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i have nothing else to say but.......... ROCK ON!!! cause it does suck and now it's like if you don't wear a size three you are the hugest ( word?) thing in the world, what happened to the roman times where curves on men or women were sexy not gross.

Amen sister friend!!!!

Mr. Lil weighs nothing (former marathon runner....metabolism that burns any, and every thing) and my kids are tiny too. I eat extremely healthy but I do buy them treats etc. I have experienced similar rudeness, one incident in particular that I really had a hard time getting past. Funny how we would never consider being so rude as to walk up to someone who was less than attractive and give them tips on make-up or where to find a good plastic surgeon:D

(((((((HUGS))))))) Sharni!!!!


I am so sorry you've encountered such rude assholes!!! You and most of the Pixies that know me well, know I'm far from thin. Like you I DO NOT gorge myself with sweets and junk food. I don't even eat 3 meals a day..........usually something in the morning and then again at dinner. I don't eat a dozen eggs, a whole pound of bacon and an entire loaf of bread in one sitting as some obese people do. I don't eat as healthy as I should, but I'm not constantly stuffing my face with food!!! Would I like to be thinner? FUCK YEAH!!! Do I want to be skinny?? HELL NO!!! I just want to be able to buy clothes easily and have them fit reasonably well.
God Bless my husband, he does not criticize me or harass me about my weight. I wasn't overly thin when we got married, but I sure as hell didn't weigh as much as I do now.
But, I have also been blessed in that I have never once encountered anyone that has laughed at me, or made any rude comments to me about what I'm eating or buying in the grocery store. I hope I never do. I'd either say something sarcastic or a simple "FUCK YOU", which really wouldn't accomplish anything.

Sharni, hon, I'm a good listener, and I sure as hell understand your feelings. So just bend my ear anytime you want. You know I'm online almost all the time. :D Just give me a yell anytime you want!!

:(

Some people are just a waste of space, aren't they? I honestly know where you're coming from. I have a medical condition that affects my insulin, which makes it really difficult to keep weight off. I have to eat healthy and really watch my carb intake, but darn if sometimes I don't feel like just indulging in some chocolate or a bag of chips. Just because I indulge occasionally doesn't mean it's all I eat, and I shouldn't have to feel guilty about it...and neither should you!

I'm lucky, also. My husband has known me since I used to be thin, and he still insists that I'm the sexiest woman he knows ;)

Sharni,,
I can really feel for you.. being a bbw myself. I never have understood what would possess people to think that they can just open thier mouths and let whatever pop out.. I have had it hapen to me more than once and am quick to tell them to get bent. But it does still hurt. I won't say that I am a saint..I do love chocolate and indulge but of course its all in moderation. I love it when people automaticly assume you want a diet pop or critique what you are eating. Thats when I ask them point blank "what do you think I am on a diet" it usually leaves them speechless. All I can say is that you are a beautiful woman (and I know everyone here would agree). Women need curves - to me that is part of what sexy is all about. I can't say that it doesn't hurt when someone says something rude like that but just know they are in the minority.. women are not Barbies and most never will be.

Hopefully half of what I said makes sense... this subject really gets me so ticked...

Sharni---I know where you're coming from.I work out daily,but most people don't realise that muscle weighs more than fat.Also,I
am diabetic.My Diabetic Dr.,told me that insulin makes you put on
weight.If you go by most charts,in the height to weight ratio,I'm
obese.I asked my diabetic Dr, & he told me-"You're a big guy.
While most say that weight is unheathy,I'd rather that you were
heavy & in shape, then fat." Irish
P.S.As I've said before,the only person, that you can make happy,
is the person that looks back from the mirror!The rest don't know
the circumstances!

Ditto.. Ditto.. Ditto... Ditto... Ditto...

Did I say... Ditto? LOL

I can relate.. damn it.. wish I couldn't.. but I can...

HUGS...

What Jenna said......what disturbs me ..is the way some people look at people who are "different" and then sort of snicker and turn away..want to crush them...Handicaped people get it all the time...

I hold an impressive 255lbs on my 6ft frame. I however don't look like I way anywhere near that much (Yes their is such a thing as big boned). But I don't eat junk food or large amounts of food. I'm just generally big. Since I am the way I am, I don't judge larger people that way. Plus I'm kind of fond of the bigger ladies.

I have to be honest and say that extremely fat people do not turn me on sexually.

However I am not rude to people or would have the gall to comment that they should not eat something.

I myself have a bit of middle aged spread that goes always to my tummy. Like Irish i have diabetes and take a lot of insulin so that increases appetite and some weight gain. I do not exersize enough either but i expect to be doing a lot of pushups soon, quite often in fact, with Curvy laying under me to supervise :D

Curvy is not waif like either. She has some pudding to hold on to and it how I like it .

So I sympathise with you Sharni, you don't deserve to be treated rudely, no one does

I too can relate to this totally......while most people I know do not think of me as being particularly overweight, most of them are really surprised when I tell them how much I weigh.

About a year ago I went to the docs after my car crash, complaining of whiplash pain and broke down in tears when the doctor was particularly unsympathetic. He diagnosed depression (which was pretty accurate) and then placed a patronising hand on my knee and said 'perhaps your weight has something to do with it'. Just what a depressed person wants to hear.

A friend of mine with whom I had a brief fling, also comments on a regular basis, that I could be a lap dancer in a 'specialist' club (in other words, I'm only sexy to those sections of the population who have a 'fat fetish' - odd considering he's seen my pic threads here, and knows how much they are enjoyed by my fellow Pixies.)



Woah - I think my rant was longer than Sharni's! Thanks for starting this thread Sharni, so that we can all have a whinge about intolerant (intolerable?) people. x

((((SHARNI))))

I agree with you. I struggle and so does my wife ... doesn't change a thing in terms how beautiful I think she is or how much I love her.

Besides, I've seen you're pictures and you're a beautiful lady. In fact, all you Pixie ladies are!

oh sharni i get that to i hate it and have been reduced to tears before bc of it. im not HUGE but i am real fluffy (im not allowed to say the f** word anymore i get yelled at) i weigh 70lbs over what the docs say i shud and every time i go tin they tell me "u know the base does have a free gym" FUCKERS i tell them they are more than welcom to watch my child while i go ! i also dont eat alot of junk food. every now n then i do get lazy and get take out. or ill eat some choc (MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM chocccccccccccc) but ive decided that id rather be fluffly and happy than skinny and hungry!!! i refuse to starve myself! tried that once lasted 4 days (worst 4 dizzy days of my life) and by the forth i decied it sucked and went home and ate! fuck the ppl who look down on us they will never know what its like to be heavy or how hard it is to get it off so they can either be nice to me or go to hell!

(ok now MY rant is ove TY for lisening)

~nikki

Big ppl rule being 1 my self i hate eating in public places all ways have i got a mate he is as fin as a stick every day he goes to maccas he is a team mate by the way any way i go to maccas once one time on the way home and it was only to get a drink boom cop it every time at training or before the guy some smart arse would say were going to win today fellows cause i put a cheese burger on the try line so give Ian the ball....this from my so called team mates the follow yeah went to a new team and we kicked my old teams arse Pay Back is a bitch