Need help on a girl

[Mark Vieth]

Hey all. Let me give you the jizz. I met this girl over the net about a month ago and we get's chatting via msn. As she lives about half an hour from me, she came down and met me. We went out and had a great night. Later when we came back to my place one thing led to the next and I was naked on top of her. I'm not the sort of guy just to jump into bed with any girl, I actually liked this one and asked her to be my g/f. She said yes. Well we have seen each other a few times after and here's the kicker, she tells me she doesn't know now if she want's to be my g/f anymore. WTF is that suppose to mean? I was always under the assumtion that if two people like each other then the rest is negotiable. So any advice would be most welcome.

[LixyChick]

Hi Mark...and Welcum to Pixies!

There's quite a gap in your story and so I don't feel I could give you my best advice when I don't know some things. Age, marital status, children...etc. on your g/f's part would be helpful. I see your age and status from your profile...but have no idea about her.

Also, tell us about some of the "dates" you have had between the time you initially met and her seeming "turn-off" would help as well.

I'm sure everyone who reads this will agree...more info would help us in our replies!

TY hun!

[Mark Vieth]

Ok her name is Amy is 21 and she works as a security guard/crowd controler. She has a nice bod, great personality. she has no kids and isn't engaged or otherwise. As she works odd hour's, the times that she has come down has been because she hadn't seen me for a week at least. Of course the burning desire to fuck her again was there, and we enjoyed that together. But that's not the point.

Now just to take a step back to help you all, the first time I met her was xmas eve. She came down and stayed the night. Of course that is when one thing led to the next. I really made the effort to make sure it was damn good. I can't remember what time we started or when we finished. She even lost count how many times she came.

Anyhoo, the following morning I had a girl ring me that I had no interest in. I had fucked her as a mercy fuck coz she was still a virgin and she just wanted it. Anyway here name was Krystal. Now I told Amy that "'ll take care of this" which I did, by telling Krystal "not to ring me anymore and I only fucked her so she would no longer be a virgin". I know it sounds harsh but sometimes one has to be cruel to be kind.

Well Amy went up to Sydney and told her best friend what was going on. Coz I felt the urge to be honest and tell Amy that everything was taken care of as far as any other girl was concerned. Well her friend Tash tells Amy that I'm up to no good. Now of course this wasn't true. Amy got back from Sydney and again Krystal came up once again. I told her "I don't even know why we keep talking about this, I dealt with it and that is the end of it." Then she tells me that she has got too much going on and needs time to think. She tells me that I am a great guy and she really likes me alot. She says she's not sure and needs some time to think. Now that was 2 weeks ago. I rang her the other day and she was at work and didn't have time to chat. I said that was cool and I'll ring her later. She said that was fine. Well I ring her later and no answer. Then I ring today as well numerous times and still no answer. I even sent her an email asking what the fuck was going on. No reply from that either. I just hate being dicked around like this. I don't get why girls just can't be straight up with guys. As I said in my first post, if we like each other then the rest is negotiable.

By the way I have also left my first story and would love some feedback on it.

[cowgirltease]

If she wants you she knows your number. Back off or you'll never get a chance.
If she doesn't call darlin it's over and go on with your life. There's always more fish in the sea.

[Loulabelle]

Chances are she's been a little bit turned off by the fact that you treated this other girl so callously. Seems odd since in your first post you said you weren't the type just to sleep with any girl. Looks to me like that's exactly what you did.

Hell, if any guy I dated referred to some previous conquest as a 'mercy fuck' I'd be long gone! I know you care for, and respect Amy, but showing a general lack of respect for women in general is a huge turn off for most women.

By the way, I hope you've learnt your lesson about not taking sex lightly. Particularly when it comes to girls who are virgins. I really do hope it works out for you and Amy, but if not, please learn that light hearted decisions to have sex with people lead to heart ache from all parties.....so far looks like no-one has come out of this feeling good, since you, Krystal and Amy are probably all pretty miserable right now.

All this could have been different if you'd been a bit more sensitive in your decision making and in your treatment of the subsequent situation. I really hope no guy I've ever slept with has thought of me as a problem that needs 'taking care of' as you put it.

I know this seems harsh and I truly don't mean to be rude or to 'tell you off' it's just that I can't quite believe that you're surprised that you're in this situation considering how you behaved towards both of these women. Remember, actions ALWAYS have consequences.

[Mark Vieth]

Ok just to clear one thing up, I only told Amy that I was taking care of it. I didn't tell her what I said to Krystal. What's more is Krystal has found somebody else.
A little background on Krystal here, she was so desperate for a fuck and kept asking me what I was thinking about every 5 seconds. That turned me off her big time. Also I realised that she only wanted one thing from me and so she got what she wanted and wondered why I gave her the cold shoulder. I did warn her not to be immature about it, but she kept going. Amy is a bit more reserved than that, that is why when we got together that night, there was no pressure from either one of us, it just flowed.

That is what makes it hard for me to understand. We had a really great night. I know that some guys like to brag about their conquest's. But this wasn't like that. This was one of those rare moments that you actually treasure. So that is why I am finding it difficult to understand her motives. What's more was I started to get some strong feelings towards her. I think also she was feeling the same and it scared her. She also told me that night that, she had been raped when she was younger by possibly a family friend. So she finds it difficult to get close to someone and that is what I think scares her.

[GingerV]

My sister just got hold of a book that's apparently all the rage in the states, and which I hadn't encountered on my side of the pond. It's basically called something like "He's just not that into you." According to her, it's a book that encourages women to quit trying to puzzle out the deeper meaning of someone's actions and get to grips with the fact that if they're not responding the way you'd hoped...they may just not be all that into you, so it's time to move on with you life and find someone who is.

I have NO idea what to tell you about the whole Krystal thing, or whether that's even relevant to the Amy situation. I'm not Amy, and I have no idea what goes on in her head. But it's all sounding like she may just not want to persue a relationship with you for whatever reason. WHY that might be true, I dunno. You're probably never really gonna know. All you DO know is that this doesn't appear to be working out, and luckily you found that out pretty early on in the relationship.

The way I see it, unless there's a truely manipulative person in the mix, both sexes really do try to play it straight with each other. But sometimes we don't want to hear what they're trying to tell us. In this case, the message might be as simple as "you seem like a nice guy, but I don't want more with you." Ironically, it sounds a lot like what you said to Krystal. Funny that.

In all cases, welcome to Pixies!! There should be plenty of salve for your spirit here.

G

[Aqua]

First off, Welcome to Pixies Mark!

Next, as far as the problem you are having with Amy, I think Ginger has it right on. You may not get a explanation that is satisfactory to you, but it sounds like she is just not into you. Maybe she was and she has changed her mind. In my personal experience if a woman is into you, she will do just about anything to make the time to see/speak/be with you.

I dated a woman many years ago that seemed sooooo into me and I was falling for her bad. We were hot and heavy for a month and she told me several times how she liked me so much, etc. Then, just like that, she is too busy to see me. Made no sense to me at all, but that's how it was. She ended up engaged to someone else about a month later.

For whatever reason, it turns out she wasn't into me. What that reason is does not matter. It won't change anything. Like Lou said, the best thing you can do is back off and see if she calls.

[Lilith]

"mercy fuck" a virgin??? oh that's precious...:rolleyes2 She doesn't like you...it's really that simple. You move on. Sex does not a relationship make.

[Mark Vieth]

Did you read all of them in order?

[Galatea]

I dated a woman many years ago that seemed sooooo into me and I was falling for her bad. We were hot and heavy for a month and she told me several times how she liked me so much, etc. Then, just like that, she is too busy to see me. Made no sense to me at all, but that's how it was. She ended up engaged to someone else about a month later.


Sounds like what happened to you Mark.

I know it sounds harsh but sometimes one has to be cruel to be kind.

Well, in that case: I'm almost positive you're a victim of a fuck and run. It was good for a while but somebody came along that tickled her tush more than you. Just like you did with Krystal.....hmm?

[Lilith]

Did you read all of them in order?
your posts? every last one you've made.

[Mark Vieth]

Yeah sorry. I should have made that clear. Well I'll see what eventuates from this anyway. Oh and did you get a chance to view my story? It's on one of the posts.

[Lilith]

You made it crystal clear...you had sex with a virgin and called it a "mercy fuck". Speaks volumes...no I have not read your story.

[Mark Vieth]

That's a tad harsh Galatea. Ok first of all I don't think that Amy would have done something like this, but then again it could be true. I'll just sit on the fence and see what happens with this.

[Mark Vieth]

Lilith, No I meant about "did you read all of them?" Well if you have a sec, can you take the time to read my story and tell me what you thought of it.

[Cheyanne]

Now you know what Krystal was feeling...sucks doesn't it?

What I found priceless is the fact that you threw Krystal out like old bathwater and don't understand why someone does the same to you.... paybacks a bitch isn't it?

[cherrypie7788]

I rang her the other day and she was at work and didn't have time to chat. I said that was cool and I'll ring her later. She said that was fine. Well I ring her later and no answer. Then I ring today as well numerous times and still no answer. I even sent her an email asking what the fuck was going on. No reply from that either. I just hate being dicked around like this. I don't get why girls just can't be straight up with guys. As I said in my first post, if we like each other then the rest is negotiable.

It's a nice way of telling you to fuck off, to be blunt.

I agree with Cheyanne's post...and hopefully you learned something from this experience.

[fzzy]

I don't have anything to add about your question re: Amy, but about your story .... you've already posted it in the Erotic Story section and asked for comments .... that's where it will be viewed by others who want to read erotic stories and we have a forum section for any comments that people want to make ... they are not able to make them directly to your story (used to be able to but haven't had that option for quite a long time now), so when someone feels the need to comment, they will either create a new thread about your story or add to one if there is one already existing.

However, just so you know, the number of comments is usually VERY low - even when the number of views to the story is high. We love having new stories posted, but if you post the stories thinking you're going to get a lot of feedback, you're going to be dissappointed. If you post the story because you love to write and enjoy the opportunity to share your fantasies/experiences, then it is a wonderful place to tell stories and the occasional bit of feedback comes as a very nice bonus. Welcome to Pixies!

[BIBI]

Well here goes...

Mark,

You sound like a crass young man. If the way you describe having sex as a "mercy fuck" is any indication of how you come across to the female persuasion then you will probably not find anyone to have any type of long term meaningful relationship with.

It's really not too hard to figure out that if someone doesn't return calls on a continuous basis, they probably don't want to talk to you. She apparently doesn't like you as much as you have led yourself to believe, so move on. You never know, you may have been her man of the moment and nothing more..... :devilish:

[darogle]

She don't like ya. Oh well. Such is life. Move on.

[Mark Vieth]

Ok let me just say thank you to all of you for your advice. As some of you may or may not agree I probably asked for it. As I am not one to sit on the past for very long I will move on and as they say "there are plenty of fish in the sea."

Well that brings a close to this argument, I also hope that anyone else who has been in a similar situation and takes the time to read this thread can learn from my mistake and also avoid a pot hole.

[Mark Vieth]

Ok one more thing I wanted to say. One of you, (which for the life of me, can't remember your name) said a very good piece of advice which just said it A1 perfectly. "She's just not that into you." was the line.

Well I can say to all of you that he/she was right. As I have tried to make contact with her she has severed all ties to me. She doesn't answer her Mobile when I ring and when she pops up on msn and I say hi she drops off. Now if that isn't a hint, I don't know what is!