Typical or no?
 

Just wondering if what I am going through is normal. Iggy has been gone for a while and I have no problems with satisfying myself alone. I will say I won't cheat on him but I find myself wanting bodily contact. I don't know anyone in my town so I don't have to worry about temptation. Is this normal due to him being gone and I just want skin to skin contact. So far whenever I start feeling like that I will just channel all that sexual energy into some very sexy letters and use a vibe thinking of the things I want to do to him. I do know that I'll be one happy girl when he gets home.

In my LDRs, I never thought of cheating . . . if it's a REALLY long time, I could understand. Or, if that handsome son of the V-P of the university came over a lot . . . :)

My guy's just gone for the week and I already miss the body contact. It's tough, no question.

Yes, IggysGirl, it is most definitely normal. I think that we crave bodily contact anyway, but we are especially aware of that need when we know what we are missing--when we have someone in our lives whom we care about so much but can't see him or her.

I empathize with you completely. I went 2 yrs without any sexual contact with anyone once, but I was tied up with work and school and didn't know anyone. So, I was lonely, but I could handle it fine through masturbation.

However, I've been in a LDR for over 2 years now, and our contact has gotten briefer and briefer with long periods between that contact for reasons that would take too long to go into here. I saw him last Sept., and it was long enough to be able to make love (about 3 hrs). I have seen him only once since then (1/20/03) when I saw him at the airport for 30 min--just long enough to give him a blow job in my car. We have no phone contact, no letters, no e-mails--only managing to meet on line for 10 to 45 min about once every 3 weeks. It is very hard.

The first year I met my need to share sexually by sending him X-rated pix and bringing myself to orgasm on cam in some of Yahoo's chatrooms. At least I felt like I was sharing something sexually with someone. It was so lonely to just masturbate solo all the time. I knew he'd be horrified to find out I'd be doing that, though, so I stopped this past year. I even stopped taking the pix the last month or so since he can't see them anyway.

It helps if you at least have platonic friends and relatives from whom you can get some hugs...some type of tactile contact.

Hopefully you won't have that much more time to wait until you're in his arms again.

Well, I will chime in from a male perspective and having been in a long distance relationship that lasted for over two years...yes it is normal, and yes it is hard. Everytime I drove her to the airport I missed her, and everytime I was aroused, I yearned for her...and she for me...if you can share a part of each other (whether it be cyber, phone sex, cam sex, erotic stories or letters, ect), it does help a little since there is that emotional connection which helps to connect your actions to your loved one.

Iggy's Girl~ I can remember when Mr Lilith was in the millitary and away, and I can remember feeling exactly as you describe. Just needing contact, touch, attention. It was not as much a desire for sex for me as it was a need to be in the security and love that his embrace meant/means. Hang on....not too much longer!

Iggsygirl - I was single for almost a year and that same year loads of really horrendous things happened in my life: my mother split up with her husband, was on antidepressants, but was still almost hysterical most of the time, my sister was made redundant, I changed jobs, you name it it happened to me.

My mother was in such a state that she could think of no-one but herself and I just soooo needed the body to body contact I had had with my fiance I'd just split from. I found myself going weeks without touching a single soul and as Fussy will tell you I'm a very affectionate person. I found it really hard.

Even if you're not especially touchy feely with your family/ friends, make an effort to be a little more physical with them. It helps. Just a hug from another girl can be a life saver.

For me, a combination of Pixies (thanks you guys) and masturbation got me through it but I was so starved of physical contact I was masturbating about 5 or 6 times a day, striving desperately to find the comfort I was looking for, but unfortunately it can't be found in an orgasm.

I know this isn't really any help, but the reason I've said it is so that you know that there are people out there who know how you feel and would be giving you a big hug if they could.

(((((((Iggysgirl)))))))