(_/_)ANAL-ology(_\_)

[Lilith]

I know this has to be somewhere here already but I figured I would throw it out for discussion again......new members = new ideas:)

My guy and I were having a sociological discussion about whether the "average" person indulges in anal sex. Now I know Pixies people are not at all average but I thought I would see what you guys feel about it!

Please vote in the poll.......and I would love to hear your thoughts on anal and how common or uncommon you think it is. Also do you think it is more acceptable in some countries than others??

[dopey]

I think its more common than we are led to belive expecially in the US. As to other countries I really can't say. I don't think though that men should be so hung up about it which I do think is the case.

[RandyGal]

*gulp* isn't this still one of those things that can get people arrested?

:D

Too bad....while I've never had anal sex I'd love to try, but don't really wanna go to jail for doing so. ;)


LOL LOL LOL

[Scarlett]

We decided to give it a try and it hurt me, so that was the end of that LOL

[skipthisone]

It took years of anal play till one day we finally tried it, and it was uncomfortable for my SO and we didnt do it again for months, then one night playing around she wanted to do it again, and ever since, about every other time or so we have sex its anal

[dick]

Never tried it. Wifey has made it plain she wants no part of it and i respect that. There are other things i would rather try first.

[angelsfriend]

My wife was never interested in anything more than a little anal fingering. Then all of a sudden one day during some especially hot and extended love making she said "I want it in my ass" after a little lubrication and some gentle probing we had found ourselves some new pleasure. Since then it is something we do not on a regular basis but enough to keep it interesting.

[pepsigirl]

I like anal sex very much, but i read on another thread that i (being the female) should push my sphincter muscles like i was going to the bathroom when having the man insert his cock inside my ass. is that true? if so, no wonder it hurts me each time. lol

[katekate42]

My boyfriend and I gave it a try not long ago and really liked it, though we've only done it a couple times since. As yet, it's just something fun to do sometimes, but not the main event. Pepsi, pushing out just a little does help a lot when he's putting it in-- we managed it with no pain (I was pleasantly surprised) even the first time... Ah, it helps to read the pixies forums ;)

[Casperr]

I know this will come as a shock to many of you but.....

Yes, I have tried anal!!!!

LOL!!

Solo only unfortunately. I think anal play is probably more common than I would have thought - a friend of mine who I had thought was a little, shall we say, sheltered surprised me the other day when she mentioned that she often used a finger there during sex with her man. However, I think the taboo factor is still there - I don't think people are as free to talk about it as they are various other sex acts.
I think for women, the perception is that anal sex is 'slutty' or dirty.... and for men, well any enjoyment seems to make you a nymphomaniac homosexual.

I think it's sad that society still has this attitude towards something soooo good! But, such is the world we live in!

CasperTG

[Aqua]

Well gee, I don't know much about this 'anal' sex thing...

[dm383]

I polled as "No, but love to try"..... not strictly accurate, cos the few times I HAVE tried it, my partner changed her mind "last minute".... so still waiting!!

I just found out the other night, that my girlfriend was anally raped by her last b/f (:mad: ... Bastard!) so her previous liking of it is, understandably, rather diminshed at present. Thing is, despite that, we trust each other so much already, after only 3 months together, she is willing to try it again in time; have I got a great girl here, or what? :D

Have to agree with Casper too; the "taboo" regarding sex in general, and anal in particular, is still alive & well here in Scotland.
I've been very lucky finding someone who can talk about ANYTHING with me, which is how the question came up in the first place!

As regards how common it is ~ well, I believe it's a lot more common than many people (outside of Pixies at least;) ) might think; don't know about the cultural/country aspect though.

Sorry to ramble again!) .... and, if I forget next week......


MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY!


DM

[Sinner76]

Well i have tried it and think its great.......... but no substitute for the real thing........ i do feel that american society as a whole is way to hung up on sexual taboos........hell there are some countries were anal sex is considered a form of birth control.........

p.s......from a male point of view ladies,,,,,,,,the whole pushing out thing,,,,, really does make it alot easier and less painful....

[RUMFUN13]

I don't know. Some women hate the thought of it. Some will try or do it grudgingly and some get better orgasms than vaginal or oral sex. Personal preference and patience are the key

[horseman12]

I have had anal sex with several of my s/o's and all have wanted to do it, it is something they love to do, however had others who really did'nt like it after trying it, think its just a personal thing, i myself enjoy it as something diffrent.

[Irish]

I happen to have a very wide(thick)penis.This is not a personal
view,I have been told this by many women!My wife&I tried anal
intercourse,a few times,but it hurt her.I'm sure that with lubrication,relaxation,etc,we eventually would have succeeded.
There are,so many,other activities that we enjoy,that we figured,
Why bother? Irish

[rabbit]

Mrs R and I indulge in anal on occasion. We like it but we prefer vaginal intercourse MUCH, MUCH more!

[BallisBabe]

AHHHHH.....Anal Sex....one of lifes lil pleasures. Tried it, Loved it..Can't do w/o it. More often than not I achieve a much more powerfull orgasm than orally or vaginally.

[Aqua]

Alright... I lied before... :p (Of course all the regulars know that!) :D Aqua'a the name, Anal's my game. I've always had an attraction to asses. I can remember once my ass rubbed a girl's ass as we passed each other between desks at school in 2nd grade... I couldn't stop thinking about it. I've had the opportunity to have anal sex with almost every woman I've had sex with and every one I did do it with wanted to do it again. I always take the approach of making it an experience for her, not me, and that makes a big difference. It is by far my favorite sexual past-time! :D
I think it is definitely more common than folks let on. I've been in situations where one guy (in an effort to 'outdo' everyone else) is pumping up his own sexual bravado. 'Oh, AND I've done her in.... the butt.' The response from the other guys in the group... okay, so what? Been there done that. It may be a bit different in other parts of the country, but that's how it is in my experience here.

[Irish]

Aqua---You're not telling people the whole story!You didn't tell
them that you were 20yrs.old when you were in 2cd grade&
that you were arrested for having sex with a second grader.
That line of"Hey little girl,wanna see what I've got?" put you on
the sex offender register. Irish
P.S.If anyone wants to see what I look like,I'll be on I.E.T.tonight
(Irish Entertainment Televison)making apologies for what I said
about the mistreatment of my ancestors!

[Aqua]

:o Who? ME? Noooo, it was the one armed man! Everyone knows THAT! :p

[incitatus]

I had a girlfriend who was from England and had a very open attitude about sex. (I'm not sure if that attitude was a result of her upbringing -in the UK- or if it was just her. -Perhaps the topic of another thread...)

Anyway....

The topic of anal sex came up several times during and after our sex sessions. One time after we had "normal" sex, she bent over to pick up some of her clothes and I decided it was time to try it out.
To me it felt about like vaginal sex (somewhat tighter but a much more narrow area of pressure... )
She said that it was gratifying, although in a different way than either vaginal or clitoral gratification.

That was my one and only time... I glad I had the chance to try it, because my girlfriend now would definitely never go for it and she's likely to be my last girlfriend.

Hey, a lot can be said about being sexually open and adventurous!

[Peacelul]

We used to have anal sex a lot and we both loved it but over the last year it has become a bit painful so we have eased of. My partner also gives me anal pleasure with hand or dildo every now and then and it is fantastic!

[creator]

i occassionaly have anal sex with my girlfriend but its something we keep for special occassions.i personally find it great cause it has this really narrow feeling and she likes it as well. i figured out that for a girl to like having anal sex she has to be really really arroused. Try it with a girl that just wants to have sex and it will fail. Try it with a girl that is craving for sex at the time and it will succeed. A tip for couples that have tried and found it painfull at the first time of later : Try different positions! . For us doggie almost never seems to work , on the other hand she standing up and leaning forward and me coming from behind works great all the time . So if you are certain that you didnt go in too fast , or didnt use enough lube , try a different position.