anal sex help

[BluStarLite]

Ok, I need your input. How do i get my bf of 7 months to go for anal sex? I told him Id like to give it a shot and he didnt seem interested. i thought guys loved that! Im kinda submissive and hes not very dominant or willing to take the reins and try anything new. I can barely get him to do me doggy style! im kinda freaky, but need my guy to "talk" me into it. I told him id do anything he wanted me to in bed. Do you know his response? "how about a new position?" what??? grr. i know he loves sex with me and says i give great head, so what is his problem? how do i get him to have anal sex with me without more or less forcing him?

[krzykrn]

Well, to be honest if he doesn't want to do it chances are he will never do it...however...perhaps he just needs lots of enticing...more than words that is, how about trying to "seduce" him so to speak.

Dress up in something sexy, and have him sit down on the bed, chair, whatever and put on a little show for him. A slow strip tease, caressing your whole body, telling him how good it feels...how good he makes you feel...touch your breasts, your thighs, your pussy...then bend over and play with your ass. Caress your buttocks, pry them apart and display yourself to him...touch your anus...rub it...tell him how incredible it feels...slide a finger inside of yourself (after generous lube of course)...maybe he will get the message then...if not well...I am out of ideas :)

Maybe your boyfriend and yourself need to really talk about your intimacy together since you say he is not willing to take the reins and try anything new. Variety is the spice of life, and if he is not willing to explore new horizons with you...this may leave you very frustrated, and it sounds like you are approaching that point already. Well, I wish you luck, take care!

[aflyerfan]

I would say that you should guide it in. If you have been making love for awhile,have him pull out,then line him up where you want him. I think that might just work.

[Boogieman]

Yes, guys do love that, so I'm guessing he's never done it and might be intimidated if you're the first. You might need to draw him in buying practicing what you preach. Show him how good it can feel...you know. Or perhaps have him use a dildo on you until he's sees how you might respond.

[south]

try getting some anal sex infromation that explains how to do it safe and sanely. You will be suprised at all the stuff you should know before you "stuff"...also if your BF reads a bit about it there is a chance his interest might be peaked...if not lose this guy as you will be doomed to trying to "top him from the bottom". and if you are truly a sub your not going to be happy with a non-domin man

[Steph]

You're right - most guys love it (Is Aqua around? ;) ). Tell him why you think it would be great for both of you and definitely seek out some information on anal that's not too clinical and explains the benefits.

[pepsigirl]

perhaps play with your ass while he is fucking u. let him see your pleasure from inserting a finger, or perhaps a small dildo.

[ericthered]

When you don't want him inside you (or can't or have a headache), get him excited by hand then oil up your butt and, lying on your side with your back to him, let him amuse himself between your cheeks. This works best if you're lying more or less straight rather than curled up, and you'll need to hang on to your best friend so it stays in the groove. You can do nice things for him by clenching your cheeks on him - oh those muscles!

Let him know it's good for you (Come for me baby, come in my butt etc etc you know what I mean....). Now the sneaky bit; he's moving but you're steering. so you can concentrate on your little star and make him come while he's pressing against it. If this is ecstatically delighting, let him know. With a bit of encouragement he's going to be looking forward to your periods!

There you are! It's for sure it's going to start slipping in and out after you've done it this way a few times and you will have got him where you want him. Good luck and do let us know how it went...... Regular progress reports will be appreciated by us all.

[lizH]

krzykrn,

Your advise on how to "seduce" a long term partner worked, and worked very well! It took a few *days* of this, after I'd been trying with words alone for well over a year, to talk my partner of 11 years into fucking my ass last night.

I can't say for sure that it was the *best* sexual experience I've ever had, but it's up there!!! Let's just say I've been around the block a few times, and some trips were superb! :) All of the neighbors know I enjoyed it also. <LOL>

Thanks for the idea on seduction,
Liz