An interesting find...

[Jeava]

Hiya all!

Just made a little dicovery after return home sex (been out of town for a bit over a week:) Well this may not be new to some of you (well, ok most of you then...) but I just found out that she LOVES it when I put presure on her pubic bone! I found a nice little spot on her just above the Clitorious (sp) and under the top of her vagina lips. if you put a finger around there, you mayy be able to feel her pubic bone at the lower part just at the tip. I placed my forfinger on that, pressed while eating her out, and with one finger inside her, she LOVED it! I almost made her cumm! hehe (she can't peak :( she'll get just at the point and then her bladder goes nuts..btw, any advice from you ladies would be appreciated on this. I've been tring to get her to a full blown orgasm snce we meet (5 years) and in all that time, she hasn't gotten all the way into one yet :(

Anyway, if you already knew this, it's great and if you didn't, it's even better!

Cya

[Sweet Chastity]

Please draw us a picture! I can't figure out where you are talking about but I'd like to find it!

Orgasms are a tough subject since we women are all built differently. Do you mean that she has never had an orgasm or that you haven't made her orgasm? Can she have an orgasm during masturbation?

Sometimes when I'm with a new lover I find it hard to relax enough to have an orgasm. I'm kind of tense at first. You've been together a while but some people are brought up with the whole sex is dirty, evil and a sin thing from when they are kids. Is she comfortable with her sexuality? (I don't want to sound like a shrink or anything but I'm wondering if she's feeling tense)

I am no expert, though I was a nurse, but first if she can have an orgasm through masturbation I'd sit down and watch her do it (if she's comfortable). Watch her technique and where she's touching herself and spending the most time on. I have a very small area on my clit that is very sensitive and when I masturbate that one spot has to be massaged continuously to get me to orgasm. If a guy is trying to get me to orgasm, he has to hit the same spot.

And build up some stamina. If a guy is using a certain technique on me and I'm building up to an orgasm if he suddenly changes to another technique I sort of fall off my orgasm (it's kinda hard to describe but climbing to the peak of a mountain sounds about right). Like if a guy is stroking me with his tongue and working me up to an orgasm and then suddenly starts sucking my clit, it sets back my orgasm (wierd I know, maybe I'm the only woman who experiences that). It all feels great, but when I'm heading into home plate there is no time to stop and dust your shoes on the way.

I haven't had an orgasm through intercourse yet, but I am willing to take all the time and effort to see if I can :), but I think it has to do with the g-spot and making sure your hitting it during intercourse. I have to say only one guy found the g-spot on me and it was such an incredible feeling that it didn't matter if I had an orgasm! Course he was using his finger, he just put his middle finger in as far as he could and bent it towards my tummy (oh dear god where is that man now?). I am definitely training my next lover to find that spot!

There is another post down further where I asked about orgasms and one regarding female ejaculation. Try looking those two up for some more information on the elusive female orgasm (shhhh, be vewy, vewwyy quiet, we're hunting the big O!).

Good luck and hope some of the other more experienced posters have some more advice for you, cuz I want to hear it too!

Sweet Chastity

[luv2please]

Jeava,
The clitoris is covered by a hood. Have you tried lifting it to get to the clitoris itself? If not, use a finger or two to pull the hood back toward the top of the vagina. Then with either your tongue or the fingers on the other hand GENTLY rub or lick the clitoris. (The clitoris itself looks like a little button and may be whiter in color than the pinkish hood) BTW some women are too sensitive to have this done so be careful and very gentile to find out if she likes this. My wife goes absolutly crazy when I do this and will come fast and furious. Chastity, I use the technique you describe - changing motions etc.as a tease to keep my wife from from comming too fast! I do this especially when I am licking or rubbing without the hood. I love to PLEASE and TEASE! We are sill experimenting with the G-spot thing but I think her clitoral orgasims are so strong that anything after that is anti-climactic.LOL But Chastity, if YOU need any assistance with the G-spot thing I would be happy to make the sacrifice and I hereby volunteer to help you. ;)