my best friend

[KannabliztiK]

aight girls i want to know i've known this girl for 4 years now and ive always liked her and shes known it but we have grown to be best friends since we ment i want to know what would be the best way to get her closer to me so we can start dating or move i could make so she would like me more any advice is helpful thanks alot!!!

[Casperr]

You want advice on how to make a girl like you as more than a friend? Sorry to be the one to tell you this, but it doesn't work that way.... you cannot MAKE someone like you as something they don't want you to be.
Having said that, if your friendship is as good as you say, then two things apply:
a) she probably already knows how you feel about her. Women are annoyingly good like that.
b) it can't hurt to talk to her about it. She's your best friend - you should be able to tell her exactly how you feel. You'll probably get the "I like you but only as a friend" line, but that goes back to what I said at the start. You can't make someone like you, without pretending to be someone or something you're not. Or, of course, she might say "Really? I feel the same about you, i was just afraid you didn't want that. Let's get married." That's what you're hoping for, and I'm saying ask for her, see what happens, but don't expect much.

Good luck, and remember this is only my opinion which doesn't ALWAYS mean it's right ;)

Let us know what happens!
CasperTG

[airhog]

I agree with casperTG let her know how you feel, but tell her that even if she doesnt reciprocate those feelings your friendship will not change

[Lilith]

Once you let your feelings "out of the bag" so to speak..............your relationship WILL change. Regardless of whether she wants to date you or not. If she wants to date you, Great!, friends can make excellent lovers! If she does not feel the same, then it is like an open wound in the friendship, and she will constantly be trying to avoid picking at the scab, (lovely metaphor.......sorry), it will be there just festering. So make your choices wisely! Tread lightly!

[Belial]

Originally posted by Lilith
If she does not feel the same, then it is like an open wound in the friendship, and she will constantly be trying to avoid picking at the scab, (lovely metaphor.......sorry), it will be there just festering. So make your choices wisely! Tread lightly!
Too true :( :(

[Nutz]

Lilith is right on about that "scab." I've been in your shoes before. Sometimes it's best not to ask the questions you don't want the answers too.

[ericthered]

You've got 2 choices -

1) Live with the situation and appreciate a friend for the moment who will inevitably drift away when she finds a sex partner

2) Roll the world into a ball and ask her to come away for a dirty week end in the mountains or by the sea. If she says no, Plan B is to ask her for a proper date. If she still says no, Plan C is to get out of there. Avoid her altogether. If she calls and wants to continue as before, tell her sorry but you don't think you could do that. You'll never be comfortable with her again anyway. At least she will be forced to get off the fence.

Life can be a bitch.........

[CherryChick248]

As everyone else has said, there is NOTHING a guy can do to "make" a girl like him. Even if he is exactly what she is looking for, if she has already put him in the "only a friend" mold, she will probably look at you as a brother, and thus, not sexually (I would hope).
You say she knows you like her-this leads me to believe that if she felt the same way, she would have let you know by now. If not, she may just like having a close friend whom she knows is attracted to her.
If your friendship is what is supremely important to you, than just make sure she knows the ball is in court, but you'll remain friends regardless. If, however, you do not feel you could "just be friends" with her, than tell her so, and tell her why. Maybe you are overestimating her knowledge; as conniving as us girls can be, sometimes when we find out someone likes us, we think, "REALLY? Get outta here!" when it is completely obvious to everyone else. Just be honest with her...but the outcome is not guaranteed.
I love to ramble! ;)

Cherry

[BigBear57]

Ahhhhhhhh essence of memories past. I was always the king of "but I'll always love you like a brother" I swear that phrase made me wanna scream. At 45 and still in similar situations I wonder if those guys without hearts aren't the winners sometimes. Oh well... I feel your pain Dude...best of luck.

[Dan99NY]

This has more to do with courage and confidence than "hooking up". If you're detail oriented, you could figure out her feelings without her telling you. Therefore, the answers in your head.

If I was in your position and she looked like my type and she had the personality to go with it (like Mena Suvari from the American Pie Movies). I would do this.

I would (1)recall everything that she finds sexy in men, (2)compare all her current boyfriends and ex-boyfriends, (3)improve my looks and tweak my personality to what she likes, (4)look for small signs that shows she likes me, (5)gradually monopolize a Friday night or a Saturday night and (6)see if she starts flirting with me from my improvements.

If the previous 6 steps don't work, you will be a better person and other females may be interested in you. It's a win win situation.

If she's that incredible, my plan would be to have as a girlfriend or a close friend. Either or but not Nothing. If you confess your feelings, understand the repercussions. You may be disconnected from her completely.

Dan

P.S.>> By the way, if you hang around her alot and you just want a girlfriend. Some females may already think she's your girlfriend or she likes you. This can be a helpful resource or a problem. Don't cross off other girlfriends that might be interested in you. To have a girlfriend whose a friend AND a real girlfriend at the same time is a good situation. The type of situation that makes you sexy in the eyes of other females AND get respect from the fellas.



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[krzykrn]

Well I can't really add much that others have not already said, but just wanted to comment on Bigbear's comment...ahahahaha I feel for you, I too have been on that end of the stick too many times. It is just like the phrase "you are such a nice guy...", hmm gee thanks, as we all know nice guys finish last lol.

[Oldfart]

Put her in some situations as a friend so that if she takes the initiative

you can respond, or, if her friendship is more important than your desire

dip your wick, don't.