Our First Time Ends Up In Disapointment

[sean83]

Please can you help me please.

Myself and my girlfriend have been datin for 6 months now and we have finally talked a bit bout sex and we have decided to try it.

We have attempted to have sex 5 times now and they always end up failures.

We do all the foreplay and i finger her and she does stuff to me but when it comes to the sex part we just cant seem to get the penis inside her.

We have tried it different ways and we have both thried guiding it in but it wont seem to go inbetween her lips.

We are gettin to the stage of givin up cause we dont know what is wrong.

Please can u help us she is gettin very upset bout all this and i feel its my fault. :(

[ROCKHARD]

Are you getting a full erection before trying to enter her? If not its like trying to put a worm back into its hole. Just wont work! If you are than just take your time and make sure shes wet enough. Theres lots of things you can use to "lube" it up and its nothing to be embarassed about. If you love each other dont give up because you will look back on this time a laugh about it.

[Nubian]

As Rockhard says, don't give up! Assuming that lubrication is not the problem, what positions have you tried for penetration? I would suggest having her sit on top while guiding you in. That way she'll be able to guide it in while having the most control. Also, relax (I know it's difficult :p ) and take your time. It will be worth it in the end.

[Oldfart]

The other question not asked is where are you trying?

The back seat of a car or hidden in a broom cupboard is not

going to get you a comfortable and thus satisfactory act.

A good bed, no fear of disturbance, lots of lubrication

and all the time in the world to work out what you both like

should work a treat.

Don't forget your condom.

[Lilith]

ARE YOU USING A CONDOM? While the answer to this better be yes, it can make things a little more difficult for her the first time. I speak from experience in this realm...... You must wear a condom and you should absolutely use a safe for condoms lubricant. I would advise against any position other than missionary to begin, as others like girl on top or doggie cause deeper penetration (later :p ). I would suggest you spend the next few times you are together trying to NOT have sex. Just play and get each other worked up. Explore each other completely but try not to have sex. Do not plan to try. If you are BOTH really hot and bothered one time then try. Be a boy scout... always prepared (condoms and lube). Just let things flow, she wil be able to relax more. I would also advise that when you do get ready to penetrate you be like our friend ROCKHARD!!! and as in the Nike commercial ,"Just do it". Going slow will not help. Do not kill her or split her in two but try to enter with a forceful thrust. Then just stay put do not move a lot let her adjust to the feeling. Let her be the one to move maybe. You seem to be caring and patient, so I am sure in the end you will reassure her that she is wonderful and precious to you even if you never have sex. If she feels insecure (and we all do sometimes) it may be a less than positive experience for her and so the idea is to make her feel wanted but not pressured. I hope I helped some... Having been in your girl's shoes :) Tootles~~~~~~~>Lilith

[Nubian]

Be sure to let us know the turn of events.:D :D ~selfish mode off~

[Irish]

I'd like to help you but the first time that I had sex;the horse moved and jolted the horse and carriage!Memory is one of the
first things to go and I can't remember that far back.GOOD LUCK!!
Irish
P.S.I know that it is very important but I can't help you except to
tell you to relax.Maybe you're trying to hard.(pun not-intended)

[sean83]

sorry ive not replied but ive been busy with stuff lol talkin this over with the girlfriend.


Well any way answers to your questions.


Position - Missionary (nuffin to fancy for the first time plus she wants to see my face when we do it for our first time)

i think her problem is she's not gettin relaxed enough cause she keeps on thinkin her lil sister is gonna come into the house and stop us.

well i think lube might be an issue i dont think shes gettin wet enough so i suggested to her that we buy KY jelly and give that a go.

Also i was thinkin bout fingerin her to open her up then in a few weeks or months have sex again.

Or buy her a vibrator to keep herself entertained when im not there so she can enjoy herself and open herself up.

Well i'll keep u posted on the events that happen and if anyone has any advice i would like to hear it cause she reads this as well and she thinks that the advice has been great

But i'm patient enough to give her all the time she needs if it takes a while im not carin its the fun of doin this to give her as much pleasure as i can.

So next time i think were tryin a different way is sunday so ill let u know what happens

:) :)

[Nubian]

Originally posted by sean83
i'm patient enough to give her all the time she needs if it takes a while im not carin its the fun of doin this to give her as much pleasure as i can.
:) :)

This is the right attitude to have. Now I'm even surer of your success. If possible, change the venue to remove any anxiety on her part and slooowly enjoy each other. Good Luck!!:)

[Oldfart]

Agree with Nubian.

It will happen and take her away from distractions and worries and watch out!!

Irish,

What were you doing to the horse?

OF

[scotzoidman]

Originally posted by Oldfart


Irish,

What were you doing to the horse?

OF Maybe the champaign wasn't Korbell?

(sorry if the tv ad doesn't run in your part of the world, hope someone gets it)

[Irish]

O.F.---Only the horse and I know.He;probably;moved bcause he
was in the throes of passion.I tell him to"Giddyup"and he tells me
to"Whoa."Where did I put that whip? Irish

[Irish]

Scotz---Yes;that TV ad is on here!About 5 times a day.Subway,
Subaru,Staples,Hyundai,Chevy,etc.are all on at least 5 times a
day.Everytime that I see a new ad;that I like;They play it over
so many times that I get sick of them.During NASCAR&NFL are prime examples. Irish

[scotzoidman]

Yeh, I figured you'd get it, I was referring to our oversees friends... kinda like how my OSHA joke bombed out on the non-US members :o

[rockman]

why not try with her on top, if your hard and her legs part i can not see how there will be aproblem

[Oldfart]

If he's hard and her legs open he may succeed, but if she's

not lubricating well they may both wish he hadn't.

Rockman, finesse.