So i need to know how to give a good blow job

[helenearth]

my boyfriend recently told me I'm no good at giving at blow jobs so here I am asking for your advice - do with me as you will!

[TDK]

well to answer ur question, ask him how he would like his blowjob be given??

ask him what he likes and whats what he doesnt like...im sure u would give him a good BJ ;)

[Sharni]

I agree with TDK....ask your b/f what he likes and what he doesn't...

As for me i like to take my time...an hour or more if i can...
I just love using my tongue to constantly swirl over the entire cock...even when i take the cock in my mouth my tongue is roaming around...teasing and tormenting. I also enjoy the feel of balls in my mouth...gently moving them around with my tongue...

A love to make a man squirm and moan...i enjoy bringing him to the brink many times...but not letting him cum...

Sharniqua(who's off to find Bilbo after writing that);):D:D:D

[Prophet Reality]

Me next... me next... me next....... Damn Sharni that sounds like fun to me...

[scotzoidman]

All good advice above... you also can listen to his body talk, what makes him moan, that means do that some more :p Use your hands with the mouth and tongue action, a good bj is also in part a good handjob. Also, remember that oral sex is a learned skill (for both sides of the fence... took some time for me to be a good pussy licker:) ) Practice makes perfect... head, that is!:D

[helenearth]

Cheers for your advice! I think I'll go ask him right now........!

[swavedave]

Keep the lines of cummmmunication open.
He needs to express himself better and should be encouraging you rather than just saying"You give lousy head"
If he isnt very verbal I suggest reading LoveDivas or Sharniquas threads on how they do it......They both offer wonderful tips

If you love doing it, you partner can tell...
( an hour or more? Sharniqua and Diva? Damnnnnnn........)

Have fun and remember.....nothing beats
PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE

Peace out

[netguy]

a neat thing my g/f tried one time was this:
she lied between my legs (with me on my back) and then reached her arm up to my mouth... i was supposed to take her finger in my mouth and do to it what i wanted her to do to my dick... it was really cool, but i couldn't concentrate for very long on her finger........

this might be a neat way for your b/f to give you some pointers about what he wants...

[bigbob40]

It seems to me like if he doesn't tell what works for him, theres no way you'll know what to do. It just like a guy trying to please his girl without you telling us what to do. Usually were clueless until we find out what works. So my advice is to ask him what works for him. I personally can't imagine saying" you're not good at giving head".

good luck,
bigbob40

[sweetstuff]

I agree with the advice I have read.... my guy likes me to tell him what I am doing as I do it, make sure and add some deep satisfying sounds so he knows you are enjoying yourself, tell him how nice it is.... the vibration from your throat might feel good to him also. Go slow, take your time, when he starts to set a rhythm, match it. Enjoy him like he is a big candy bar, and you need your sweet fix!

[hotgirl4u2nite]

this technique has not failed me yet:

First you start with an Altoids mint in your mouth. Start at the tip. Slowly lick your way around it, giving extra attention to the slit. As you swirl your tongue around him slowly work your way down the shaft. Once you've worked your way all the way down, and you have it all in your mouth, exhale deeply as you slide your mouth back up his shaft. The coolness of your breath and the tingle of the mint will drive him wild. Also it helps if you gently massage the area directly behind his balls with your first two fingers. He'll blow such a load you won't be able to swallow fast enough. Hope it helps.........

[don73153]

Helenearth,

ALL the replies are good, and add this. While you have him in your mouth, look into his eyes, know that you are enjoying giving him pleasure and the sparkle in your eyes will tell him something. Also, the hands roaming all over his stomach and legs, massaging, feeling, pressure on his anus, cupping and gently massaging his balls, all definitely do a number on me. Maybe it's just me, but when a woman gives me head, the more she acts like a wanton slut, the better. Whew! Now I gotta find a place to put this!! LOL

Don

[sugarfreecandy]

Hi, Helenearth ---

I definitely agree with everything that's been posted here, there's been lots of good advice offered! But I thought I'd offer my two cents' worth --- this approach always seems to get rave reviews from my b/f.

Basically, the key is to let the tension really build, as others have said. My method of choice for doing that is to approah him really slowly --- you know he's wanting to feel his cock in your mouth, but don't let that happen right away! Tease him a little! Also, don't forget that he has nerve endings all over his body, not just in his cock --- stimulate those other places too. The entire body is a sex organ, in my opinion!

I like to start with some nice deep, passionate kissing, caressing his body all the while, but definitely steering clear of his cock: slide your hand over his torso and stomach, run it over his hips and his butt, and over his thighs, coming close but never quite touching that sensitive area.

Then I'll move down a little, kissing his ears and his neck, and trailing my tongue down his body. I spiral in towards his nipples, teasing them briefly but then giving them a nice firm suckling, then swirl down his belly... Then stop!

Next I move down between his legs, and starting at about knee height, run little wet kisses up the inside of his thighs. Finally, my mouth encounters his balls, which I take very gently into my mouth, rolling them softly around with my tongue.

At this point, I like to tease him a little with my hair --- my hair isn't really all that long, only about shoulder length, but that's long enough for him to enjoy. I move my head in circles above his cock, trailing a strand around him that slides smoothly at first, then catches on itself and ends up twisting around him a few times. I pull my head away gently, letting him feel the gentle tugs and the silkiness of the hair sliding off him.

After a few repetitions of that, I move back to his balls, and then slowly lick in spirals up his cock, trying to maintain constant contact. As I approach the head, I pull away one more time, and blow lightly across the wet skin I find there. Then I lower my head, mouth wide open, so that I'm surrounding his sensitive tip but not touching it --- now he's feeling my hot, moist breath surrounding him, and he can see my mouth around him, and he tells me this drives him especially wild.

Finally, I close my lips around him solidly, and begin to pump up and down. I have one hand forming a ring around the base of his cock, tight but not too tight, and it pumps up and down in rhythm with my mouth, extending the sensation. Meanwhile, my tongue flicks at his slit every time I lift my head, then caresses the ring around his head every time I descend. He usually puts a hand on my head by this time, guiding me as to the exact rhythm he wants. Every so often, as I can feel him really building, I pull back and repeat the blowing and licking performance, because the change gives him a moment to recover control. Keep going as long as you can, switching back and forth and adding other minor variations, and then you'll feel that familiar tightening in his balls one more time, and watch out! Get ready to swallow! ;)

Phew, now I think I need to go find my man and give him some of that treatment, it's got me all hot and bothered just describing it! :o Sorry this got so long, folks, it looks like I got a little carried away! :D Hope this helps, Helenearth!

--- sweetstuff

[Lovediva]

Hot Damn....and I thought my description of a blow job , in a past thread was good!:D :D ;)




You go girl! ;)

[luv2please]

Helenearth,
I have the answer in two words. DUMP HIM! Sorry but anyone tells you that you are "not good at giving blowjobs" dosen't know how to communicate properly when it comes to mutual sexual satisfaction. It is good to come here for advise but this guy, just by the choice of words he used, sounds just a little self centered. Just my 2 cents. Good luck!;)

[Irish]

helenearth---I agree with luv2please.My wife didn't seem like she
enjoyed doing it;but;at least she tried;because she knew that I
enjoyed it.He sounds like he is ;very;self centered and doesn't
give a damn about you.My advice--Dump Him.There is no such thing as a "bad"BJ.Some are just better than others! Irish
P.S.I'm sure that there are others that would enjoy your exper-
imentation!

[Scooter]

I have to disagree with hotgirl4u2nite about the Altoids. My ex did that and it burned like hell. For me a good blow job is when I'm able to stimulate her with my hands to that we both recieve pleasure and the more I give to her the more I get.

[ROCKHARD]

experts!!!!Would love to have my wife do any of that but she just doesnt get into it that often. Shes good at it but does it few and far between!

[PantyFanatic]

Originally posted by LoveDiva4u
....and I thought my description of a blow job , in a past thread was good!:D :D ;)



..BUT, ……..because I really want all our lady to rest PIECEFULLY,:) ……….I……..will volunteer to help resolve this dilemma.;) Purely for the sake of clarification, I think SweetStuff, Diva and I should get together and work this OUT.:rolleyes: I will try HARD to think of how we will do this by then.:D Leave it all to me.:p :D

[scotzoidman]

I can see it now... PF saying, "Hmmmm, I can't tell... do it again, I have to be sure...":rolleyes:

[PantyFanatic]

..shhhhhhhhhhhhh!

[Lovediva]

I heard that ...... LMAO.. :D :D ;)

[scotzoidman]

PF, I cannot allow you to take advantage of these fair ladies in such a fashion, unless of course you invite me along to help in this decision ;) :rolleyes:

[PantyFanatic]

I’ll call you as soon as we’re done.:p :D :p

Just push my eyes back into my head, pull the sheet out of the crack of my ass and roll me out the door!:p ;)

Thanks friend.:rolleyes:

[Sweet Chastity]

Well hellenearth I have to say, my first impressions when your b/f said you don't give good head was that he was being rude and self-centered. That's a horrible thing to say! Now if he said using your teeth hurt, that's different. But it's your decision to keep him or not. I wonder how he'd take it if you told him he didn't know how to muff dive?

But I'd like to add to the techniques so thoughtfully shared by other posters here. I like to start slow and build up the pace. Like sugarfreecandy, I start with some kissing (definitely French-kissing with lots of tongue to get me excited!) and working on his ears and neck moving down to his groin. Then I move to the inner thighs and kiss and nibble and breath across his balls and cock.

Then I start licking and gently sucking his balls (I like him to be at the edge of the bed or sofa so he can rest on his elbows and watch me). Then I lick just below his balls almost to his anus (never tried licking there yet) and back up and over his balls and do this back and forth for a bit. Then I slowly start licking up his shaft to his head, gently flick his head with my tongue so it barely touches, then back down again. When I'm ready to take his cock in my mouth I prolong it a little further. I work my way up to his head, licking his open slit and gently roll his head in my mouth, then back to his shaft again. Each time I take his head farther and keep it in my mouth just a little longer than the time before. Then I start to work his cock in and out of my mouth while I alternate massaging his balls and stroking his cock. I work slowly at first and when I want to make him cum I start going faster and faster making lots of slurping noises. And of course I usually swallow his load.

Now I'd like to try the Altoids, gently of course perhaps starting off with softer breath mints or something. I also would like to try humming, I hear it feels good (any guys/gals want to comment?).

Also, if I remember correctly and please forgive me if I don't, I think LoveDiva4u said if I swallow I can overcome that gag reflex and deep throat cock (but I need to go back and look that post up again, it was in the general talk area).

Sweet Chastity

[QTPie]

Yeah, what they said!! ;)

And as for the altoids suggestion... we've used altoids, all flavors... cinnamon is veryyyyyyy warm and my guy LOVED it. All guys are a different about hot/cool sensations on their cocks. An ex loved the feel of me giving head while sucking on a blue ice cough drop. Hubby hated it!! He made me stop and ran to the shower!! It's all about trying new things and going with it if it works, and if it doesn't... chalk it up as a lesson learned and don't take it personally! ;)

One question I would ask you is -- do you ENJOY giving head? Because men can sense that too if a woman appears to not like it. A friend told me once that his wife acts like she is afraid to put it in her mouth! Correct me if I'm wrong guys, but I think a man wants to feel like there is nothing you love more than sucking his manhood. He wants you to tell him how much you love it and show him!!! Good Luck!

[Mae13]

All these things are such great suggestions Helenearth! I think Soooo much of it has to do with attitude...it plays so much into that "wanton" image Don mentioned!

When I go down on a guy, I don't only concentrate on *him*, I concentrate on the power that position gives ME! Think about how much he wants this, how helpless he is when your lips are wrapped around his cock, how the world revolves around YOU when you are sucking his soul from his body...it's kind of a power trip yes, but it feeds into everything, and makes it a more amazing experience for you both! I can climax while giving oral sex without even touching myself, I love it that much! :D

But, while we're on the subject...touching yourself while giving him head can be a mighty good show! If he's lying down with a pillow propping his head up, you can kneel at his side so he can see your fingers play as you pleasure him...and the happy noises you make around him will add to his feelings too!

Eye contact is good too. You hear over and over again how much men love being able to look down at a girl on her knees and lock eyes as she takes him into her mouth. I personally love to watch the ecstasy show on his face when I'm making him feel good. It's especially erotic to see the expression on his face as he cums for you! Most guys are verbally excited as well...as you're licking him, tell him how good he tastes, how much you love sucking him, etc. If he is into dirty talk (and you are into talking dirty, hehe!) tell him how much you love being his slutty little cocksucker, how much you want to taste his cum, etc...get as graphic as you are comfortable with!

I definitely chip in for the tease factor! Know his signals for right before he cums...then stop....tease a little...perhaps move away from his cock for a bit, lavish your tongue on his inner thighs, down his legs...suck on his fingers a bit, or go up and taste his lips, nibble at his ears, his neck, etc... Then go back down, bring him to that edge again and again and again. He may seem frustrated at first, but he'll thank you in the end! lol.

And, if you are into being a dirty girl...?! If you aren't too squeamish, pressure to the prostate during a blowjob (or any sexual action, for that matter!) via the rectum seems to be something most fellows enjoy, if they can get past the whole "anal homoerotic" seemingness of it all...

If you or he are not into that intrusive of stimulation, you can get a pretty similar reaction with pressure to the perineal area (between his balls and anus). Seems the best time to do that is when they are close to cumming, especially once they hit that 'point of no return'.

As others have mentioned, it seems that ballplay is a favourite too...licking/sucking/nibbling/scratching with fingernails...up to them (and you) on how hard to do all those of course, but all is fair in sex and war...wait, I got that wrong...ah well

OK, I'll shut up now, I'm gettin' myself all worked up here, hehe!
Happy sucking!!

*hugs*
Mae

[Glyndwr]

You're getting worked up!!!!

Bloody hell Mae you want to see what you've just done to me ;)

[aaron697]

*grabbing myself and running down the hall*


Gadzooks Woman!

A

[don73153]

OoooooooooooooH!!! Hell YESssssssssss

Mae, I'd love for you to be MY slutty little cocksucker! Sounds like a technique I'd definitely like to try first hand! ;)

Don

[hotstuff]

i've been together with my guy for about a year and we just started to have sex... both of us were virgins then and i'm very inexperienced.. need some advice on blowjobs here...
I hate giving him blowjobs because i had the taste of cum... (i've try giving him blowjobs a few times.. just to try to satisfy him because he seems to be yearning for it.) Before i even start to suck him off.. there's always precum.. and i hate it.. but i really wan to give him a good blowjob.. he also mentioned before that my teeth touches his dick when i gave him a blowjob the other time... and he doesnt like it.. he feels painful.
How do i make sure i enjoy giving him blowjobs with him enjoying it too? :(

[Lilith]

Breath mints, Altoids, and even cough drops are good ways to cover the taste if you have an aversion to it. You can blow him with them in your mouth or eat them just before. If you are nervous about giving him one because of your inexperience, and you don't care for the taste this is probably not the most enjoyable task for you then. I would suggest you take it slower and just get familiar with his cock and having it in your mouth.... You can lick , nibble, and suck on it to just add to the foreplay with out giving him a full out blow job til you get more accustommed to doing it. Try to relax.....as far as the teeth... slowing down should help you be able to keep his cock from your teeth. Good luck......there is really no such thing as a "bad" blowjob:D:D:p

[Nikki]

Helenearth..........you don't need a boyfriend like that........get rid of him!!!!!!!!!!

[Ironwood]

While I would never advise someone to end a relationship (unless it was abusive), I do agree the boyfriend needs a lesson in manners. Like Irish said, there is no wrong way to do it. What doesn't work for that person, might be perfect for someone else. If he'd rather complain than help, then he doesn't deserve it.

[popper70]

i think most think i enjoy are already told.
but one thing i really like a lot is getting licked at the underside of the head, there where the foreskin is fixed.
another thing i like while reciving a bj is getting my ass massaged or even played and penetrated my anus...
:D

hey i know a good web site about how to give head, but sadly for some its in german... but with nice teaching pix

http://www.geocities.com/producer_usus/azb.html


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