (few as of late) posts and in doing so make me remember what a wonderful bunch of people are here.

PS... update that autobiography of yours :)

[dm383]

Hi dadaist:

Just wanted to add a few words to those already said so eloquently by the others........I first registered here in July last year, and didn't post a thing for weeks! I was (what Sharniqua calls) a lurker I guess. I'm the opposite to you, in that I don't go into chat hardly at all...... I'm a bit shy (Yes, even online... surprising you might think, given my job!!) plus I often can't think of anything to say except "Hi"; but I LOVE the boards, especially the Games!!

What a difference now though...... you can see from the number of posts! But I have to be fair and say over 1000 of these have been since Xmas.. when I introduced my lady to this site.. and she has over 400.........

What I'm TRYING to say (badly!) is what Lixy and Jenna & the rest said... jump in and get your feet wet - head first!! That's what I/we did; we posted some fairly explicit pix a week or two ago.. and it was great fun!!

Starting to jabber now (more than usual) so I'll just GTF... C ya around the boards, I hope!!

DM

[Sharni]

.....what you guys thought about the (growing) "community" here, and how you felt you fit into the place.
What I think....hmmmmm....I've been here forever, since way back when the membership was in the low low hundreds....And boy has the place grown!!

Personally I would love to get to know all the current members...but I cant unless they are willing to join in and share a bit about themselves..share you views and ideas..not everyone will agree with everything you have to say....but hey thats life!
And believe me over my years as a member I have ruffled quite a few feathers *L*

How do I fit in:

I'm part of the Pixies furniture *LOL*....but let me add....that if I left...there would be a little ripple and then I too would become a distant memory...and life here would go on!

I truely hope you decide to stay and enjoy the place as much as the rest of us do....but that is up to you...it just requires a just a bit of effort is all :):):) *hugz*

You get out of Pixies what you put in!!

[SteinFibers]

The sadist thing about Bulletin boards is that they are open to everyone, of course from an marketing standpoint that's great, but the days of the BBS (Dial up) were much better. The advertisement would be done through word of mouth, and those on the site would form a better and much stronger relationship. And the people on the board would always be within 100 km of each other (of course with a few phone phreaking exceptions) BUt the downside would be, we wouldn't meet all these great people from around the world. IT might night be great not getting noticed or having a post or or reply ignored (which is happening to of mine, about 50%, RE: Lurkers, my Story: A Little Bit Different) I didn't get any feedback, but then other things, i got feedback from someone who happen to be online at the same time within 5 min. So it's all the luck of the draw, it has nothing to do with too many people, favourites, or newcomers..just keep going and see what happens..

SteinFibers..

[SteinFibers]

Originally posted by Sharniqua

[color=blue]What I think....hmmmmm....I've been here forever, since way back when the membership was in the low low hundreds....And boy has the place grown!!

I actually became a member 6 months after you did. The first time I came to this site i was following a yahoo link to erotic stories, This was in early 2000, i spent the next year reading stories and reviewing the posts just being a 'lurker.' (Main reason i came aboard was due to the site change, YES that happened once upon a time) I registered because i realized that it would be worth my time to contribute to Pixies Place and I am happy that I did, there are a lot of informative, intelligent, and caring people, and i can't stress the word PEOPLE enough. I can't remember who it was but with all the additions we have had to pixies place we have also had our losses and i could tell the community was affected by it. That's how you know you've come to the right place.

SteinFibers


"Very often there are members of your own blood (family) that you know that you wish were not, but how often is it that you meet someone not of your blood and wish that they actually were..."

This is one of those places...

[dicksbro]

dadaist, just take your time and enjoy. If Pixies is about anything, it's about being relaxed and comfortable reading and sharing with others.

As far as sharing pictures ... can you imagine me, a 59-year old male. The first few times were really tough. In a lot of places, I think I might have been met with laughter or snide comments and the first time, I actually wondered if that wouldn't be the case here ... but it wasn't. Here, people were nice. They made me feel pretty good about myself, something I really appreciated.

It's almost a surprise to me sometimes how close I've come to feel with so many Pixies! Never met any in person (to the best of my knowledge), but feel like they're dear friends. When I've needed support, they've been there. When I needed a laugh, they provided one. It's a surprisingly refreshing place with a whole lot of really wonderful people ... plus, of course, this one old man. :)

[Sharni]

I actually became a member 6 months after you did...(Main reason i came aboard was due to the site change, YES that happened once upon a time)
Pixies has had 3 changes..not just 1....i've been around since the Original Pixies...cant remember exactly when that was...but i do know it was years ago(If i can catch Kim sometime i'll have to ask...i'd love to know exactly how long ago it was)

[Teddy Bear]

Da, I'm confuzzled about this thread... sorry but at first it seemed you were upet no one replied to your threads, I see quite a few reponses to this one ey. Then it seemed you were afraid to join in the chat room, I've been there & you've managed just fine, but you can always just sit back & listen. Then I got the feeling you were lamenting the fact you wanted to chat with some one but had no chat offers, your right I'm 'not avalible' but we had some fun/interesting chats, I thought. And I thought we were friends, but you need to be honest with your friends and not try to be someone you aren't -- J'D...

Teddy

[erotic51]

guess I am in a similar situation dadaist, chatting from time to time, reading mostly and ogling at the wonderful posts that everyone at pixies upload. Like you, I havn''t ventured into the domain of posting any images of myself, guess like you, I feel a little tense about it, but I have managed to share my words with other and have received encouraging comments or replies. Time is something that has a way of giving comfort and in time I have managed to overcome many of my own inhibitions. I guess you will find your own time to expand, explore and share what you feel is important and imtimate with others. However, I can say that this is by far the most friendly and encouraging forum I have visited, and do so at every opportunity. Stay with it, it does get better (that inner fear) with time. :)

[Oldfart]

dadaist, Pixies is to a large degree about comfort zones

and the more you relax into the forum, the easier it becomes.

I have as yet to post because the bastards at NASA won't

re-configure the Hubble Telescope to get a picture past my gut,

but eventually I'll wear them down.

Go where you are happy within the Forum and just enjoy.

No law says you have to post pics or be an aggressive poster.

It's just for fun.

[dadaist]

*sigh*

I knew eventually someone would just accuse me of whining.

Forum moderators, can we have this thread removed please?

[erotic51]

Ignore that last request!!!!! There are lost of people who visit pixies and find reading threads, like this one, a help. :)