why would anyone want to ignore you? You're too cute to ignore.

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I hear ya sista!

((((((((Sharni)))))))))

When people start pointing out other's shortcomings.....it's usually because they have plenty of their own and in some strange way this makes them feel better about themselves! When it gets extremely insulting....I usually say something like, "What makes your life so perfect that you can go around judging others at a glance"? Stops um dead in their tracks!!!

BTW....you'd be shocked if I told you my weight......but like some have mentioned above.....I happen to carry it well (so far!..whew!)

*walks away singing.......Don't go changing.....to try and please us....you've never let us down before............*

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Being a BBW myself, I too know how much those comments are uncalled for but hurt just the same. Screw 'em, Sharni. All anybody has to do is look at the pix you post to know that you are sexy as hell.

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As a BBM I must be lucky as I havn't had any of the comments many of you seem to have but then again for the area I live I'm quite tall (6 foot) and with my hair style I've been told I look intimidating which I find very surprising because I'm as gentle a person as you'd like to meet. But if I ever did have someone make comments like that to me I guess my reply would be a loud and very direct "take a fuck off pill wanker" no matter where it was.

Everybody ahs the right to be themselves with out others judging them. We may be overweight to some, but who are they to decide? I'm not sure how much I weigh to be honest its in the 20 stone region, I don't care I'm simply me and being big is part of being me. If they don't like it there not worthy of being my friend, It's their loss not mine.

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AMEN! I just had a day from hell and reading your post makes me feel at home: people suck and there isn't a thing i can do about it. I too hate hearing the bullshit people say when they think I can't hear or the comments on how much I eat or what I eat. I hate it. And tonight just solidified it. I just think its no ones business. Honestly those people just make me want to show them that even though they think that I couldn't be sexy/successful or whatever other barriers, that I CAN.

I recentrly found out i'm insulin resistant and since I have PCOS, I have to take meds and hopefully drop some weight. I am overweight and I will NEVER be skinny by anymeans. Wouldn't want to if I could! and I'm dropping pounds but for once I'm DOING it for me (mostly so I can have kids someday ). I personally think that its fun to confuse thin people at the store when they look at my shopping cart full of veggies, fruit, and splenda. Hehehe....I laughed my ass off at the skinny woman scoffing at me today when she loaded up her cart filled with cheesecake and groundbeef, and noticed my load of yogurt, nectarines and the always tasty cucumber.

I'm lucky and so are you girl! We have friends (like the GREAT Pixie's group) Who love us for who we are! I have a friend who makes it a point to tell me how i good I look every time I see her. It makes me feel alive.

You're beautiful, Sharni. and don't ever change that by letting stupid people get to you.

ps- one of my friends once complained that she wanted to be 'fat' (she was 5'9", 105 lbs) Why? Skinny chicks don't have curves EMBRACE THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(whew I ranted way long...please forgive!- I feel MUCH BETTER!)

if people don't like you for who you are, fuck em - you don't need them anyways

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I know what you mean..i have been made fun of for my weight sense I was about 6 or 7 years old..it never stops hurting my feelings. I dont really eat like a cow either! I try to be quite healthy but Im a curvy woman...and I like it that way so screw the rude ass people in the world that think they have a right to tell anyone what they should and shouldnt be eating or wearing! Such a waist of space.....

I wouldn't call myself fat, but I am about 10-15 kgs heavier than what I should be and don't like anyone seeing my torso.

As for my preference in women, as I'm hug-oriented , I'll explain in those terms: I don't like women to be so slender that I'd fear breaking them, nor so large that I couldn't get my arms around them. In general I like women who are a bit bigger than the so-called norm, and a great deal of my pixies faves are around that size. Big hugs to all those needing them because of inconsiderate loudmouths.

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Tell it girl i know what ya saying big time...

i get frigg'n annoyed with it too.. believe me i'm currently 6ft 260 lbs but at one point i was almost 300lbs.. but i really don't eat much it just comes from sitting around doing nothing.. and i get sick and tired of family and friends talking shit to me like that too! RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGHHHH

sorry just had to rage..

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Rock on, ladies....rock on!!!

well sharni what can i say not much cos u would give me a punch in the head y worry what other people say or think but i say u r not to big there is only more to play with love scab

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Want to see Shari again real soon

sorry was sounding like i was on rikie lake u r still very sexy to me

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Want to see Shari again real soon

Amen to this thread. I've battled the pounds all my life, and it ain't been easy. What chaps me is the "You are worthless" look I get from the waifish skeletons with skin. I guess when they get that skinny, the weight goes to their overweight egos.

Anyway, thanks for the rant, Sharni. It made my day.

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Sharni,

It's amazing what people think they can get away with saying to others, isn't it?

I am also a BBW - to the best of my recollection I haven't had any of your experiences or some of those recounted (keeps her fingers crossed). My regular doc is gentle about my weight, but the radiation oncologist I had to visit made a big deal about it (thank God I don't have to see him again!).

I've been heavier than I should be since high school. Though if I weighed now what I did then Iwould be thrilled!

Keep going and remember don't let the SOBs grind you down!!