Wanting your marriage to work must be reciprocal. It just won't work if one person wants it and the other is perfectly happy letting them do all the work to keep the marriage together.

Unless you enjoy being the martyr.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.