Rollergrl,

I know what you are thinking..and you are correct, we DO need to get back to the sex of before. I just dont know how. we've been married for 4 years now and the sex has just fallen off the table.

We used to watch some porn..and still do on occasion. That helps but like the sex itself, it is too few and far between. Either she is too tired or grumpy or both. As far as reading stories goes, that is a great turn on for me but practically blows out the candle on her end..let alone lite the fire.

She has avoided any topic of fantasies, and won't divulge any of them to me. We are about to the point of being in as big of a rut as I think is possible.

Being married for 4 years has been great, but as far as any exploring of boundries goes, we are done. She doesn't appear to want to explore any further. If we havent done it or tried it by now, I'm pretty sure that we won't try it at all.

Some BJ's and oral on her end is fine...Missionary or Female on top is fine too, throw in the occasional doggy for variation.( though I cant remember the last time we did it that way). She rarely lets me perform oral on her, it USED to be most of the time with, now its most of the time without oral.

I am beginning to think that she noo loger enjoys it when I do. I am also feeling like sex happens just to get me to quit asking WHEN.